From what I’ve been able to piece together, she and her boyfriend owned a house and a business together. When the relationship ended, these things had to be divied up. The parties could not agree on how things were to be divided, presumably because each one felt that he or she had made important contributions to the business / household which the other person was undervaluing. So the decision had to be made by a court, and stoid wasn’t happy with the outcome.
Hindsight is always clearer, but it seems to me that if you bring significant property into a romantic relationship, you should try to obtain a legally binding agreement as to what will happen to that property if the relationship goes bad.
If you care about the property that is. I have a buddy who went through a divorce; his attitude was “take whatever you want I don’t care.”
Eh, I disagree, and I’ve been the ignoree far more often than the ignorer in my time. Best to take the hint that, actually, he’s not going to bail out of his life with his wife and kids for the needy psycho bitch he had a meaningless shag with, and pestering him is not going to miraculously change his mind.
But sure, go ahead and imagine yourself inflicting abhorrent levels of violence on someone for the crime of not being as emotionally invested in you as you want them to be. :dubious:
There are no good parts. She and her SO jointly owned a business & a house and there was a messy breakup. After whatever went down between them he now hates her with the fire of 10,000 suns and refuses to cooperate with her in taking himself off the deed and also refuses to keep making any portion of the mortgage payments. She currently lives in the house and he does not. She/they owes more on the house than it’s worth so there is no equity, and the judge is not cooperating with her proposals to get him off the deed and keep the house. The mortgage is in arrears and the bank is pushing for the house to be sold. The logical thing to do is to step back from the mess, let the house go and move on, but she really, really wants to keep the house and refuses to do this. According to Stoid the SO’s lawyer is a huge liar and managed to bamboozle the confused and incompetent Judge into ruling against her, and now Stoid is trying o unwind this.