Age you most closely identify with: 25
Gender you most closely identify with: female
Ethnic origin you most closely identify with: white
Hometown you most closely identify with: Phoenix
Height while wearing the shoes of your choice: 6’1"
Do you like Marilyn Manson?: Yes
What about Marilyn Monroe?: No
Are you a Raiders fan?: No
Are you for or against the color pink?: Against
Can you curl your tongue in a circle?: Yes
Long answer (hopefully!) survey questions (if you do not currently have a partner, feel free to fill the survey out about a previous partner)
- When you are mad/annoyed at your partner, what is it usually over (cheating, toothpaste in the sink, different choices in music, etc.)?
Miscommunication, lack of validation toward my feelings, when he does something that upsets me and he doesn’t feel I should be upset. The different ways men and women are “wired”… he makes generalized statements about women that annoy me because it seems he is picky on me.
- When your partner is mad/annoyed at you, what is it usually over?
Mostly the same as above, he feels I get too emotional and I see only my side in a situation.
- What have you found to be the most effective way to be forgiven by your partner?
When I explain myself and my actions, reactions. When I step back and look at my behavior, and acknowledge it works both ways. I then apologize.
- What does your partner usually do to gain your forgiveness?
He apologizes and tells me how lucky he is to have me, hugs. Also, he does the same as I do above but hugs and sorry first.
- What do you view as the main stressors in your relationship (lack of sleep, different views on money, etc.)?
Family, my mother specifically (she is a nutcase). We have very busy schedules and don’t get much time together, it stresses us out, lack of sleep also affects us. His son’s behavior when he is with us (he’s a sweetie but he doesn’t listen to his father and it stresses my SO out).
- Please describe the cirsumstances surrounding the most serious tension that has ever been between you and your partner.
There hasn’t been one particular situation that stands out. They never get to or beyond an extreme point because we realize it’s just not important to be that mad. Mainly our fights are annoyance and not great emotional upheavals that leave us numb or anything. We talk everything out.
- What do you and your partner do to communicate to each other that you are mad/annoyed with them?
I am silent and I won’t look at him. It’s body language. He gets grumpy and mumbles, it’s his tone of voice.
- Do you find that you feel closer or more distant from your partner during and after an argument?
Definitely closer! We learn from each other and fights show us the good, the bad, and the ugly sides of ourselves. We can still love each other after “the showdown”. During, I don’t feel close but afterwards, I feel I know him that much better. We never use bad names or really hurtful words. It’s a healthier relationship than all the others I have had (3 major).