Hi all,
I got a psychology related question that I’m hope someone may be able to answer for me. A quick synopsys:
I’m in the process of getting a divorce from my wife of three years. It’s the first marriage for both of us. While I still love her, I simply could no longer tolerate her trying to control/manipulate me. I think these issues stem from either her relationship with her mother (domineering mom from hell) or possible physical/sexual abuse as a child (my opinion and purely a shot in the dark - she denys this vehemently).
Now, we’re also in the process of splitting assets and selling our home. We are closing in a few days and she has moved her portion of our stuff out. I stopped by last night to take inventory and start packing. This is where it gets a little freaky (at least to me).
In my travels, I open one of the kitchen drawers and find copies of all of our wedding photos, blown up to about 8"x10", with remenants of tape (as if they were taped together in some sort of montage/mural). In every picture, my eyes are colored over with a black, felt tip pen. My smiles are dashed out with a straight line of ink. I have horns and fangs edited in. And, descriptors like “SCUM”, “WHITE TRASH”, “PHYCO”(sic) and others written across my forehead.
Needless to say, I was a bit taken aback. So, if anyone knows if this is a symptom of anything more specific than “that’s one angry gal”, I would love to hear it.
Thanks in advance.
Er, sorry for the man spelling/grammar mistakes in the first couple of paragraphs…sheesh!
It just sounds like she is mad and upset at you about the whole thing (or something)… but doesn’t sound like any mental disorder (maybe a coping mechanism if anything).
Also, even if your hypothesis about the cause of her behavior (i.e. her relationship with her mom, etc etc) is 100% correct, people generally don’t like to hear other people telling them the cause of their problems… unless they’re paying them $30 an hour.
In any case, I’m sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds like a rough time for everyone involved. Good luck with it all.
LilShieste
While I certainly appreciate the advice, this info is more for easing MY nerves. I don’t relish the prospect of waking up and finding my ex-wife standing over me, laughing with a knife in her hand.
I’m certainly not trying to be mister-know-it-all.
Thank you for the well wishes.
I’m in the same boat as you (well…the getting divorced part only…we’re still on a friendly basis) so I share some of your angst. It’s a rough time.
Unfortunately I don’t think anyone here is qualified to give a definitive answer to your question. This could be nothing more than a pissed off woman screwing with you a bit in which case you can probably shrug it off. On the other hand it could be something much deeper and freakier in which case it is appropriate to be scared.
Given that she went to the trouble to have the pictures enlarged (and spend the money that entails) gives me at least some greater misgiving about this than had she just found some old photos and messed with them.
Anyway, IANAPsychiatrist and that is probably what you need. If you have an attorney for this divorce I would also bring it to their attention and let them advise you as well.
Bets of luck!