Your friends share a lot :D. I have no idea if most of my non-intimate female friends regularly shave their pubic regions or not. It doesn’t tend to come up in conversation much.
That’s fair enough - we all have preferences. But is this aversion-level for you? I mean you meet someone who is the type to take it slow, you have a few dates and are really hitting it off and you think you’re falling for her. Then you finally get to an intimate enough stage, see she is not in fact smooth-shaven and immediately break it off?
Okay, if so. Not being judgemental, but it just seems to be such a minor thing from my cheap seat. Granted I’m older and shaving was so not the norm when I was young ( witness any men’s magazines in the 1970’s and even 1980’s ).
As Manda Jo pointed out, “personal preferences” don’t start with “should”. You *should *shower, because it’s pretty universally expected. You may choose how to maintain your pubic hair, because it’s a matter of personal preference.
“Belief” is also different than “preference”. As a fr’instance, I *believe *that everyone has the right to maintain their pubic hair according to their own preference. I also believe that putting a gender qualifier on what one “should” do with their own pubic hair is seriously obnoxious.
Yes. Talking with my wife about the question right now. She looked puzzled when I first said it’d bother me, but upon thinking about it she realized she would be troubled if I stopped shaving my own crotch. I figure when she’s 65 I won’t care, but now in our twenties, I want a nicely shaved pussy to come home to.
1. Why is a woman in her natural form less beautiful than a shaved, manicured form?
I prefer shaved or neatly trimmed… and that’s all I’ve ever seen in person. I’ve seen pics of hairys and it doesn’t look too inviting for oral sex.
2. If your girlfriend/wife stopped shaving her armpit and vaginal area, would you be OK with that? Would it ever been an issue that could potentially collapse a relationship?
I would not be ok with that. It could be an issue that slowly erodes the relationship, I suppose.
Same reason guys are. I’m sure there are many papers written about why this happened to women long before men, but today I think it’s pretty even. Or getting there.
Personally, I think there’s a difference between aesthetics and utility. If I’m just looking then I actually prefer pubic hair. Not a jungle, but a nice bush is very arousing. But it’s pretty bothersome when you go actually go downtown for oral. Picking hairs out of your mouth isn’t that sexy. But if I’m not gonna go down then heck, give me hair any day of the week over the bare look.
Only if she got upset that I stopped going down on her as much. In that case it could be a problem.
If a guy can’t orgasm because his partner is too loose the problem is with the guy, not the girl. Even the loosest girl is much more satisfying than jerkin’ it.
I only have experience with one post-pregnancy vagina, zero post-menopausal vaginas,* and quite a few pre-both vaginas. In my experience, vagina tightness varies among women (in ways that may be unexpected–it doesn’t seem related to the woman’s overall size) and doesn’t change post-pregnancy.
*Is “vaginas” not the proper plural? Firefox has a problem with it.
I’m really not sure why this is such an issue. When it comes to choosing a partner, I have the right to hold women to whatever standards I select. I could say that I only date vegan marathon runners who can tap dance while playing the flute, but that doesn’t mean that I have to be a vegan marathon runner who can tap dance while playing the flute. It just means that I probably won’t get a lot of dates.
Excellent use of hyperbole, but it doesn’t apply to me. Obviously if I was in a loving, committed relationship with someone who I had children with, I wouldn’t suddenly choose to end things simply because she stopped shaving. I expect my potential partners to have arms too but that doesn’t mean I’d leave my wife if she lost hers in an accident.
Women are free to keep their hair at whatever length they choose. My own personal preference is women with long hair. There are exceptions to ever rule. I have been attracted to, and dated, women with short hair, but the vast majority of the women I’ve dated have long hair.
Yes, English is my first language, and I clearly don’t put as much weight on the word “should” as you do. I think billionaires should donate more money to the poor, but I don’t think they have some sort of moral or social duty to so. They can do whatever they like with the money they earned, but if I was in their shoes I would act as I believe a billionaire “should.” As stated earlier, I don’t judge a woman negatively if she doesn’t. I wouldn’t choose to not be a woman’s friend if she didn’t shave. If I owned a business, I wouldn’t choose not to hire a woman if I noticed her legs weren’t shaved. I would vote against a law that required women to shave. And yet, I believe that women should shave.
If the word “should” always carried as much weight as you suggest, it would rarely be used. I should go to the gym tonight. I should learn to play piano. I should go see that movie that my co-worker suggested. None of these things imply that I have any kind of obligation to do them.
A few years ago I shared a house with five women, not one of which shaved their legs. You learn a lot when you’re the only guy in a situation like that.
It’s not aversion-level. I think some people misunderstood me. Shaving your pubic hair is not a litmus test. It’s one of many criteria that I use to judge a relationship. If I met someone who didn’t shave, it would probably be a deal-breaker for me. If I met someone who didn’t shave but in most other ways was my perfect match, I wouldn’t dump her because of this one thing.
Imho, it’s about neatness. Any hair looks better if it is neat, brushed, tied, braided, etc. e.g. cared for in any way. Imagine a moustache or beard that wasn’t trimmed or brushed.
Nope, no problem at all for me.
Nope. The only difference I’ve noticed is from diet and cleanliness.
I never had sex with a woman who had a pregnancy. Regarding loose vaginae, yes, I have had trouble climaxing without enough friction (also caused by vaginas that were too wet.)
I’m not buying that a female orgasm creates a gush of liquid. In all the films and experiences I’ve had, the act of sex forces the natural juices into the back of the vagina. Orgasm pushes down on the cervix, causing that liquid to be squirted back out.
No, she’s not. It’s all good. I don’t care for a yeti-crotch, though.
Crotch, fine. Hairy armpits would skeeve me out. Cause a collapse, probably not.
Not in my somewhat limited experience. I’ve found a great variance among members of the same race, though.
Post pregnancy poon is perfectly fine. Post menopausal as well (required some lube, though.) Only one woman in my experience was “loose” to the point of me feeling a lack of sensation. We worked around it.
Two reasons: The first is neatness. It just looks better when it’s kempt. The second is that women are innies and men are outies. So during oral sex, the man gets a lot closer to the woman that she does to him. That’s why it’s more important for women to shave than it is for men.
No, that would not be OK. It’d lower her overall beauty. Body hair is something men have. If she stopped shaving, it’d be like if she suddenly had broad shoulders, big hands, or a flat chest. If that’s enough to tip the scale from “hot” to “not hot”, it’s time to leave.
I dunno.
I dunno.
Yes. It depends on the woman, though. Some are very wet, some not. Some are creamy, some are watery. IME, the wet ones are the watery ones. I couldn’t tell you if that’s for a reason or if it’s “sampling error”.
Are you really having that hard of a time understanding what he’s saying? “You should try this recipe.” Yes, I’m suggesting you have a moral obligation to cook something. :rolleyes:
<nosey girl> What if you were dating one of the great many number of women who have no interest in having you go down on them? Does that make a difference, or would you not be dating women like that in the first place?</nosey girl>
