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If you don’t get it, we can’t explain it.
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Oh, god, yes. I made it without any assistance from either parent. I suggest you allow your young’uns to do the same.
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How often do you suspect we do? Most of us get our jerk on about once a day.
I try to notice, my comment is “I liked it before, I like it now, I’ll like what you do next.” (if I like her internally, I’ll like her externally).
They aren’t, nor are they interesting. I don’t get it either.
I don’t recall anything in particular that was an issue re: “managing my member” during puberty that wasn’t an issue when I was 11, and none of it was much of an issue…one exception: all of a sudden, in puberty, orgasm included WET STUFF. It didn’t used to! Now I was leaving, you know, messy spots on the sheets. On this one thing, yeah, it was good to be left alone and to totally NOT have anyone ask me any questions or tell me anything about it.
it varies from day to day and probably from guy to guy. Are you asking how often at max or how often on average, or what?
Sorry I don’t get the question? The only thing I remember being told (beyond the birds and the bees) was that ya gotta wash underneath the turtle neck - and that was long before puberty. What were you exp;ecting - mum to give tips on how to hide an “interested” reaction or something?
Well to each his own - but yes it is! Mind you, I don’t sprinkle and I can aim.
sorry, poorly worded questions, it seems.
#2- All I have to go on re: male puberty is that Judy Blume book, during which the kid is getting these sudden boners, totally freaked out by the whole thing, and completely confused. I’m wondering when my kid goes through all this, several years from now, is it better to do the whole “Your body will be going through changes, and it’s normal, yadda yadda” or to just leave it completely alone, as my boyfriend suggests. His thinking is that Mom will be the LAST person he’ll want to talk to about all that, so I was just curious if that’s the general feeling or just him… my dad wasn’t around so I don’t know what happens when puberty meets opposite sex parents. I have 4 brothers I could poll, I guess, but we will not be discussing this.
When you were going through puberty, was it like “Gee I wish I could talk to my mom about this” or “Gee I hope nobody tries to talk to me about this?”
#3- How often on average. Once a day? Does it change when you’re in a relationship? My ex did it ALL the time, regardless of how often we were intimate. My current doesn’t seem to as much, but I think he does and just wants to keep it ‘his’ time.
This is the 2nd thread I’ve read that referred to earning your redwings. The other being the porn spit thread in IMHO. So ladies:
Cunnilingus during menstruation: yea or nay?
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Dance floor boner? Give it to me baby(1) or bacdafucup(2)
(1)Rick James 1981
(2)Onyx 1993
You know, come to think of it… I’ve never experienced that either. Maybe that’s a behavior restricted to those two particular women on that particular occasion.
To the first question, likely enough. I have in the past. But the kids shouldn’t be too young. Ten at least, I guess.
To the second question, it’s realy not a masculine/feminine thing. It’s just way more convenient to stand.
Listen to your boyfriend. After your kid turns 11 (or so), his mother is no longer allowed to even beat around the bush when it comes to a discussion of what goes on “down there”.
Never ever ever. He’ll figure it out on his own.
Oh, and make sure you knock long and loud before going in his room when he turns 12 or so.
Ladies, why do you fight so dirty, biting, scrathcing trying to gouge the other lasses eyes out etc etc etc, in short, why do you fight like girls? And why don’t your friends seperate you when the fight starts, when guys are fighting, the other boys usually attempt to seperate them after a bit.
I keep reading this and biting my tongue, but now I have to speak for at least some women. I also hate it when people do this and always have whatever I’m paying with in my hand and ready to go by the time I get to the cashier. No piddlin’ around here. I know I’m only one example, but come on, not all women do this.
I’m a guy. My wife is a therapist, and we have converstations about this… frequently. I’ll try to answer a few.
Multi-tasking: Doesn’t seem to be related to sex, as in most things I’m better at the extremes than my wife, she’s better in the middle (I have better single target focus, and I can handle large numbers of tasks at once, two or three that require moderate amounts of attention each is very hard for me).
Emotional displays: Most guys have very strong emotions, and don’t easily or frequently shift from one emotion to another. So we learn to control our affect and actions despite what we feel. My wife has noted that some of her male clients without male role models as the go through puberty are frightend by their tempers, especially when combined with their increase in strength. For me, personally, my ability to reason and observe is greatly lessend when I’m in the middle of a large (for me) emotional display; that’s not a vulnerability I’m willing to allow myself under anything resemebling normal circumstances.
Cleaning: It’s the extremes here as well. If I start paying attention to things being out of place or dirty, I’ll clean until you’d willingly eat off my floor; if I want to do anything else, I’m going to ignore the dirt and disorder until it forces itself into my attention.
Farts: For exactly the same reason that blowing raseberries is funny, plus the additional fun of making someone uncomfortable. This trancends gender, as the worst (best) fart war I ever got in was between me and a gay coworker, with an ancient rental car as the primary battle ground, with each round going to the driver, who could disable the windows :). If you want a more thought out answer, it’s about the deliberate relaxing of social codes that don’t allow us to rip one during the client meeting, and the humor comes from both the physical and emotional release of tension.
Masturbation: daily or so. Our, well, at least my, minds tend to get pretty clouded if we don’t get some relief pretty frequently. Some people are able to channel their sexual energy into other things, the rest of us invest in lotion. 
I’m also thinking about your hot friend, the one who makes you feel insecure.
Puberty: Answer questions that are asked you, but don’t, do not, really don’t try to bring things up yourself. At some point, make sure he knows what he’s capable of, and that you’ll listen, but don’t expect that to actually turn into a conversation. Teach him how to do his own laundry.
Not thinking: What I was thinking about isn’t something I want to discuss. I’m probably way outside the norm, but I’m always thinking about how I’m thinking about what I’m thinking. That may just be the ADHD and too much time spent dealing with virtual enviroments and meta-data.
A couple of questions: Beards: some women seem highly bothered by beards, from short neat ones like mine, to long flowing ones like GusNSpot’s. What’s with the dislike?
Why do you lose some esteem for my wife when she mentions that she likes things like guns, fireworks, and motorcycles? Does it have anything to with her being small, delicate looking, and usually very feminine (she’s the one who organized the stitchNbitch)?
Re: the redwings- Ack. Eeeeeeek. Now, things are amazingly sensitive at that time, and it feels awesome- but the mental image of guy’s face after is enough to put me off even having a vagina.
I long ago had this fella who was completely unfazed by the monthly, no squeamishness at all, and that led me to be more adventurous with him all around. But if I’m bleeding, gahh. Just bend me over in the shower. I have nice sheets.
And Redwing, (heh), I like beards ok, as long as they don’t smell funny.
Somebody needs to discuss these things with him before he hits puberty. It should definitely be a guy. Is your boyfriend up to the task? Can one of your brothers? It should definitely NOT be you.
During the talk, he will squirm. He will be embarassed. He will tell the person teaching him this stuff (whoever it is) that he already knows all that stuff (he doesn’t), that he’s learned it from the older guys at school (they’ve only told him lies, half-truths, and urban legends). Too bad. He needs to hear it, and he will just have to suffer through it.
He will need to be told that masturbation is perfectly normal, that all boys do it (yes, all of them), that a lot of girls do it, that it won’t make you blind or have hairy palms, that it’s not immoral or an indication that you’re gay, etc. He will need to be told that his orgasms will involve wet stuff (I didn’t know about this the first time I came, and I was FREAKED OUT).
After a male has had this discussion with him, NEVER MENTION ANY OF IT AGAIN. Tell him that if he has questions he can ask his uncle or whoever. Prepare for him to be in the bathroom for long periods of time, with the water running. He’s not taking a long dump, he’s flogging the bishop. Prepare for wet spots on his sheets. Don’t mention them to him. In fact, let him change his own sheets. There will be semen stains in his underwear. Teach him to use the washer/dryer so you won’t have to see them and he won’t have to be embarassed by them. He will jerk off as often as he can get away with it. Several times a day, probably.
I can answer this one ! I most often close them back but sometimes, as I’m taking the item out of the drawer, I figure “well, I’m going to put it (or something else) back in shortly, so it’s silly to close the door/drawer when I’m going to want to open it again in 5 minutes”. One thing leads to another, which leads to browsing a Wikipedia page or ten, and the drawer stays open. However, do note that my current (female) SO is not immune to the syndrome.
Can’t either. In fact, I kind of envy those who do have a blank as their mental baseline. Must be… peaceful.
Finally, I gotta say I’m kind of impressed that this thread has gone four pages without any guy asking “so… size *really *doesn’t matter, right ?”. Or surprised. It such an obvious one, isn’t it ?
Me, I don’t care. As any guy who ever asked his girlfriend about it, I’m assured I’m so ridiculously well endowed it’s not even funny anymore ;).
prettydorky, why would you think that beards smell funny? You’re not the first woman on this board who expressed that sentiment. Is it common among women? Why should a beard smell different than any other part of a man’s body.
Do some beards actually smell funny?
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Somebody needs to discuss these things with him before he hits puberty. It should definitely be a guy. Is your boyfriend up to the task? Can one of your brothers? It should definitely NOT be you./QUOTE]
Thanks everyone. Little Dorky is currently 5, so I’ve got a few years. If the bf isn’t around by then, and he should be, then 3/4 of my brothers could handle the discussion. My plan has pretty much been to let him know I’m here if he needs it and then back the F off.
GREAT advice about the laundry.
I think I’ve learned more than I ever expected about penises and balls, just by having him around. Little boys get morning wood too by the way. (nothing like waking to your two year old exclaiming, “Mommy, my wenis is big!!!”). Oh, and piss shiver! What a phenomenon!
I can’t speak for ALL women, but for those I’ve known, size doesn’t matter. Clitoris matters.
And tdn, not all beards smell funny, but they are hair. So just like a man’s bush or hair or armpits can smell funny, so can beards. Plus, some men stroke their beards, or ew wipe their hands on them. I’ve seen it. Then you add the proximity to food, cigarette smoke, beer, and really anything the mouth goes in or on and yeah… conditions are ripe for odor.