I convinced my sister and her fiance to come down south for a vacation and visit her older sister and her husband, my girlfriend, and me. We had planned to show her around the area and show her a few things close by (within two 1/2 hours drive at most). I took the week off of work. It was my only week this year, it has been over a year, and it’ll be another year until I get a week off again.
When she arrived she surprised us with the fact that she is pregnant. She told us she was trying to get pregnant for the last month but two weeks ago said she was giving it a break. The very first night she came in her fiance spent the majority of dinner playing on his phone. We wanted to show them around the city but fiance was feeling sick so we cut it short. I got a sour feeling in my stomach - I had majorly miscalculated this visit.
Socio-sister was staying at my older sister’s house. The next morning we meet up for breakfast, very late, and fiance stays home sick. We proposed showing socio and fiance around campus as well as the city. The entire time socio is playing with her phone, as is fiance. She doesn’t pay attention to much and is generally unimpressed or interested. We go to the park with my dogs and socio, fiance and older sister all find the nearest shade and plop down. They continue playing with phones. I mention that maybe we should pay attention to each-other instead of the phones since they flew 1000 miles to be here. Socio say’s not to “start something”.
The remainder of the week involves girlfriend and I trying to find fun things to do that aren’t expensive or intensive. Every single thing is either shrugged off or trudged through with minimal enthusiasm. Girlfriend and I are devastated. We both work hard and don’t have much vacation time. I invite socio and fiance over for dinner and TV/Games figuring that activity is so easy anyone could be happy. She shows up with fast food, mostly ignores me showing her how I make my pizza. Her and fiance barely eat. Fiance plays on phone, texting again, while socio just lays down. Neither is interested in TV or games. At one attempt of playing games fiance actually dropped the controller and started texting.
The last night they are here we come over later in the evening and bring dinner. At this point I’m pretty mad but trying to keep the peace and make one last attempt at a meaningful encounter. They are obviously upset that we have arrived and begin texting each-other. Girlfriend and I finish a few drinks with older sister’s husband and do our own thing since socio and fiance want to watch a movie alone. On their last night visiting. At this point water would steam off me.
And then the explosion. We announce we are going to the store with older sister driving, since we had two beers each. Socio says she will come. On the way back socio is talking about baby stuff and mentions her sorority sister. I mention that the SS was a bit of a whore in college. I didn’t think socio would mind as she had said so many times herself. I was mainly filling in for my girlfriend who hadn’t met her. Socio immediately jumps to sorority sister’s defense, calling me an ignorant asshole and saying SS was a virgin when I met her.
She goes back to her sorority sister’s family tradition of bringing nothing new to the house until the baby is brought home. I asked “from what point, conception?” Socio replies “quit being a fucking idiot.”
Now folks, I’ve had my entire vacation time wasted and ruined by two childish people who I’d thought had grown up in the last two years I’d met them seeing as their rushing into having a baby. So at this point I’m very mad, AND I’ve been called a “fucking idiot” for asking a legitimate and honest question.
I said “I’m not being an idiot, I’m asking from when to when do you not bring anything home, from conception?” She calls me a “fucking asshole”. At this point I completely lose it and rail into her. We get out of the car as we’ve arrived and I say some pretty bile things, admittedly bile, grab my stuff and leave with girlfriend. Girlfriend and I are both pissed. Girlfriend chides me a bit: you were completely right in that argument and if you’d stayed calm everyone would have been on your side. I agree with her but admit I lost my cool as no one would call them out on their bullshit the entire time.
This is getting long and I don’t want to expand too much on why I think she is a sociopath unless anyone is actually interested.
I have decided that I won’t be around her any more. Ever. I don’t need someone that negative in my life. Family or not.
