Well, my daughter’s at the prom. Actually, it’s probably over now. Poor kid is having a tough time lately.
Broken up with boyfriend.
Another boy asks her to go.
Changes his mind.
Asks for the ticket back so he can take another girl.
She tells him to get lost.
He complains to the prom’s organizer.
She called my daughter to her office and told her to give the ticket back. Daughter says, ‘What am I supposed to do? Tickets are sold out.’ The dipshit teacher tells her to ‘Ask around to your friends. Maybe someone has an extra.’ Teacher told her that if she didn’t give the ticket back, it would be voided and the boy would be refunded his money.
Daughter comes home, dejected and upset. Furious mom calls the principal.
Principal says that she is going to the prom no matter what, and that the boy hasn’t been taught any manners. Not sure what will happen to dipshit teacher.
Daughter buys beautiful dress, and goes to the prom. Kind of like Pretty in Pink, only with a way better looking dress, and no Duckie.
I don’t understand this; how can the school force you to give back what has been gifted to your daughter? Is that not illegal? Especially since he’s the one who instigated the break-up?
It’s akin to trying to get the wedding ring back (which you gave) after calling off the wedding. IIRC, if you gave it to them, it’s their property to keep.
I’d be furious as well if any school tried to pull that shit. Hell, that’s the type of issue I might even write a letter to the local paper, were I in your shoes.
I couldn’t sleep, but an hour in the Pit has done me in. I want to hear about Prom, though.
(and my daughter, who had a very cute boy ask her to Homecoming one year by holding up a sign that said, [her name] will you go to the dance with me? and then gave her a red rose…called her up 5 days before the dance and told her he had asked someone else. May maggots infest his boxers from this day forth).
yeah, “indian giving” (although a slightly racist term :dubious: ) is illegal.
At that legal precedent (hooray business law stories) can actually provide damages to somebody who relied on the expectation of going to prom with somebody (and makes suitable financial arrangements such as limos and dinner) and is later broken up with.
Hopefully the prom went well and everything turns out wonderful for your daughter.
My prom, was, well, shrug, about as boring as I expected it to be
Yeah. If it wasn’t for the principal stepping up and doing the right thing, I would’ve raised a hell of a stink. What was wrong with that teacher? Who in their right mind would do something like that?
Not going with that guy definitely sounds like no loss. Even so, the situation sucks.
Teacher needs a telling off and boy needs to learn to deal with his own problems like a man. Changed his mind? Too bad, man up and make the best of it. In reality, the only thing you have to do together is get there. If you’re not attached, per se, can’t you just go off with your own friends, especially considering the other person will have their group of friends there?
Note, I’m only guessing because I went to a single sex school and you brought your own dates with you from other schools in later years so who you went with is who you took home again and made sure they weren’t alone constantly unless they knew people there. Courtesy and all that.
Since your daughter didn’t have to give the ticket back, did the boy get a ticket for his date? Not getting one would have been a good lesson for the little creep.
I’m not sure if you’re asking or telling, but someone did do that, in 1988. She was stood up on prom night ( :eek: ) and sued and won for the cost of her gown, her hair appointment and manicure, and the boutonniere she’d gotten for him. Sorry, no cite, but I clearly remember reading about it.
I’m not sure, but the way I read the original story, boy got his ticket back, and daughter either got a new ticket issued, or an exemption from the principal. Not sure it matters that much though (except to boy’s new date.)
Good on your daughter for deciding on, and being determined about, going to the prom even though she had broken up with her boyfriend and her new date ended up being a creep!
My prom date (and “boyfriend”) announced a few weeks before prom that he was actually gay and in love with my best friend (a guy. A straight guy with a very serious girlfriend.)
I didn’t let that spoil my plans, and I had a beautiful dress and got the full prom experience and had one of the best nights of my life. Lucky for me, prom wasn’t about who I was going with it was about the whole “end of the road” thing with my classmates. I am so glad I went!
I asked a question about Proms a while back as we don’t have them ovet this side of the pond and I was curious about this strange ritual you merkins have.
Didn’t realise you had to pay to go though.
Hope your daughter had a good time and creepy boy didn’t
I’m terribly sorry but I feel compelled to post this knee-jerk hijack:
Can’t you just write, “…what has been given to your daughter…” instead of “gifted”? What is the point of that word? What does it convey that “given” doesn’t? I honestly don’t understand so I am just asking. Just curious, really.
Did she go stag, then? Our school didn’t let anyone go stag-boys, or girls. Otherwise, I would have gone with a group of my friends and had a great time. I could have asked a friend of mine to go, but since none of my friends were going, what was the point?
Regardless, I’m partial to the word. Why did you use the word “convey” instead of “express,” when their meaning is also the same? Besides, I feel my word of choice better reflects the manner in which I wish to express myself.
If you’re looking for background as to why I use it (though I’m dubious as to why you would care), my father owned an insurance company, and when speaking with clients, would often use the term “gifted” when speaking of cars transferred from one client to another.
Maybe the practice hasn’t crept up north but it is pretty big down in Hampshire. My daughter is going (year 11) - about £20 for a ticket, her big brother got her a really lovely dress last year, we paid for the shoes, she has to pay for her ride - in a shared limo, £25 (we live just down from the school - I am not paying for an expensive lift for less than a mile). I am not sure who is paying for her hair - I dare not ask. I have already told her that she will NOT be going to any after-ball party. Just no. She doesn’t have a date, so is going with her friends.
Lots of parents here will be paying about £500 for the prom - Tuxes for the boys, gowns for the girls, limos, hair, the works.
