D’ya think maybe I could get his number?
My experience was the same as Joey P’s. So frustrating. I support their right not to offer their services to those of us in limbo, but I would love to have used those three hours more productively.
Are you gay? I don’t think they allow gay people to use the site.
They didn’t used to, but I just looked and now they have a linked site called Compatible Partners that is only for gay people. Oddly, it says it’s for gays and lesbians but literally every single picture on the front page is of men.
Also, their excuse for not allowing gays before was that the service is aimed at finding marriage partners, and gays can’t get married. So that’s obviously total bullshit.
I think its more complicated than that. Supposedly their matching algorithm was based on studying what made succesful and happy male-female couples. If thats true and they they did not study a bunch of lesbians or gays then I think that arguement might have some validity.
Or in other words, it wasn’t “we don’t want you business”, it was “we have no idea if our system is going to work for you”.
Female? Living? Left Handed? Crazy? I’m curious.
Smokers probably. Though left-handed is pretty bad too.
Maybe he refused to date anyone who would sign up for an online dating service.
So they were all Marxists?
For some reason, the word “undateable” makes me think of this:
Yeah Iggy, don’t leave us hanging!
I was rejected once. I am sure a big part of it is my personality. Also, this was a long time ago, before anyone had heard of them or before they were advertising on TV. It’s likely that their pool was smaller then. I wasn’t too crushed. I had mainly just wanted to try the tests, the same reason I was on OKCupid. I was on a bit of a psychometrics kick then.
I had a friend who worked for them briefly. She said most rejections were based the responses suggesting either deception or depression. Don’t know if it’s true or not, but I do remember they repeated the same question in different ways, so the lying part makes sense. I also remember thinking that the change in phrasing changed the meaning, so if that is what they’re trying to do, I don’t trust the accuracy.
Great. So they discriminate against the mentally ill. Like I didn’t already have enough reason to hate this site.
Why wouldn’t you trust the accuracy? I think the idea behind changing the phrasing is to make sure you’re not just flying through the questions to get to your matches without actually reading them.
For example (and I’m just making this up without putting a lot of thought into it)
If one question asked if you like camping and hiking and later on there was a question that asked if you liked the outdoors or would rather stay inside and you answered yes to one and no to the other, it might raise a red flag. As I recall, there were several times when I thought to myself “huh, I swear I already answered this” and it seemed pretty clear that it was just to make sure that you were still paying attention as the survey was getting pretty long and some people, no doubt, just start clicking random answers at some point.
Was it up front or a small link on the bottom? I only remember something saying sign up free take our free survey. If they said to check eligibility first I would have.
I would love to have been able to screen the mentally ill out of my dating pool. It would have saved me from a divorce and I still would have had all the money I made.
Well… I don’t see them matching up liars with liars and depressed people with depressed people working out well 
I’m sure that it’s in the small print somewhere but I don’t recall it being obvious. I went through that damn two hour test about six weeks before my divorce was final. At the very end I clicked on Separated thinking that I would change it when the thing became final. After all of that time taking the test, I was ineligible. I get that they probably don’t make the info obvious upfront to avoid having people lie about their status but that was really annoying.
I am rural and they didn’t have any matches nearby for me.
I swear there was some option I chose in the process of signing up that limited the area I was willing to travel (it was still a big number - 150 miles or something, I don’t remember) but I would get “matches” from coast to coast.
:rolleyes:
wish they had rejected me instead of taking my money.
A bunch of friends and I tried it when it first came out, no television commercials at the time, I don’t think. It was over a decade ago.
I don’t recall the exact phrasing, but every single one of was was rejected and at the time we got a very definite sense it was because we were not religious at all, in any way. Not even atheist.
I wasn’t rejected, it turned out no one wanted to date me.
Yeah, Covered_In_Bees got it. Just smoking. For me kissing a smoker is like licking an ashtray.
For all I know some of them might be left handed too. Oh! The horror!
Screening them out from people for whom it would be dealbreakers is fine. Screening them out as a matter of course just screams prejudice.
BTW, I’d say about 50% of the Dope are depressed, and yet a lot of them are in loving relationships. You even spoke to one quite recently.