Poll: Main reason you (or someone you know) gave up their dog

The poll is anonymous to protect the guilty, but I’m seeking the information as part of a potential dog rescue project I’m working on, so sincere answers are important.

Thousands upon thousands of dogs are dumped in shelters or given away to strangers every day. If you have done this, or you know other people who have, please choose the primary reasons for it. You can choose more than one, but please stick with only the reasons that really tipped the scale. Also, the first two questions are “shelter” and “given away to strangers” - please indicate only ONE of the two as the most frequent, unless you have actually utilized both exactly the same number of times.

As always, any notes or other information you want to add is certainly welcome, not only about the particular dogs you are answering about, but generally.
Thank you for your help!

Other- could no longer afford to take care of them properly.

Other - dog was clearly unhappy in the home because the family was so busy, she became destructive every time she was left alone longer than half an hour

Other - can no longer afford to feed and care for the dog, this is the one I see more often than anything else at the shelter where I volunteer.

My cousins had to find a new home for their dog (a dacshund) after he bit their one-year-old daughter. I guess he was a wee high strung, and they couldn’t have him around her.

Other - moved and couldn’t find a new place that would allow dogs. Took it to a shelter where a worker connected us with a man who was into Alaskan Malamutes. That was in 1976.

Other. The only person I can think of who gave away a dog was my grandmother. She was getting too old to live by herself and take care of a dog. So my uncle ended up taking in the dog and my grandmother moved in with my parents.

When my ex-fiance was deported I had to give away our dog. He was a pit, way too big for me to handle and I couldn’t afford to feed him. I still wouldn’t have given him up if I hadn’t had a family member to take him in.

Other – moved cross country and would be staying with relatives for an unknown period of time. Advertised in newspaper and gave dog (Buddy, a yellow Lab, about 5 years old) to a very nice couple.

Same with the two cats, who went to adult friends of my kids.

tl/dr 2 dogs of ours were given away. One was untrainable at least by us and the other went to a farm of people we knew because he was a herding dog and needed the exercise.

I mentioned this once recently. My family is filled with animal lovers. We all have pets and we all spoil them rotten but we’re also pretty good at requiring a reasonable level of cooperation from the quadrupedal roommates. In my lifetime, only one dog ever got taken to the pound. He was a beagal mix … well that what we assumed. He was stray. He was a beagle-shaped, biscuit-colored hell-hound. We (I was about 10 at the time) called him Cookie. He was sweet enough but the worst combination of stupid and stubborn that I’ve ever met in a dog.

Cookie was pretty spry and he liked to worm his way onto the dining room chairs and the twist around and get on the table. Then he would spread out like only a small dog can do, sunning his tummy and generally feeling pleased with himself. My Mom, who will put up with almost anything from a pet, went to war over this. He shed constantly. He broke dishes and knocked things over. He stank. He just was not suited to the role of centerpiece.

What he was suited for - was all out war. Mom scolded, yelled, spanked, spread newspapers, squirted, raised twelve kinds of hell - and when he didn’t listen she turned it all on us to keep the damned dog off the table. Nothing she did ever fazed him. When she turned on us, nothing we did could dissuade him either. Nothing. Of course, he was a small dog so we didn’t really get too physical with him. He snarled back a few time, but Mom, no mean snarler herself, wouldn’t be intimidated by a little open exchange of free speech. (My own approach at the time involved some half assed ideas about what would come to be called ‘the alpha roll’ and a Darth Vader-esque command voice. The latter is pretty effective, as it turns out. I could make him jump down but he’d be right back up as soon as I turned my back.)

It all came to head one day when Cookie decided that he wasn’t getting his message across so he took firmer steps. Right in the middle of the afternoon sunbathing time, he scrambled up on the table, took a great big dump, and then lay down next too it, so there’d be no confusion as to whose table this was and who was going to have the last word.

Unfortunately for Cookie, the “last words” were shouted by Mom while she was grabbing him by the neck, putting him in the car and driving him straight to the pound. He’s the only dog we’ve ever taken there. I’m not sure if Mom’s guilty about it. I don’t think so. A Line Was Crossed - possibly the only line we’ve ever need to establish. Like I said, we’re pretty good about civilizing our creatures (although we’ll put up a lot from a sick beast, like the time my dog Mac got colon problems - but that’s a different story.)

Was Cookie untrainable? Maybe modern clicker techniques might have worked on him, but I doubt it. He wasn’t mean. He just wanted what he wanted and he wouldn’t take no for an answer. With thirty more years of experience, if I had Cookie today, I’d probably pull the blind so that the sunlight didn’t shine on the table during the day and then try to make him a nice warm spot somewhere else. But that’s less “training” a dog and more like ‘negotiating’ - I wouldn’t care as long as we got results.

So I guess what I’m saying is, Cookie was untrainable by us, at that time. But it was almost certainly our fault for not finding a way to redirect his energies. He was the wrong dog for us and that was mostly our fault. He probably needed a farm and place to run and sunbathe probably. He was cute. I hope he found it. I still feel a little guilty about it all. But man was he a blockhead.

Oh - and we did send another dog of ours, Chester, to a farm. (Really, it was a real farm, friends of my aunt’s, and Chester was a herding dog who needed exercise.) He was very social. There was a bus stop near his farm and he would greet the passengers and even ride the bus sometimes. He was a great dog. I forget how we acquired him but he really did thrive on his farm.

We got a dog while in apartment with small back yard in Milwaukee. Dog was very distructive and severe separation anxiety. We were stupid and greedy to get a dog we couldnt take care of. We failed and we ashamed, but we just couldn’t do it.

I had to surrender Memnoch to the pound when my relationship broke up and I moved back in with my parents. He couldn’t live there and I was unable to rehouse him, despite advertising in the local paper.

My grandfather had to give Bugs to my aunt when his health declined and he moved into the (pet free) retirement village, but they had spoken about the possibility of that situation arising before he got the dog and agreed that’s what they’d do.

Given away to friends: A friend asked me to look after his two small dogs for two weeks, never came back. I’d have to say this was financial reasons, he lost his job and had to relocate, couldn’t bring himself to face it.

Taken away by neighbours: Neighbours puppy kept coming over to a friends house, her mother was due to visit and was allergic to dogs - that friend gave their neighbours dog to another friend to foster (said neighbour was not interested in keeping the dog). The other friend had an old dog on her last legs and it was too much for the old pooch having this young puppy around, so I got that one too.

I chose 1) shelter and 2) other. The shelter would apply to half a litter of puppies birthed by the dog of a junior family member. These were healthy small-breed pups and would certainly be rapidly adopted, so we brought them to our excellent regional shelter along with a cash donation. The other option involved giving away the other half of the litter to members of the family.

I took in two dogs over the last year. One because the owner said the dog was destructive and the other I never got a clear reason.

The first one has only caused a few problems- getting in the trash and chewing a few items of clothing. I was told she chewed furniture and baseboards, and dug holes. I suspect she was bored and/or neglected. She has never dug a single hole in the yard. She is a very good dog for me.

The second dog- well, I;m not sure why she was given up. The owner had a roommate. The roommate kept calling me and asking me to take the dog, saying she was a “lovebug” and very affectionate/cute. I suppose the roommate convinced the owner to give up the dog. She is a good dog as well, but seemed malnourished. Her coat was thin, she was thin, and the underside of her neck lacked fur (but not just in the spot where a collar would rest- from the underside of her chin to the upper chest). The roommate said that this person had too many dogs and they tended to suffer untimely deaths- one from heat prostration when left in a car, another suffocated after its head became stuck in a potato chip bag.

As a fellow rescue worker, I’d say that the main reason people gave us was allergies/new child. Next was can’t afford. There were a lot of reasons that we thought were pure bull hockey, but we still took the dogs.

I’m not even going to get started on reasons people gave us for not having their dog spayed and wanting us to take 8 6-week old puppies with no plan to have the mama spayed. Our usual deal was that we would take all of the puppies at 8 weeks and have the mama spayed. The deal was off if they gave any of the puppies away.

My parents had a dog named Nigel before I was born. He was badly trained. In particular, he would jump up on people, and often bit my dad when he (the dog, not my dad) was excited. It wasn’t intended to be aggressive, as far as I know, but he did sometimes break skin. Dad did not discourage this behavior. When they adopted my older sister, Mom was afraid Nigel would hurt the baby. She thought it would be kinder to have him put to sleep rather than sending him to the pound or a new home where a dog that bites might be treated roughly. Dad didn’t really agree, but that’s what they did.

Other. Brother had a pitty/corgi mix. Highly energetic, playful. My brother and his family didn’t really care to take the time to train or play with her. Couldn’t find anyone who wanted her, and didn’t want to pay the fee at the shelter. So he ‘accidentally’ left the gate in the back yard open and of course she got out. He knew she was a runner so, of course, she was never seen again. About two weeks after that, he decided to take on a lab/aussie mix puppy that a friend didn’t want. Poor thing spends about 80% of her day locked up in her crate inside. Some people don’t need to be having animals.

I checked “unmanageable / untrainable,” but the people who adopted the dog did manage to train it, so “hyperactive, difficult to train, and not at all a good starter pet for a family with a nine-year-old and a five-year-old, none of whom were really dog people anyway” would probably be closer to the truth. (I was the nine-year-old. I was unhappy at the time but I got over it, and I think my parents probably made the right decision.)

We had to move, and the new place was a rental that didn’t allow pets. Ripley was a fantastic back lab - field-sized pure bred (tall and muscled, not short and squat). I researched and found a great place - he ended up being an explosives detection dog with the RCMP on Parliament Hill in Ottawa. I was supposed to get him back when he retired, but he developed cancer and was put down when he was eight. I loved that dog.

Other: Shannon was given to a shelter because we couldn’t stop him from lifting his leg in the house. I was only 17 or 18 at the time. He was probably about 2 years old. He was a good dog otherwise. I remember “chasing” him with the spray from a hose one summer. Zooom!
Now I’m sad. :frowning:

ETA: I guess you could shoehorn that into unmanageable but it’s not really what I’d think of if you said that. He was a nice friendly dog.