My sense of balance has been a tad off lately. Would it have to be right on top?
I want a guy who has dark hair, brown eyes, meium build, Mid 30s or 40s who is a plumber!
I hope you’re not under the impression that I’m frustrated with looking for an SO. I don’t want a date., I’m just asking 1) to get some dialogue going, 2) I’m seriously tired of the Existence of God threads in GD and 3) out of morbid curiosity to see if anyone can say anything original about the topic.
I’m not missing the point. My counterpoint is that a non-debatable quality of the single most sexiest woman on the planet is that she can squish her own bugs, metaphorically speaking.
The way I figure it is that when two people get married, this union should add up to more than the sum of its parts. 1 + 1 > 2 (that’s a pre-child number.) My concern is that this union of two people, one of which now can no longer squish her/his own bugs, equals some quantity less than 2.
Have you tried the Creation/Evolution threads instead?
How much more originality are you looking for? Should we start suggesting that “girls just wanna have lunch”? (Weird Al)
Gee, I really have to learn how to use the quote feature…
However, dear Inertia, when I was married, I retained my ability to squish bugs. And open jars. And get estimates on car repairs. And haul those 400-lb trash cans to the curb, and mow the huge sloping lawn even when pregnant, and empty litter boxes, and use power tools (that B in woodworking class at Kent State came in handy.)
But when my husband was around, he did those things, because 1.) he knew they weren’t my favorite activities,
2.) doing them made him feel productive and yes, masculine, and 3.) he preferred doing those things to sewing, cooking, cleaning, changing diapers, removing slivers, grocery shopping and rubbing feet.
Maybe there are some women who use a relationship as an excuse to become helpless and dependent, but most of us are able to cope…we would just prefer not to do it alone. Or with a lazy, self-centered boy. What women really want is men. Grown-up, responsible men.
And that’s not an attitude exclusive to females. I miss the “division of labor” thing, too. Sure, it was along pretty “sexist” lines when I was married, but we both preferred it that way, and there were exceptions (I was the primary baby-tender). Now I’ve grown accustomed to handling everything myself, and I still get my “White Knight” fix from opening jars and killing bugs for my daughter, but it isn’t exactly the same. Plus, it often seems it would be nice to have someone else braid my daughter’s hair, or rub my shoulders, or…did you say Cleveland, kittenblue? 
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*Originally posted by chula *
HOW TO PLEASE A MAN
Show up naked. Bring beer.
Forget the beer!!!
I want a guy who is emotionally healthy, or working on it. Once you have that, all those other things – kindness, financial responsibility, etc. – kinda fall into place. Think about it – all the worst male and female traits (abusiveness, materialism, laziness, overspending, overeating, infidelity) come from some kind of unmet emotional need. Resolve that crap, and you’re free to give your best to a relationship.
FTR this guy will squish on behalf of a woman verminous bugs such as roaches and venomous arthropods such as Black Widows; however, innocuous spiders and millipedes I will just toss out over the other side of the hedge.
My sparing the spiders annoyed a very dearly beloved lady to no end. Which only steeled my resolve
Ooh, then I must be astonishingly sexy. I’ve squished a few bugs which were bigger than me (metaphorically speaking) and next week I take on a bug which is loaded for bear and waiting for me. I’m looking forward to it.
What I’m looking for, though, is pretty easy. There are two items which are not negotiable:
- honesty
- a sense of humor
Anything else can be overlooked (or enjoyed!), if those two traits are present.
Otherwise, I’m looking for someone who is a whole person all by himself, who has a life and is looking to enrich it, not someone who has no life and is trying to find one.
By the same token, he should understand that I have a life as well, and while I will appreciate the time I spend with him, I will not sit at home and waste away when he is not there.
Some things in common would be nice, since I do some things now that I’d like to share with someone who knows the value of these things. Differences will also be appreciated, since I don’t know everything and would be delighted to be introduced to new ideas, foods, things to do, whatever. I also enjoy being the first to introduce someone else to things I like.
I’d prefer that he be communicable disease-free (as I am); however, see item 1 in my list. This is not an insurmountable problem when he is honest with me.
As for the rest of the list, hmm… money, looks, age… ah, I don’t seem to see them on my list. Perhaps I’ve misplaced them… <checking>… nope. So it looks like if you make me laugh, you’re halfway there.