Potential SO & Clinical Depression, Dealbreaker?

In My Humble Opinion
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Good luck, Bearflag70. I’m sure she’ll appreciate that you want to make an informed decision on something that will affect both of your futures.

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I take three seperate pills for my depression!

And I have nothing to add except to repeat what others have said: it’s all about her attitude toward the illness. If she sees it as something that’s victimized her, it’s a problem. If she’s a fighter, you’ll make it through.

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From what I know so far, she’s a fighter. She’s played competitive soccer all her life, and semi-pro indoor soccer more recently. Based upon some of the stories she told me about her play, I get the impression that she can be tough as nails when she needs to be.

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Well, we had a chat. Here’s a summary.

I told her that I think she’s great, but I am having a hard time getting closer due to my fears about her condition. My fears are rooted in (1) a lack of knowledge on my part; and (2) the fact that she’s not taking any meds or other treatment.

She understands my concern. She corrected some of my my facts. She explained her story and that she’s not taking meds or seeking therapy for three reasons:

  1. Talk therapy did her no good. She was asked, “How was your week?” She explained her week, and that was it.

  2. She was without health insurance for a while.

  3. Ego: The athlete in her said that she doesn’t need a crutch to perform.

  4. She doesn’t like medication generally.

She said that now she’s diagnosed, away from her asshole boyfriend at the time, and working toward establishing her career, she’s much better.

She can feel bouts coming, and when she does, she can control them with exercise. She said she has been able to control the effect of her bouts by not allowing them to keep her from her responsibilities.

She also said that on a scale of 0 to 10, with a 10 being a person who suffers from severe depression, she’s probably a 3 or 4.

She’s glad that we can talk about this stuff. She also says that if and when I learn more, she understands if I want to walk away.

I told her that I was looking at this in a positive light with an open mind.