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There was a thread one time, I think here on the Dope, asking whom you’d sleep with. It seemed like a lot of straight women listed Angelina Jolie, and a lot of straight men said if they had to, Johnny Depp or Jude Law would be ok.
I wonder what it is about certain people that makes them more or less universally attractive?
As a gay guy, I could probably do Angelina too, and I find Depp & Jude Law attractive in an aesthetic, intellectual way, but have no real desire to get naked with any of them.
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Hmmm… I don’t think that in my case it’s about having some sort of universal attractiveness. It’s more personnal than that. It’s about being attracted. I have to feel something. Not to say that physical appearance is irrelevant. Not at all. But it’s not about this “objective” attractiveness you’re mentionning.
I understand perfectly what you mean, since I very often find someone objectively beautiful (including, and actually way more often women) but without being attracted, aroused, etc… I will think “she’s physically perfect”, and that’s that. Particularily common with celebrities, actually. Probably because I can’t interact with them, hence can’t feel any “spark”. I’ve to be seduced.
This need to be seduced is even massively more true for men for whom I have an extremely low interest at the first place (and constantly lowering as time passes, for some reason). I would most certainly agree to sleep with an attractive women I feel close to nothing for if she wanted to, but there’s not a chance I would do the same with a man. Possibly (purely an hypothesis here) I’m actually 100% heterosexual but very occasionnally “homophile” when I meet the very rare right guy (Note that usually I don’t get along well with men. The only exceptions being those I have some sort of crush on. I never had any close friend who was a male).
And, still about this need to be seduced, to feel something : I don’t think I’ve ever been attracted to any guy who was purely heterosexual (I write “I don’t think” because in most cases I didn’t know for sure but was fully convinced they were at least partially homosexual or potentially amendable to an homosexual relationship. Maybe wishful thinking, though, but I doubt so. They just didn’t interact with me, or with some others in the same way other men do. I’m not sure how to explain it, but I felt some sort of “resonance”).
On the other hand, in favor of your “universal attrativeness” theory, all guys I had an interest in had something feminine in them (what? I’m not sure. But it even applies physically : hairy manly men are out). Not to be mistaken with “effeminated” which is at the contrary a major turn off for me.
All this long post being very theorical, anyway, since, as I mentionned, I’m almost 100% heterosexual, especially now that I’m older, and never had any kind of relationship with any man despite sometimes wishing otherwise.
