Poll: "At-Home Mom?" "Stay-At-Home Mom?"

Housewife? Homemaker? Little Woman?

The magazine where I work is torn as to what term to use. In many of our articles, we have to refer to all of the interview subjects in some way, and the ones with outside careers are captioned, “personnel VP,” or “makeup artist,” or “chef,” or whatever.

But how do we refer to the women who stay at home and take care of the kids, w/o being insulting, coyly p.c. or condescending? What is the preferred phrase these days?

[Note: wise-ass answers are always welcome, of course, but this is an actual question which I have to bring up with my editors for the next issue!]

Thanks!

Stay at Home Mom.

A second vote for “stay-at-home mom”; it seems to be what most of them call themselves.

Hm. I agree with Shirley. “Housewife” just won’t fly anymore.

In the paper I work for, we can get by using “community member,” but we have a limited readership.

There really aren’t a lot of choices with this one, Eve.

I’d go for stay at home mom, too. I don’t think it’s condecending, it just describes the situation.

Stay-at-home mom. It’s basically value-neutral.

I don’t think SAHM is condescending but work-at-home-mom might work too.

Staying home with the kids is work, even if women don’t get a paycheck for it.

Domestic Engineer sounds a bit pretentious, so I’ll go with “Stay at home mom.”

Is it only moms who will be interviewed? There may well be a stay at home dad in the mix otherwise.

Tax-avoiding informal market non-arm’s-length service provider.

More acceptably: home producer.

Since I’ve been at home on and off for the last 13 years, I tend to put my profession as “Homemaker”. Could it be in the construction biz? Sure. But it’s not.

I like work-at-home-mom. Maybe a little over the top PC-wise, but I think it sounds respectful. Good one, SnoopyFan.

Thanks, all—I will print this out next week and present it to my editors.

I think “work-at-home mom” might imply a home business, like freelance editing or making tchotchkas . . . And “homemaker” would get us raked over the coals for sure.

I dunno about work from home mom. I work from home, on occasion, but for a big company. I could see that label being confusing considering that many people have home offices.

Domestic Goddess

Full-Time Mom (my friend uses this term to describe herself)

I was going to suggest full-time mom too, as I see a lot of women write that on applications at my job. But I’ve heard other women be offended by that as well, saying that it implies anyone who has a job outside of the house is only a part-time mom.

How about this one: Parent?

Can’t use “parent,” as that implies that mothers who work nine-to-five aren’t parents. Same reason, as Elret says, we can’t use “full-time mom,” as that would piss-off working mothers.

We can’t win for losin’ . . . All we can hope to do is offend as few people as possible.

The parenting website I work at uses stay-at-home mom and working mom.

I also prefer Full-time Mom. Not that being a working mom is really part time, to me, it just indicates that I choose to stay home without the thought of sitting on my ass eating chocolate all day.