I am an atheist, but I believe that we need to have workable legal reproductive law, because in the future things are going to get even more compliated. We can’t argue that it is a private matter, because this is not just about one person, there are arguable other people involved.
To me, it is a matter of consent. And I believe that consenting to having human DNA implanted in your uterus is implied consent to the potential for pregnancy. Similarly, if a male implants his DNA into the female reproductive system, he is giving implied consent to be a father to that baby, no matter what the reasons he had for wanting to implant that DNA.
But this also means that reproduction without that consent cannot bind people. If you sneak into someone’s bedroom and steal a few drops of sperm and create a baby from that sperm, the person you stole the sperm from cannot be held to be the father of the resulting baby. And of course, if a female does not consent to having the sperm implanted, if it is implanted against her will, then she cannot be forced to carry the resulting baby to term.
But if people agree to heterosexual intercourse, they agree to the potential for pregnancy. I have no problem with using birth control, but again, having heterosexual intercourse while using birth control can also sometimes result in pregnancy, so agreeing to it means agreeing to the risk of pregnancy.
In the meantime, have all the gay sex, oral sex, etc, etc, etc that you want. In my opinion, heterosexual intercourse MUST be treated differently from all other forms of sex, because only hetersexual intercourse (or other forms of sex where sperm cells might accidentally contact the female reproductive system) carries the possibility of pregnancy.
I am hopeful that technology can partially solve some of this problem. Fetal adoption comes to mind…you might not be allowed to kill the baby, but you could have it removed from your uterus and placed somewhere else, if doing so would not kill it.
And of course, no one is obligated to risk their lives to save the life of another person. So, medical procedures to save the life of the mother can take place, even if they would also kill they baby. Chemotherapy would be one example.
Back to sex. I really believe that people would be happier if they took a good look at the person they are about to have sex with and thought to themselves, “What would be the result if a pregnancy resulted from this? What kind of parent would this person be? What would be the impact on my life if this happened?” I just wish people would THINK a bit before they made their choices.