On the radio today I heard a quote that was supposedly from Bruce Willis. When he was asked about what he would do when his daughter started dating, his response was “Kill the first one and hope the word spreads.”
Mine’s in her late 20’s. There’s no avoiding it - she’s a head turner. She takes it in stride, but it bothers the hell out of me. I want to protect her. As far as I can tell, reason has nothing to do with it.
So, all you protective papas out there, do you want your daughters to be eternally single? Nuns? Maybe lesbians? (Hey, if it works for you, no skin off my nose.) I can understand being sad that your little girl is growing up, but threatening potential dates with bodily harm? That’s just pitiful.
My daughters have their own minds. They were taught values, compassion, respect, understanding and tolerance. They were taught to think and evaluate and to make sound decisions.
Others were not taught such basics. These are the ones that I direct my comments upon.
It isn’t that I wish to do bodily harm to my daughters’ friends, but that they reflect upon their actions prior to acting them out on my children.
A deterrent, if you must. This will discourage most of the cowards looking to do harm.
Let them look. If you wish to touch, be prepared. Be very prepared.
Well, I think Cartooniverse is probably correct that threatening a boy, explicitly or otherwise, won’t usually do much to deter the course of the teenage sex drive. I know I dealt with a couple fathers who adopted a threatening–and in one case down right belligerent–attitude with me when I was a horny fifteen-year-old. A couple dads intimidated me a little, but that didn’t stop me from . . . you know. Especially when it was initiated by the girl (not that I was a teenage stud or anything, mind you, but even I got lucky once and a while).
As for burundi’s post: nunhood is a perfectly acceptable career choice. 
Did the dads in here think they wouldn’t be psycho before they saw it through a fathers eyes?
My father trusts his daughters. They are mainly surrounded by fairly decent people. When my youngest (17) sister started dating her current SO, we were all a bit cautious, as she had not exhibited the best taste in guys.
And for a while he was more than slightly immature. I was alerted (by my mother, not my father; my father knows my sister has sharp knees) that my, ah, services might be needed. I figured if my sister felt something needed doing she’d do it herself, but I figures it couldn’t hurt to know she had backup.
Turns out a semester at college away from the teeming throng of guys (as opposed to gentlemen) was enough to make a decent individual out of this guy. He still annoys me at times, but then the things about him that annoy me are the same things I do with B in public that annoy other people (PDAs are not my thing when other people do them, but I could not care much less what other people think when I do them with B in public).
My other sister … well, has bigger knees:D
I’ve wondered this myself. Why are dads so worried about their daughters having sex or being sexual people?
Just curious.
As the father of a son who will be teenaged very soon, who is smart and funny and the very model of a strapping youth, much as his father once was, I can tell you fathers of teenaged girls that if my son checks out your daughter, the way you should feel is …
Flattered.
Got that? Good.
CAN I GET AN AMEN BROTHER!!!
I have a question for you Dads that is a slight hijak, if you do not mind…
Do you always think like this?! I am 15, male, in love with quite a beautiful girl, but I have yet to ever feel women as something sexual. I say she is beautiful because she has the most charming personality in the world. We also have a harmonious relationship. But I have yet to ever want to have sex with or and the thought has never even crossed my mind. In fact, I do not like sex period. So my question for you is this: Do you just assume that the guy wants to have sex with your girl? If so, how far does this go? Would you ever allow a guy to cuddle/hug your girl?
Anything may help with this slight hijak… but I just wanted to reverse it for a second…
This sounds like my girlfriend’s dad. Not too fun to face a shotgun wielding, 6’2", 230-pound protective father.
I don’t think I’ll ever earn complete trust. Doesn’t mean I’ll stop trying.
I’m not at all. So, don’t speak with such broad generality. I think I made it clear from my previous post, that she will be taught how to handle herself, and how to make the best judgement calls she possibly can. Not that I’m leaving her out there alone, I’ve got her back. However, she will become a sexual person at some point and that’s a healthy part of being an adult.
Why should that worry me?
Sorry , all the dads I met in Toronto , all had a variety of “tools” from the chrome plated shotgun , to an amazing collection of pistols.
Then there was the dad who introduced himself as a former marine , who served in Viet Nam , had quite a converstion about that , far as I know the girl was mighty pissed to be second placed for a bit.
Declan