I’ve never been too fond of any of her boyfriends with the exception of 1. I’ve certainly never been friends with any of them enough to talk to them about how she treated them. From my experience, she seemed to always be more interested in them than they were in her, but that’s probably because I was the overprotective guy friend who was eager to tell her she was a princess and her boyfriend was shitty.
In her last relationship, she was the doormat. She dated a Marine who started going to school a few hours away a few months after they started dating. He refused to come home to visit her, so she made the trip for him a few times. He said he was too broke to call, so she gave him an old cell phone of hers and bought him a bunch of minutes. From what I saw, he wasn’t MEAN to her, but he also wasn’t overly NICE to her. And I know he attended a wedding or 2 with her, but he bitched and moaned the whole time and made her feel bad for asking him. Even when they were dating, I think I went to more weddings/family gatherings with her than he did.
Anyway, during this whole thing I was adamant about her not taking crap, and her not putting too much into a relationship she wasn’t getting anything out of. Maybe she’s taking my advice to heart and not letting herself get in the same position she was before… I don’t know. Still, I don’t feel like either side of our relationship is 1-sided at the moment. With the exception of the OP, I’ve never felt disrespected or like I was treated rudely.
If my bf had done what your gf did I would go with the assumption that he lied about the baby (or whatever excuse he would have given me) to satisfy me that he had another “legit” thing to do that would be as non-fun as my engagement and that he then skived off at the last minute to go raving.
Since neither me nor my bf go raving or whatever party thing your gf skived off to I’ll just outline what my thought-process would be
Me: come with me to [insert dull event usually attended as a couple so that you can both be bored together and then talk smack about on the way home]
Him: actually I have to [insert dull event that I wouldn’t be able to complain that he’s going to rather than dull couple event]
Me: yeah, no probs
Him: hey, actually instead of going to [dull alternative event] I went to [something fun while you suffered alone]
Which to me screams:
LIES to get out of stuff rather than just coming out and saying “I don’t want to do it” which would be INFINITELY more annoying (the lying, I mean). If a guy doesn’t want to come to some dull couple event with me I’m not going to throw a snit…maybe I’ll put it in reserve for skiving off of one of his dull events in the future or make him pay me off in massages or something but seriously just come out and fucking say it instead of lying about another legit dull event and then sneaking off to do X in a cornfield or something.
Uhhh??? You find weird that a SO can drop by at your place or has your keys in a non-casual relationship?
Change the locks? Don’t ler her alone lest she could cheat on you? Do you have more sound advices to share about healthy relationships? Have you ever heard about trust?
You find weird that a SO can drop by at your place or has your keys in a non-casual relationship?