I read something interesting the other day, and would like to verify its accuracy.
If you already know what I’m talking about, please don’t shout out the answer. I want peoples’ honest accounting of their experience.
Think about your current relationship, or most recent, or any one that you can remember the beginning of fairly accurately.
How long did it take to go from first meeting to bed? Time spent apart doesn’t count, but time on the phone does. If you are a wait until marriage type, please say so. If there was some sort of artificial constraint, such as waiting for HIV tests to come back, please mention that as well.
I “knew” my FH online for a few months. Then we taked over IM for a couple more. We “met” online in October, started IMing/being interested in one another in April, started talking on the phone in May, and met in person in June (he lived in Colorado, I lived in California). We first, um, needed a condom in July (our second in-person meeting). Face-time wise, it was only about 5 days total. Relationship-wise, it was about a month (first meeting to second). Interested in one-another-wise, it was about two months.
Over six years later, we’re getting married in March.
This would be for my current relationship of 6 years. We first talked online in February and chatted that way off and on until we met in person in June. We had to get a condom the first time we met in person.
In the relationship before that which lasted just under 4 years, we met at a bar and went home together that night.
Scenerio: Both slightly high and both in a school officer position. After knowing each other from meetings and such we dicided to go on a date…basically come to my room and watch a movie…We got 10 minutes into ‘Weird Science’ and we were happily under the covers… the mutual attraction was high and we were both very hot for eachother. It was safe to say we had a dual crush going so foreplay and waiting around was pointless.
Most recent relationship, we met in a bar and almost needed one that night except she puked in my neighbor’s lawn. (Women can’t get pregnant after they puke!)
After that, it was a week in actual time and maybe 6-8 hours of talking time.
Huh, the whole concept of online really skews things. I suppose that e-mail shouldn’t account for any time, but IMing might.
OK, but I assume that you didn’t meet and then just start having sex. So from when you met, how long until sex? An hour? Three? Ten?
Same question, though. Unless you were shagging in the bar, you must have spent some time getting to know each other.
I have no idea how much phone time I spent with my last GF, but it was probably a good six hours. First date, 2.5 hours. Second date, 3.5 hours. Third date, one hour of dinner before bed, so that’s 7 hours face time, 13 hours total.
Ahh, sorry. Didn’t realize we were doing it in hours. Current SO, maybe an hour. That really was the purpose of meeting anyway. The relationship and my even really wanting one came after.
The earlier SO, we met outside the bar. Including travel time and having another drink at his place…40 minutes?
Are we talking about “relationships” as in long-term commitments? Or do “people I dated” count?
If the latter, my *most * recent “hello” to “get a condom” was about six hours. Unless you count the ten years since the last time I saw the guy, or the couple of months I knew him back then.
Second most recent -90 minutes.
Third most recent - three months.
If it’s the long-term thing, my last long-term relationship went from “hello” to “get a condom” in about a week, if I remember correctly.
The other ones were 1) went to high school together, ended up going to the same college in the same dorm, were in a relationship for about 3 months before having sex (that was the first) and 2) knew one another online but only very peripherally, met up on a trip in Europe, jumped into bed after knowing each other two days (but it was 2 days of being together 24/7) and then traveled together for about 3 weeks afterward.
Current relationship: I knew him casually for several years; we first started properly hanging out and actually eyeing each other “that way” in July; we finally got our condom-related act together in September.
Upon reflection, all my long term relationships (3, not jinxing anything by counting the current one) took between 3 and 6 months between first meeting and condom-requiring.
Short-term relationships: minimum about 6 hours; most between 1 and 6 months.
My last one I’d guess as more than that. 7 months of being friends. Lets see… 20 hours a week, 4 weeks a month, nah, that’s probably pretty close. Oh wait, we didn’t have sex for like a month too. 700ish hours?
We have enough responses, so I’ll just say it. I’ve heard that it normally takes 4 to 10 hours, with 7 being the average. Take out phone time, and that’s pretty consistantly true for me.