So, OP, you’ve got 39 replies now - are you going to tell us what prompted these questions? 
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Do you mind if your partner alternates between two appearances with relative frequency? (e.g going from goatee to clean shave, going from brunette to blonde, etc)
Nope. He’s a pretty, erm, constant guy, but he has been known to grow a beard. -
If yes: are you straight forward in voicing your opinion to your partner?
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How frequent do you argue with your partner about the way they dress/look?
Never. He’d certainly have way more ammunition (I have some truly ridiculous clothing). The only thing that comes close is him refusing to let me paint his nails or try make-up on him. Or when I plucked some stray hairs off his face. I’ve worn him down a little, though, and it was really more of a ‘That looks out of place’ act rather than me saying ‘You look ugly’ (though I did have to explain the difference to him, and how grooming = love). -
On a scale from 1 (not important) to 10 (very Important), how would you rate “looks” as an important aspect in your relationship?
- But I know I wouldn’t find him as good looking as I do if he were an asshole.
We’ve been shacking up for the past year and change, so it’s not like I have 20 years of experience to go on, but in any case, when I showed him this thread last night, I joked “they should have another question here for ‘does your partner notice when you make a change in your appearance?’”
1) Do you mind if your partner alternates between two appearances with relative frequency? (e.g going from goatee to clean shave, going from brunette to blonde, etc)
He doesn’t tend to make drastic changes; I’ve seen him both bearded and clean-shaven, and on occasion in need of a haircut. I like the way he looks with the beard better than clean-shaven, but it’s not like I think he looks repulsive when clean-shaven. When he needed a haircut because he was going on job interviews, I mentioned it to him, but that was about it.
2) If yes: are you straight forward in voicing your opinion to your partner?
See above; so far he hasn’t made any really drastic changes, but if he did, I’d probably tell him what I thought. I don’t imagine he’d ever do anything I thought was hideous, though. He’s not a dramatic guy in these matters.
3) How frequent do you argue with your partner about the way they dress/look?
Never. Occasionally I might mention that his shirt and pants don’t really match, or tell him I think it looks silly to tuck in a rumpled T-shirt, or affectionately straighten his collar, but that’s about it. I can’t remember a time when he said anything negative about my appearance (unless I felt sick or something, and even then it was just to express empathy). I don’t know whether he doesn’t really care about that stuff (a likely scenario), or whether he just thinks I look good no matter what I do (hey, a girl can dream), but it just doesn’t really come up. It certainly isn’t a topic of arguments. I think he thinks it’s kind of cute when I do things like straighten his collar.
**4) On a scale from 1 (not important) to 10 (very Important), how would you rate “looks” as an important aspect in your relationship? **
Oh, maybe a 5, just because let’s face it, most people aren’t going to get romantically involved with someone they find physically unattractive. But beyond that, the way he is is just so much more fundamentally important than the way he looks.
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I don’t mind at all.
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Sure, I tell him that I prefer his hair buzzed off and I like him with facial hair, but I always remind him that I’ll probably like him no matter what.
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Never.
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About a 2, I guess. I’ve never given it much thought.
Yeah. What’s the scoop?
Hahahaha.
I guess I´ll keep you guessing. 
Nah, it has to do with family more than anything being a pain in the butt about apperances.
The last two question I happened to think of to make this poll more interesting.
I´ve always been curious about how appearances influence the way people treat each other.
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No. My husband sometimes grows a goatee and sometimes is clean shaven. I like him both ways.
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NA
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Argue is a little strong. On rare occasions I will point out an outfit that doesn’t match. Sometimes he objects to my objection, more often he changes. Last month he wore a brown and blue plaid shirt with green shorts to church. It was bad. Yet the world continued to spin on its axis.
He can’t help it. He is a man, and therefore incapable of knowing that some things just don’t go together. He’s not colorblind, just obstinate. -
I’d give it a 2.5. I would give it a 1, but I’ll admit to being embarrassed for him over the blue/brown/green thing, so I guess I’m a little shallow. Besides that, I think he’s attractive in general. But if he were in a face maming accident, I’d still love him.
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I don’t mind that my husband changes his appearance with frequency. I appreciate his shaved face all the more because I have to suffer through days of grizzliness. Sometimes I wish that he would just shave regularly, but it’s not a big deal.
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Yes, I’m straightforward in voicing my opinion about his appearance. If we’re going somewhere nice, I’ll gently remind him that he looks like a beast and needs to shave. And to wear something other than a band shirt.
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I don’t think we argue about it his appearance. I probably mention something about it and/or tease him once a week.
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On a scale of 1-10, looks rate about a 5 in our relationship. I’m attracted to him, and he’s attracted to me, but it’s not a big deal.
- She doesn’t do it, but I think I might like it.
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- Never
- 6
So this is really about family and not about significant others? Well, that a whole 'nother kettle of soup.
When I was a kid, I never heard the end of it from my mother. “Cut your hair! Throw out those torn jeans! That jacket makes you look like a bum!”
Moms have no sense of style when you’re young. It’s amazing how much better they get at it when you get older.
1) Do you mind if your partner alternates between two appearances with relative frequency? (e.g going from goatee to clean shave, going from brunette to blonde, etc) Not at all. That being said, he does let me know if he’s going to make a change, and I am vocal with my opinion if I don’t think it’s a good idea (I think moustache only makes him look like a pimp). He’s never revisited a look I didn’t like.
2) If yes: are you straight forward in voicing your opinion to your partner? Yes. See above.
3) How frequent do you argue with your partner about the way they dress/look? Never. I like his clothes, and when we go out together, we decide what we’ll be wearing based on venue. I often ask his opinion about my outfits - I think he has good taste.
4) On a scale from 1 (not important) to 10 (very Important), how would you rate “looks” as an important aspect in your relationship? At the beginning of our relationship, 6. I was more attracted to his dark sense of humor and quick thinking wordplay, even over his cute butt. Now, 3. I love him for who he is as a person (even though I still think he’s got a cute butt!;)). He could be horribly scarred all over his body and I wouldn’t love him any less.
- Do you mind if your partner alternates between two appearances with relative frequency? (e.g going from goatee to clean shave, going from brunette to blonde, etc)
Nope, not at all. I prefer him clean shaven (nicer to smootch with) but it’s his face. He tends to stay clean shaven as he gets more kisses that way.
- If yes: are you straight forward in voicing your opinion to your partner?
Yep.
- How frequent do you argue with your partner about the way they dress/look?
Almost never - I don’t let him wear a hat more often than he would like. However, it’s only at events where he KNOWS he shouldn’t wear a hat and asks if he can anyway. (This is all jokey, by the way.)
- On a scale from 1 (not important) to 10 (very Important), how would you rate “looks” as an important aspect in your relationship?
7 I guess.
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No, not at all. In fact, I encourage it.
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NA
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I’d say fairly often.
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- Physical attraction is a very important aspect for me. If I’m not attracted to her physically, then I’m not going to feel like having sex with her. And, if we’re not having sex, then we might as well be in a platonic relationship.
Married 6 years, living together for 9.
1) Do you mind if your partner alternates between two appearances with relative frequency? (e.g going from goatee to clean shave, going from brunette to blonde, etc)
I have preferences, but I don’t really mind if she changes.
Same for my wife, although I don’t change very much.
2) If yes: are you straight forward in voicing your opinion to your partner?
N/A (although we’re both straightforward about voicing our preferences about each other’s appearance)
3) How frequent do you argue with your partner about the way they dress/look?
I don’t think I’ve argued with her about her looks.
We’ve argued about the way I dress, mainly when I’m resisting her attempts to get me to dress a certain way, or change outfits after I’m halfway out the door.
4) On a scale from 1 (not important) to 10 (very Important), how would you rate “looks” as an important aspect in your relationship?
Don’t really know, but I’ll give myself a 7 and my wife a 4 (hell, she married me, didn’t she?)
Married 1 Year, been together for 10.
1) Do you mind if your partner alternates between two appearances with relative frequency? (e.g going from goatee to clean shave, going from brunette to blonde, etc)
The frequency of change is not very high, but the surprise changes can be jarring. For example, from having quite long hair to coming home one evening with a mushroom bob cut. I was a little miffed, but not much.
2) If yes: are you straight forward in voicing your opinion to your partner?
I voiced my shock, but it was hard to hide anyway - I would have had to staple my eyebrows down and tapes my mouth to disguise it.
3) How frequent do you argue with your partner about the way they dress/look?
We don’t argue, as such. But merely express preferences. “Isamu, I’d like you to wear a suit everyday, it would look really cool.” “I’ll wear a suit everyday if you wear a skirt everyday”. Conversation over.
4) On a scale from 1 (not important) to 10 (very Important), how would you rate “looks” as an important aspect in your relationship?
Hmm, probably a 7 for me, and about the same for her.
It really is - there’s a whole 'nother dynamic going on if it’s your family (mother, father, siblings) ragging on you about your appearance than a significant other. As we’ve seen here, most people are paired up with other people who are 1. attractive to them and 2. compatible on what to wear in public. You’ll make some changes for a significant other that you wouldn’t make for parents, too - your SO might ask you to shave more often because they’re tired of getting stubble burn, and you’d do it because that’s a reasonable request. You would probably ignore the same request from your mother because she thinks you look scruffy, not because of the stubble burn.
- Do you mind if your partner alternates between two appearances with relative frequency? (e.g going from goatee to clean shave, going from brunette to blonde, etc)
No. But he doesn’t change all that often; he goes from goatee to beard and back. The few times he’s shaved off all his facial hair it’s freaked me out a little.
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If yes: are you straight forward in voicing your opinion to your partner?
He knows I think it’s weird when he is clean shaven (I prefer facial hair in general) but he likes his facial hair so it’s not an issue. -
How frequent do you argue with your partner about the way they dress/look?
Rarely.
- On a scale from 1 (not important) to 10 (very Important), how would you rate “looks” as an important aspect in your relationship?
5 or 6.
Probably a zero for both of us, unless you are including basic hygeine! So long as the clothes are clean and in good repair and appropriate for the purpose, neither of us cares much beyond that.
Though I must say I married a man in a UNIFORM! oooooooooooo. Still gives me a flutter even all these years later when he strides through the door. (So yes, clearly clothes Do have an effect and Do matter!)
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Nope… that’s her business. I’ll definitely let her know if it looks bad or overly weird, but she’s welcome to do what she likes with her appearance.
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Yes- I usually will make a joke about it- she has a good sense of humor, and if I can make my joke funny enough so that she’s not hurt or offended, she’ll usually see where I’m coming from. Or, if it’s not a big thing, I’ll just tell her I don’t like it or that I do. As for her hair, we get our hair cut at the same place, and if I don’t like it, I’ll just tell Bobby our hairdresser that I don’t like it, and he’ll do something else the next time.
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Pretty infrequently- she’s got pretty good taste, and is one of the very few big women who knows how to dress well and buy clothing that’s both flattering and stylish. Plus, she has great hair!
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I’d say a 6 or 7. Neither of us is at all ugly, but we’re both pretty fat. I think if either of us had been ugly as well as fat, it might not have worked out.
1) Do you mind if your partner alternates between two appearances with relative frequency? (e.g going from goatee to clean shave, going from brunette to blonde, etc)
No, and he does.
2) If yes: are you straight forward in voicing your opinion to your partner?
N/A
3) How frequent do you argue with your partner about the way they dress/look?
Never. What an absurd thing to argue about.
4) On a scale from 1 (not important) to 10 (very Important), how would you rate “looks” as an important aspect in your relationship?
1