If you were a bartender or a server in a bar, would you serve a pregnant woman alcohol?
I was talking with some friends the other day, among whom were K, a bartender in his mid-20s; and G, a woman in her early 30s. K was describing a time when a group of women–one of whom was visibly pregnant and looked close to her delivery date–came into his bar. They came in for lunch, and to start, they all ordered glasses of wine.
The server, while perfectly willing to serve wine to the other women, didn’t think the pregnant woman should be drinking alcohol, and asked K what she should do. K replied that in his opinion, the pregnant woman could have one glass of wine, but he would cut her off after that.
G piped up. As a woman who had had a child, she noted that when she was pregnant, her doctor had said that an occasional glass of wine in the third trimester wouldn’t hurt, although she had not had any. But it wasn’t K’s call to decide how many (if any) glasses of wine the woman could have, G said; it was between the woman and her doctor to decide what was appropriate.
What eventually happened, K told us, was that the group of women overheard his conversation with the server about whether the pregnant woman should be served, and confronted the manager. They didn’t feel that their pregnant friend’s drinking habits were any of the staff’s business, and that they were leaving. Which they did.
Thankfully, our conversation drifted on to other matters before this discussion could develop into a confrontation between K and G, but I found myself sort of leaning towards G’s side of things–if the woman was old enough to drink (she was), and was not intoxicated when she came in (she wasn’t), then K really had no reason not to serve her, and the matter should not even have been questioned.
But K and his server seemed to feel that they had some responsibility for the pregnant woman’s health. While it is true that under local laws, K can legally refuse to serve anybody who has just walked in (though such an occurrence rarely happens); it is equally true that he is not a guardian of a patron’s personal health (with the sensible exception of cutting people off when they have had too much and calling them a taxi so they don’t drive, of course).
Dopers, what say you? Is it K’s job to serve up the drinks to any and all patrons–including pregnant ones–who are old enough and sober enough to drink? Or is it part of his job to decide how many drinks, if any, a pregnant woman should have?