Questions you've secretly always wanted to ask the other sex

In My Humble Opinion
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For me, it’s because I honestly almost never remember to pull my wallet out ahead of time. I’m so busy trying to remember if I grabbed everything, trying to recall if I need stamps/ice, looking for my grocery discount card on my key ring and being slightly anxious because I’m interacting with strangers. I’ll work on it though, I’m sure it’s annoying.

Gentlemen, why don’t you proactively help clean the house? I’ve lived with several men in my life and not one ever lifted a finger to clean up unless I specifically ask. Bitch sessions with my girlfriends and female relatives have turned up similar stories of, “You just have to ask him to take out the garbage… and then ask him to put a new garbage bag in the container… and never try to give him more than one thing to do at a time.” :eek:

My boyfriend agrees, but I maintain that this cannot be true. I’m not in the habit of dating fools (with one or two exceptions), and I just can’t figure out how a man can figure out what the swishing noise under my hood is, how to configure my router without reading the instructions and how to re-floor the bathroom on his own, but can’t walk by the trash can and think, “Huh. It looks a bit full, I think I’ll take it out.”

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Seconded. What is with that shit? Every single time I go to the supermarket, this occurs. When I’m waiting for stuff to be rung up, I am already holding bills to approximately my mentally calculated total, or my card/s in my hand. Total rung up, I pay.

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And I stick my change/card/chequebook in my pocket and walk off. I don’t stand at the counter and reorganize my financial instruments for ten minutes before getting out of the way of the people behind me.

The trick is to get us into a routine. We can handle multiple instructions at the same time but you have to give us time to fully absorb one before moving on to the other. For example, I am now trained to take out the garbage on Sunday night (pickup is on Monday morning). However, I am not trained to regularly empty the dishwasher; I tend not to do it unless the sink is full and starting to smell.

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Girl here and I always have my money ready before checking out. I also have my parking swipe card in my hand AND the window open before I get to the gate. I’ll agree that it seems to be women who do this most often, although students in a cafeteria seem to be non-gender specific stupid in this regard.

It’s like the idea of having to pay for what you pick up and take to the cash register is a big surprise. It drives me crazy too.

And a question for men: Why is it you always maneuver us into the wet spot? I’ve never yet met a man who will obligingly sleep on the wet spot - yet it’s your secretions!!

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Interesting.

Could it also be, as I’ve heard, that they were giving the guys a chance to pay? Not because the women were cheap, but because they wanted to see if the men would take the lead? Not in a financial way, but in a social way, that is.

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Men, do you really think about sex every 10 minutes? If so, what does “thinking about sex” consist of – a quick mental check-in that your dick is still attached, or a full-fledged sexual fantasy? (And do you think you’d be better multi-taskers if you weren’t all “oh look shiny” with the sex thoughts?)

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It’s just not a priority. Cleaning doesn’t feel as good as sitting.

I have helped with housework, but it’s either out of a sense of obligation or boredom. Either way, it takes a good force of will.

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Ideally, it’s some of both of ours…

But, I actually don’t mind the wet spot. Keeps me cool.

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I think that that’s probably another urban myth. I don’t think I’ve thought about it much this morning at all. (The wet spot post of course made me think of it.) Then again yesterday it was far more often than every 10 minutes.

As far as the wet spot goes, I understand that the secretion doesn’t come out right away, but a few minutes after sex. By definition, it’s going to end up under the woman.

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Yours too! IIRC, you’re in your fifties and married, so presumably condom use isn’t really a requirement, but there’s a wet spot whether or not our secretions are involved. Anyway, it’s good for your complexion.

Usually just a momentary glance at a pair of handy breasts or somesuch.

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This rings true for me, though I’ve definitely come back from dinner to find the bill paid (and not always by a date). A nice surprise, but I always insist on getting them drinks, or buying next time.

As for going in herds, occasionally I’ll be reminded (yes, like a child) by another woman announcing her trip to the bathroom that I should go before dinner, to wash my hands, or after dinner to free up my ladybits. Sometimes it’s to gossip. And sometimes someone needs a tampon or has a fashion emergency best left to the privacy of the washroom.

I’m spoiled – my SO has answered most of my burning questions about boys and their junk.

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“Free up [your] ladybits”?

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Perhaps. In my experience, a man that wishes to pay in a chivalrous manner will pick the check up instantly and announce that he is taking care of it. Escaping to the bathroom because of the check would be pretty cowardly/conniving, but I might bet it’s been done.

In cashier/toll booth/parking/public transit situations I always have my payment ready. I’m happiest if I can swipe my card as the checker is still ringing up my things. I do sometimes forget to press the confirmation button though.

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I’ve heard that it’s a way of avoiding social awkwardness, not greed or cowardice.

I ask because a friend related the story of one of the worst dates she’s ever been on. The guy was going to take her to the movies, but asked if they could get a bite to eat first because he knew he was going to be hungry. When they showed up at the restaurant, he said he had already eaten and so didn’t order anything. He just watched her eat, while all he ordered was water. When the check came (all of $6), he insisted on paying half.

When they got to the theatre, she hung back to see if he would buy one or two tickets. He bought two – then turned around and asked her for $7.

She was more than willing to pay $13 for her part of the date, but what she got treated to was a night full of social awkwardness.

So I’m wondering if women going off to the restroom is something like that.

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Boys: What’s with the spitting? I have never in my life had such a build-up of saliva in my mouth that I felt compelled to spit on the sidewalk, open my car door while stopped at an intersection and spit into the street, etc. I’ve never seen another woman do this either. I understand that tobacco chewing is involved sometimes (euw, but, whatever) but most of the instances I see are not tobacco-related.

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You’ve never been to China, have you?

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I’m usually pretty good about getting payment out in advance. I might not be able to, though, if I only have a few items. I can’t walk and look for something in my purse at the same time, so I need to be able to set my purse down somewhere before I can start looking for my wallet.

I’m not male, but I can take a swing at this.

Some of us do not tend to notice dirt and mess in the house. We can’t understand the ones who say they “can’t relax unless the house is clean”. And yet the same people who can’t relax unless the house is clean can ignore other unwanted sensory input (noise, etc) just fine.

There are some of us who need to be told, in words, how to do something before we can learn it. Having seen someone else do it isn’t enough. We can learn this stuff, but we have a different learning style, so we don’t do so well trying to learn it the same way you might. We do need someone to walk us through it step by step, verbally explaining each step, the first time. And then, just like any learned skill, it might take a few repetitions to get it consistently right.

Some people’s memories just aren’t that good, either. Mr. Neville and I know that, if something really needs to get done, we both have to remember to remind the other to do it. That way, hopefully at least one of us will remember. We’re both pretty good at remembering stuff we’ve read, though, so it seems to be a different sort of memory than that.

And some people have different approaches to chores. He might not be interested in learning to do something your way, if it appears to him that his way is just as good. A lot of people seem to think that there is one true and right way to do every household chore, and every other possible way of doing that chore must be wrong. It doesn’t work that way. If you’re hung up on this one, try to think about why you don’t want the other person to do the chore their way. If all you can come up with is something like “that’s not the way I learned to do it”, or “I think it would be easier my way”, then let it be. If you can think of a real reason why their way won’t accomplish the desired results as well as your way, tell them what those reasons are.

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This is what I don’t understand.

I’ve lived for several years by myself (after the divorce but before a new lady moved in). Same house…rather large for 1 person (3300 square feet).

I spent…maybe 1 hour a week tops doing housework. Dusting, vacuuming, laundry etc. The house looked GREAT. When my future wife saw it for the first time I heard her mutter something like I was a good housekeeper. :slight_smile:

Now I spend probably 3-5 hours per week housekeeping and I see my wife doing more than that…but the house is much more messy/chaotic after this than it was before when I lived by myself.

I mean…WTH? It’s not that she’s a pig or anything…she seems normal. I’ve also noticed this in past relationships.

What is it about women creating so much more of a chaotic environment?! :smiley:

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Definite urban myth, and I believe the myth says we men think about sex every three minutes.

I also think that the studies that attempt to track this have conflated “she’s attractive” with “I’m thinking about sex Sex SEX!” and treat the two as the same. They’re not.

Finally, on the subject of morning wood and peeing: Morning wood doesn’t cause us to pee, but it makes peeing extremely awkward because when Mr. Johnson is standing at attention when its time to pee it makes aiming difficult and/or more forceful.

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We can only multitask if it’s something we want to do.

Cite - see Bill Cosby.