In one way or another. Examples ranging from just a kiss to straight sex.
Most relationships that I have had started with a makeout session before any formal date. Most people I know fell into their relationships in much the same way. It seems like if all I get at the end of the night is a phone number, there is going to be much less of a chance of it going anywhere.
I don’t know what to make of it either. Is this as common as I think? If so, why does it pan out like this?
I’ve never had a relationship start that way.
I’ve had three long term (as in over 9 month) relationships. 2 of them started as one night stands. Funny enough, the shortest one is the one that started as a traditional date.
There’s another way?
I had sex on with my first date at 16; we went from kissing to full carnal knowledge in about 4 hours; it was both of our first times. Come to think of it I have never had a serious relationship that started out by “getting to know each other” first with dinner and movie. Just about all of them at least started with some heavy petting or a definite signal/look that we were both interested.
My husband and I slept together the first night we met. Have been together for 12 years now.
My relationship previous to that started the same way.
I suspect that there’ll be a pretty huge age divide on this one, with people under say… 45 having a lot larger percentage saying yes than those 46 and older.
(45 is arbitrary; I just know that it’s probably even odds with people my age (40) that their relationships would or wouldn’t have started that way.)
For me, none. I’m 50, by the way.
I’m 32. I guess I’ve had four relationships. Two had quite a long getting-to-know-you period, two were instant snogging quickly followed by bedding. The relationship with my husband was of the latter sort.
Just for clarification, I’m under 30, and I’ve never had any of my relationships start by a hook up.
3 of my 4 long term relationships began with mutual attraction and making out or sex before the first formal date, but only after heavy flirting and talking on the phone and email prior to going at each other. None were strangers, though; I’ve never had a one-night stand. I’ve been lucky; never been stuck on a date with someone I wasn’t wildly attracted to.
To qualify, I’ve never been concerned with following old-fashioned dating conventions because I’d never get involved with anyone who would judge me for finding him appealing or taking advantage of an opportunity to share some love. If I found myself single now, I would follow the same route without hesitating. I wouldn’t waste time dancing around someone while we figured out if we shared an attraction; I’d rather have some confirmation of good chemistry before I invest myself in someone else. I’m female, by the way.
Hey how’s it going! You sound so hot! What’s your number? 
All but one. I married him, should have left it at sex.
Ha. My accelerated dating method landed me a husband and a pregnancy within 30 days, so my hot days are probably over (she says wistfully as she nurses a ten month old and reflects on her impulsive ways)
All of them. Seriously, four LT relationships (one long-distance), and two long-term flings, all started with sex first.
Out of all six of those, only the two flings were really good sex, and none of the LTR’s. Ironic, huh.
I have my own ideas about why things happened this way, which I would love to work out with the help of a shrink some day.
Roddy
None, but a few relationships did progress from first date to Love Monkey pretty quickly.
I think I only ever went on, like, three “traditional dates”. Most of my dating went on with people who were already friends to me. We didn’t always bang on the first meeting, but by the time anything romantic happened, the preliminary getting to know each other was already out of the way.
I hope my children don’t ask about mine and my husband’s first kiss - it was messy, because it’s difficult to line up lips at the same time you’re lining up genitals 
Actually, that’s the way they usually end. 
Apparently not.
So what’s the explanation then? You would think both parties would want to get to know each other a little better before going all in.
Personally, I guess I just don’t care enough. I mean I’ll throw a condom on if it’s going to be a one night stand but other than that I don’t have issues with hooking up on the first encounter.
I have only had really two long term relationships. One was with a coworker that started with a drinken hookup, progressed to a five year relationship, a nine year marriage and finally the destruction of all that is good in life. Hell of a price to get laid. My current amazingly good relationship started off with a couple of dates but progressed rapidly.
There have been other hook ups that led no where. A few FWB here and there.