I enjoy talking to and even, if she is receptive, flirting with the occasional very “model-hot” female I come across. But I don’t think I could ever be able to trust and pursue a serious relationship with one, even if such a female was interested in having one with me. At any moment she could be with anyone she chooses, and though she may choose me for a time my experience with those sorts of females don’t find them particularly, how shall we say, consistent.
Of course, oftentimes I have found such females to have really awful attitudes. Understandably, this is probably a result of a lifetime of constant, mostly unwelcome advances and hitting-ons from men (and probably women too). Why would I want to deal with that?
On the flip side, for the women - are you ever weary of “very hot” guys who are the object of other women’s attention? Do you think they can be trusted? (this poll is open to both men and women of any orientation but it helps if you identify your own gender)
If the person’s “hot”-ness is only a matter of looks, then I don’t think it would make that big a difference in whether I’d trust them or not.
If, OTOH, their “hot”-ness comes also from deliberately using their looks and sexuality to get attention or other favorable treatment, I might wonder if they were just using me for something and would go elsewhere as soon as someone with shinier toys came along.
One’s appearance doesn’t have anything to do with their upbringing or ethics. Hot people merely have more opportunities for infidelity (i assume that’s what the OP means by ‘trust’).
There are tons of people that have lots of opportunity to do unethical things for personal gain in a variety of different areas. Very few of them do it though.
That’s what I’m mainly referring to here. But I also think such people will often use their attractiveness to ply other things they want from someone, like money.
Well, they more often can use their attractiveness. Those who aren’t attractive don’t really have the option, eh?
There are plenty of smokin’ hot folks who wouldn’t think of being unfaithful or manipulative. Ruling them out as a class is doing a disservice to them and to you.
That said, of course some good-lookers have suffered the “curse of beauty,” where their looks were virtually the only thing that garnered positive attention. Growing up this way does not make for a well balanced person. And some are selfish opportunists who can’t really be trusted. But that certainly doesn’t apply to all of them.
Then I guess its a matter of degrees. Unless lies are told or the hot person intentionally misleads someone about their intentions then its “buyer beware” so to speak.
Meaning, if someone buys a hot person something or does their work for them on the job or whatever simply because that person is attractive then that someone “asked for it”. Now if the hot person lies or intentionally misleads because they know they’re hotness works in their favor then its unethical and my point in the previous post would apply.
If someone does something something they normally wouldn’t do just because the person is hot, then they only have themselves to blame.
I would expect them to be less trustworthy on average, especially sexually. First, if someone can manipulate people with their looks, there are good odds they will, human nature being what it is. It’s a form of power, and power tends to be abused. I think it’ll be worse with respect to sex, because their instincts will always be pushing them to find a “better” mate.
It depends on the stakes but that’s a very dark view of human nature. In my professional experience, by and large, people will do the right thing. The people that don’t really do it a lot which gives me great job security. Looking purely at the numbers; give a random sample an opportunity to commit fraud (or dishonesty if you will, but its really the same thing) and a very small percentage actually will.
I don’t really know what super-hot/model-hot means. Does it include clothes, makeup, etc.? I figure it’d have to, as a number of hip models would look pretty eh in sweatpants with no makeup. This whole thing sounds like sitcom plot territory. A lot of people will say ‘I’m hot’ or somesuch and I just won’t see it.
Can they be trusted? Based on looks, probably yes. Infidelity IMO has more to do with character than looks. If you follow men’s eyes you can tell that you don’t need to be a model to be checked out, considered, or approached (please don’t take that the wrong way, ladies). As for the attitude thing - some women just don’t like being hit on.
Not really. After all, we take steps to prevent our nastier side from having free reign. Most people clearly prefer the “Light Side”, as it were. On the other hand :
When the temptation is right there in front of us it’s hard to resist. Especially when it’s something easy to rationalize; even more so when the harm is indirect or in the future. Like the example of insider trading; you’re not engaging in corruption; you’re helping a buddy with a tip; you’re not hurting people - directly. When the instincts involved are strong it’s also hard to resist, and makes the rationalizing part easier. Like dieting; hunger overrides determination all the time. Plus, of course, some people will do bad things if they can get away with it, who wouldn’t if they couldn’t.
“Super hot people” fit these categories. Since attracting people is easy - in fact it’s hard not to for them - the temptation is always there. It’s easy to rationalize, since the harm or stupidity involved is generally indirect or in the future; right now, it’s fun. Sex is a very strong instinct, and we aren’t made for sexual fidelity or prudence. We are made to cheat.
And being really attractive is most certainly a useful tool for getting away with things. The standard example would be a pretty woman flirting her way out of a ticket ( I recall reading a comment from a female highway patrol officer, who said she found it highly amusing to stop someone, and find a young woman primping and preening herself - and totally deflating when she saw it was a female officer ).
And note, I didn’t say that all really attractive people are less trustworthy, or even much less trustworthy. I just think that if you were to measure it, highly attractive people would be on average, somewhat less trustworthy; and even then, mostly about sexual fidelity.
I’m a hetero female who has been involved with some guys who were, by physical standards, “hot” as well as some “geeky” guys who were not attractive by mainstream physical standards. I’m not sure about cheating, since the reasons people cheat are complex and to my knowledge none of the guys in my life have actually cheated on me.
However, I would say that overall the hot guys seemed to be more prone to acting selfish and lying to me.
I honestly wish that I hadn’t developed an eye for the pretty boys, because in my experience they are rarely as kind, sensitive, or intelligent as less physically attractive guys can be. Rationally, I know that beauty fades and that it isn’t a good criteria to judge men by, but obviously attractions aren’t always rational.
I’m sure there are cases of hot people who have a total heart of gold, but as a general trend I believe that the way the general public reacts to hot people tends to encourage them to be self-centered. Hot jerks don’t get the reality check that an ugly person who is overly full of him/herself will get. People will make excuses for a hot jerk’s bad behavior, especially if the hot person’s partner fears that the hot person is actually “out of their league”.
Good looks are indeed a form of currency, and I’ve been known to trade on them. Combined with a generous dose of charm, they’ve been pretty effective in getting me what I want on many occasions. However, what I usually want is to get my reports faster from IS, or to get into that club without paying a cover, or for the restaurant manager to track down that month-old receipt for my boss.
I *don’t * want to have sex with everyone I meet just to prove that I can. That would be the behavior of an emotionally damaged person, not a pretty one.
Not trusting people who are more attractive than average is ridiculous, unless you also don’t trust people who are smarter than average, or have more money than average, or possess any other advantage in “unfair” amounts.
