Actually, it’s not being an ass per se that he seems to enjoy as much as being the center of attention. However, at some point he realized that he didn’t have the goods to get people’s attention by being smart or witty. So he went with assholery as his technique.
Granted, I’m feeding his desire for attention via this post, which is probably a mistake, but after 7 pages, what’s one more post? (However, two more posts would be wrong, so I plan on ignoring his inevitable response of calling me a dumbass.)
And for the same reason (i.e., lack of ability to get people’s attention by being smart or witty), you have apparently gone with “pile on the guy no one else likes either” as your technique. Way to join the bandwagon.
Nope, since you’re just making it up to score an imaginary point rather than basing it on something I actually did.
You, on the other hand, have acknowledged that you’re responsible for a particular assish act. I’ll quote that acknowledgement for you again:
I repeat: If you admit that you are responsible for needlessly jumping on other posters, or for causing people to think that you needlessly jump on other posters, then why don’t you stop doing it?
Sure, it’s always possible for somebody to be completely misinterpreted in a way that they’re not responsible for, but by your own admission, that’s not the case here. You admit it’s your own fault that you come across as somebody who “needlessly jumps on other posters”, i.e., an ass.
So why not just stop being an ass? And maybe even, Ogforbid, apologize for being an ass?
I read that post again, and it could have been clearer. I meant that I’m responsible for the actions I took. I am responsible for typing the words I am currently typing. I am not responsible for the opinion of me you develop based on those words.
Say I was in love with you and wanted you to be in love with me. I would probably type certain words in my posts designed to do that. But I don’t think I would be responsible for whether you fell in love with me or not, that depends on your feelings, which I have no control over. To think otherwise is simply ridiculous.
Given that you’re ultimately responsible for your own outcomes, why do you think it is that so many people so heartily dislike you? Could it be on account of your behaving like an ass?
Sorry, but this is delusional. Of course you have some control over how other people feel about you. Sure, you can’t control whether or not they fall in love with you, but whether they consider you tolerably likeable or a flaming asshole largely depends on your own actions.
For somebody who’s so ready to criticize other people’s “whining” and “blaming others” for bad outcomes in their own lives, you sure seem pretty mired in denial and blame about your own experiences. Oh, boo-hoo, people who dislike me are misinterpreting me. Waaah, people are piling on me because nobody likes me. Mommmmmyyy, they’re making shit up about me!
Basically, we have here a situation that is most likely explained by one of two possibilities:
Rand Rover is being unfairly misrepresented, misunderstood, and browbeaten in ways he’s not responsible for, primarily because ill-disposed posters whose feelings about him are completely outside his control irrationally dislike him, disapprove of his politics, and/or are envious of his superior wealth or job security.
Rand Rover is roundly disliked on his own merits because of his propensity for acting like an ass.
Is there anything in this post that you haven’t said in previous posts? Do you think it sounds better the more you say it?
Why do you think other messageboard posters’ perceptions of me counts as an “outcome”? I’ve been posting stuff about people being responsible for the outcomes in their lives in threads where people have lost their job, etc.
Finally, it’s plain that you don’t like me. Why are you not happy just not liking me? Why do you have to somehow try to prove up some shoddy case that I’m being hypocritical or not applying my own philosophy correctly? Instead, you could just not like me without putting your lack of reasoning ability on display.
Oh, so losing your job in an economic crunch is one of the “outcomes” that the formerly-employed person needs to take responsibility for…but being called an ass by a dozen or so people of various ideological perspectives in response to reading things that you’ve written doesn’t even count as an “outcome”?
How very convenient. “Hey, I don’t need to take responsibility for my assish behavior, because when other people call me on it, I just won’t count that as one of the outcomes in my life! La la la la li li!”
Hey, I’m just trying to motivate you to take responsibility for yourself. If at some point in your later posts you show that you understand that you’re responsible for yourself and will stop acting like an ass, my posts may have done some good.
What you said answers the question “How do I avoid being in the position of competing with 2000 people for a job?” It does not answer the question “How do I compete against 2000 people?”
What you actually assume is a matter for speculation, but it appears that you assume that he will regard your response to be a useful answer to his actual qustion, rather than unhelpful “suck-on-it-you-[del]liberal-douche[/del]-whiney-victim-of-your-own-poor-decisions” snark.
Another possibility is that your assumptions don’t enter into it, and that you don’t care how Quartz regards your response.
Because it is. There’s not really a demand for this. In case you haven’t noticed, you haven’t really garnered much respect around here. Certainly not enough that anyone is looking to you for any kind of motivation. You should probably work on earning the arrogance you’re displaying.
Not so much a cop-out as it is an outright lie. He knows exactly what he’s doing (motivating!!!).
This is quite an amazing position to take. How about some additional examples? Suppose you say something really annoying to your boss and he gets angry at you. His fault, right? Suppose you blurt out something really stupid to someone who is unaware of how brilliant you are, and they walk away assuming they are leaving the presence of a moron. All their fault, right?
It seems to me that in any communication, both sides bear some responsibility for the outcome. The receiver obviously has a role, but the sender can’t claim to have no role.
Keep something pointy beside you when reading it. Every so often poke yourself in the eye with said pointy instrument. Go deeper each time. By the time you are 5% through the book, you will have reached your brain. The book will seem much better.
Bullshit. When you treat people like crap (which you did) you better expect them to respond in the same way. You were an asshole. People then treated you like the jerk you are. You are responsible for the opinion these people formed. You caused it, you triggered it, and now you are amplifying it.
You’re an asshole. People consider you an asshole. Accept it. Deal with it. And then shut the hell up. No one is “required” to be nice to you or kiss your ass or tolerate your behavior.
I’m an asshole sometimes myself. However, I generally do NOT do it on purpose. You do
