It’s relevant because I don’t want women to be afraid of going to work for some porno guy, it’s way less threatening to work in the adult industry for a woman.
Most folks who’ve been around here know exactly what I do, I used to link from my profile but they decided they didn’t care for that. I run a subscription website that features vintage erotica, 1860-1970.
But you, yourself, wouldn’t have any gender preference in a potential applicant?
is it retroraunch.com? - it is scary what one can find out about a person just from their email address 
martha’s girls too?
We broke up with Martha, but I’m hoping we can get back together in the future.
Actually, I’m kinda hoping to score a gay man. I love gay men, we get along FABulously, and I’ve known a lot who tend toward the anal-retentive mother, which is kinda what I need.
This is the kind of information that should be in the ad, it might pull in exactly the kind of left-of-center person you want to essentially become your pseudo-partner.
As an aside, I find this sentence a little rude.
LLOYD!!!
Jodi:
Thank you for taking the time to offer truly helpful suggestions, I will take them into consideration for the final ad.
Clarifications:
I did/would make clear that I am generally easygoing, but here are the exceptions to that rule. The honesty thing is really the only one that comes to mind, and in that respect I’m a total hardass without apology.
Point taken, but since it IS considered a benefit by some people, it can definitely compensate for other things that aren’t so great, like starting salary perhaps.
Then again, maybe this is one area where my assistant should be less like me. And obviously I don’t want someone who is so enamored of the idea of flexibility because they hate work entirely and can’t wait to bail out every day, that blows.
It’s gonna be interesting finding my dream date.
Wow. Then it’s a really good thing YOU won’t be applying for the position…jeez. All it means is that people who’ve been around a long time know what I do, I forget that I actually haven’t been around much in the last 3 years or so and there are new kids on the block.
You sound like a motherfucking batshit crazy lunatic from that ad. And it reads exactly like your personal ad! It’s full of threats and really off-putting personal information. Maybe you can find some poor fool to fill both this position and the one as your boyfriend? The accent thing is a bit irritating. Of course I’m only saying that because I have a southern accent and am afraid it will make people think me uneducated. Also its odd you would require an executive assistant to be a non-smoker. How is that even relevant. Not all smokers are going to light up in your home. Some of us weren’t raised in barns like filthy animals.
And some of us smoke Menthols!
This is exactly what I’m talking about. I don’t read every thread around here, but as you can see from my post count, I’ve been here for four years. I’m not a “new kid on the block” by any means.
So why should you be able to tsk tsk me because I don’t know you’re a vintage pornographer? It’s condescending and if that little bit of criticism can push your buttons, I feel really bad for the sap who ends up taking your job.
Ummm. I don’t know what this means.
Except you inferred the tsking, I didn’t imply it, not my buttons.
I guess you’re a small business where antidiscrimination laws don’t apply?? Don’t worry about running an ad; if you know what you want you’ll find someone through another connection/word of mouth.
If you do go the ad route, echoing Jodi’s synopsis of what the ad should look like, there’s no reason to mention your gender or even the business. You get the applicants and then do a phone screen where they become aware that you are the owner, what kind of business it is, expectations, even salary range. This weeds out whoever doesn’t meet the more general needs, lets them know they don’t want it, and leaves you with the smaller applicant pool to actually meet.
Well, I do want to screen out as much as possible before phone calls. Interviewing is time consuming, even in brief phone calls. If there are simple ways to scrape away chunks of applicants I’m all for it.
It’s a balance: I don’t want to make the job sound so appealing that I’m drowning in applications, 75% of which are dead in the water, but I don’t want to scare away the person I’m really looking for, either.
I’ve advertised jobs for 20 years, working for myself and others. It’s kinda like dating, there’s a big segment of the population that will answer almost any ad that sounds remotely reasonable, and that’s a big time suck.
LIKE THIS PLACE…ack… it’s like goddamn drugs and I took just a little hit…
Oh, and I’m not ruling out anyone. Having a hope doesn’t mean I’m giving the boot to anyone that doesn’t fit that hope. I’m only human and being an old faghag, I can hope for my gay!
minimum – 100k.
When do I start?
Oops, do I have to move to LA?
Yes? 250K.
When do I start?
Strange as it may seem, I suggest you first hire Jodi to write your ad for you! What a beautifully concise and appropriate summation of the needed work… kudos!