As she said, it’s enough to support a single women.
Hell, I’ve supported TWO people on that!
It’s not a “lot” of money, but it’s not poverty, either.
Certain jobs (mostly service jobs) aren’t too surprising since people tend to be younger in those jobs and young people are more attractive.
The incogruency more applies, to me at least, when it isn’t service sector work (working in a mall, working at a restaurant, etc) or ‘look at me’ work (journalist on the tv news).
Hot laboratory technicians for example. I’ve met a few of those, that feels more incongruent than hot women at McDonalds.
Taking the serious side of this… next time you see a “hot” woman in a menial job, talk to her for a few minutes. You’ll probably get your answer.
She might not be terribly well educated. Or have the personality of a lamppost. Someone who is “hot,” and knows and believes it, may decide there’s nothing worth investing their time and energy into. I went to high school with so many women like this. If you see them five years on, they’ve lost some of their looks and discover that life’s not so easy.
It also depends. Most high school kids have crappy jobs. Once you have your diploma things should get slightly better. Should.
Laboratory technician isn’t a menial job. It’s an ordinary job.
I’ve been told I’m very vaguely attractive. I work a crappy job, because the previous company I worked for went under and I took the first thing I could get. I’m still at this crappy job because I’ve gotten raises and a promotion, but I’ll start interviewing depending on how my review this month goes. And yes, I have a degree.
I have never actually looked for a sugar daddy, but when I was in college I’d see all the creepy men trying to pick up girls in bars and they were all disgusting. I can’t fathom sleeping with, much less having a relationship with someone like that.
I’ve only been asked out once while on the job and the guy ended up being obsessed with Sept. 11th, so that didn’t work out well. He ended up dating a girl whose dad was a fire fighter.
So overall, I’d say good looks are mostly useless unless you want to hook up with creepy old men or people who are obsessed with terrorist attacks.
Remember that it’s a lot more difficult to be hot when you have a menial job. For one thing, a woman in a menial job cannot afford a good haircut, nice clothes and accessories or high-quality makeup. She is less likely to have the time to exercise, style her hair, etc. She is less likely to eat well or be well rested. She is more likely to be showing the effects of physical stress on her face and posture, and more likely to be carrying an extra 10 lbs. If she comes from an impoverished background, she is less likely to even know any of these things exist or make a difference.
Start with 100 breath-taking, heart-pounding middle-class beauties and take away these advantages and you will find that 99 of them become “pretty”. Sometimes when I see a beautiful woman in a menial job, I don’t think “she could do better”, I think “How can she afford to look like that when she works here?”
No one ever wonders about charming, distinguished-looking older gentlemen in “really crappy jobs.” I feel slighted.
This whole thing is ridiculous. People don’t give hot women advantages because seeing hot people makes them suddenly kind and generous. People give hot women advantages because they are trying to manipulate them. That guy offering you a job as an “executive assistant” because you have great legs? He does not have your best interests in mind, and you know that.
Some small percentage of people can play the players and use all the would-be manipulators to their advantage. But people like that are rare. In most cases, trying to play along with people who are manipulating you ends up disastrously. Look at celebrities with their handlers or dictators with their yes-men. Trying to get by on the backs of people who want something out of you is an easy way to end up alone, insecure, substance-addicted and eventually broke. Even if you think you are stronger than that, it’s easy to get in over your head and lose perspective.
I think most attractive women learn fairly quickly to stay away from anyone claiming to offer something for nothing, and those people become a distraction and annoyance. This leaves them with finding success the old fashioned way- through using their skills. It’s a safer bet, anyway. We don’t live in the Mad Men universe, and populating your office with a bevy of young women is not a priority for a lot of hiring managers (who may, you know, be women themselves.) Of course, being attractive can be an asset in using those skills, but it’s not really worth more than being funny, charming, or any other set of traits that make you good with people.
Because the men who want to hire/date me based only on my looks are not the type of men I want to work for/date. I used to get a ton of offers from wealthy, older men when I was single. I gave one a small chance and quickly found out how controlling and disrespectful he could be. None of my model friends who had sugar daddies were treated as well by them as my boyfriends and now husband treats me.
That is an amazingly perceptive statement.
That’s why they invented threesomes (and foursomes, fivesomes, etc.).
Well, you tell me if this is a perceptive statement or not:
For the most part, people are only interested in each other for either financial gain or sexual amusement. Thems the facts of life. When a “hot chick” gets a job, it means
- the boss compromised the former for the possibility the of the latter
- Saw that she was a financial assest just on skills and saw the potential of sex as a windfall.
- Saw her hotness as a financial asset in itself (“Does the doctor have a minute to discuss this new drug we’ve developed?”)
But at a glance, we just don’t know.
I think it’s more complicated than that. I know I respond differently to very attractive people, and it’s not a matter of thinking I will get them in the sack. It’s just satisfying to have a highly attractive person like you, smile at you, admire you. It feels validating.
It seems to me that having that sort of impact on the people around you could be an advantage when it came to getting a job, and in some cases, succeeding in that job. If I am buying a car and talked with four sales people, I’m most likely to remember the charismatic, attractive one by name and all other things being equal, I’m more likely to buy from him/her not because I am thinking 'I’ll buy this Ford Focus and maybe he will bang my brains out" but because if I have to deal with someone, I’d rather deal with the one that I enjoyed being around. If I am hiring someone, everything else being equal, I’m going to be more likely to hire the attractive person. That’s what attractive means.
That doesn’t mean that being attractive is sufficient to have everything handed to you on a platter. If all you have going for you is attractiveness, you’re not likely to do well. But attractive people are no less likely to be intelligent, kind, hard-working, intuitive, etc., so they have on average everything everyone else has plus this extra edge. I’d expect that to have a cumulative effect over a lifetime.
Manda JO expresses well something I’ve tried to articulate. Yes, we guys can be sexually attracted to someone, but that is often a minor and even distracting part of the phonomenon. (We can be sexually attracted to people we don’t even like, for pete’s sake…) But the thing is more general than that. Being favourably-regarded by an attractive person makes us feel more attractive, or competent, or worthy.