Or it might help him. Distract his higher brain functions, so his subconcious can work on the problem without interference. Sort of like the way Sheldon bussed tables at The Cheesecake Factory, only a lot more fun.
He should procure himself one or two more “girlfriends” under similar arrangements.
My romantic side says, “no way.”
My rational side says, “go for it.”
If Aloysius thinks that Michelle is compatible with him, not just sexually but in the sense of a friend or companion, then I would counsel him to get a contract written and signed and then have fun. Who knows? Perhaps after 3 years, Michelle may find him to be a truly wonderful person and stay with him. Or, alternatively, Aloysius may find her to be dreadfully unpleasant.
Another great hypothetical from Skald the Rhymer!
Even if he’s not that concerned on his own behalf, if this arrangement would be illegal then Michelle is probably more vulnerable to prosecution or scandal than he is. She’s apparently willing to take that risk, but a blackmailer could send Aloysius a note saying “Give me a kajillion dollars or I go to the police/media with the news that your ‘girlfriend’ is a whore.” He’d then be faced with some unpleasant choices about what, if anything, he’d be willing to do to protect her. I’d prefer not to get myself into such a situation in the first place, but maybe Aloysius would feel this isn’t likely enough to affect his decision, or maybe he’s fine with either using his money to shield Melissa or else leaving her out to dry. It’s going to come down to what his values and priorities are.
Is Aloysius really just interested in this for the sex, though? You mention in the OP that he’s never been successful romantically, and one of the poll options is about the emotional risk to him. If all Aloysius cares about is getting his ashes hauled on a regular basis then that’s one thing, but if he’s hoping that once Michelle really gets to know him she’ll see what a swell guy he is and want to settle down with him long term then that’s another. As I mentioned before, there’s also a chance that she’ll back out of the deal early and he might (or might not) feel humiliated that he couldn’t even pay a woman to be his companion.
I’ve known a couple of actress/models (male and female) who have done the sugar baby route. In Hollywood, you do what you do to get by. For the most part they had a real affection for their daddies and were comfortable with the unequal power structure - they preferred it rather than hook up with some knucklehead who gave them crap and spent their money (although that was a factor sometimes too - daddy paid for baby, and baby paid for jerk-boyfriend). So, it seemed like a low stress mutually beneficial arrangement.
The latest one I’m knowing of - the girl is being kept, but it’s because the guy is in the closet and wants to have a “beard” around. Still doing that in 2013! It takes all kinds!
Of course he should have a kempt woman.
IMHO you’re overthinking this. It’s like a job. They could fire you at any time, you could quit at any time. Hopefully, if you are doing this you really like your boss. And hopefully your boss is respectful of you. If either one thinks it’s turning into something else, well, you cross that bridge when you come to it.
But is that how Aloysius feels about it? That’s my question. We’re told that he’s lonely, not merely horny, and one of the poll options specifically mentions that this arrangement may be “too emotionally risky” for him. That doesn’t sound to me like a man who’s really going to be happy with a woman who’ll treat having sex with him as her job and nothing more. As I said, if he does just want to have sex regularly then that’s one thing, but if he’s looking for love then he needs to be honest with himself about whether he’s hoping this arrangement will include more than Michelle is actually offering.
It was floss! (Or what are you talking about?)
Vivian was a coke addict with a clever set of standard lies to cover up that fact just like all addicts have let alone ones that have to resort prostitution to support their habit. In Pretty Woman (the worst romantic storyline ever created), the actual script makes it more clear. Vivian (Julia Roberts) was also incredibly expensive for a coke whore when you total up everything and you aren’t getting a very good cost to looks return on investment with Julia Roberts even if you disregard the raw skankiness of the character.
Michelle on the other hand sounds like a dream. She is willing to be faithful as well as straightforward and honest. I fail to see the negative for either of them. It is like having all the benefits of a wife or long-term girlfriend with none of the negatives. I promise you that arrangement is going to be cheaper in the long-term overall as well even if it costs him a few thousand dollars a month.
- She chased him about it. That sets off warning signs.
- He is going to get emotionally involved, if he has any emotions at all.
- I have zero moral problems with it, but as his friend I’d cut the contract down to 6 month increments and see how it goes.
Your third qualification makes no sense. as Michelle proposes the setup, either of them can break things off at will. If Aloysius wants out in 15 days, he can just cut her off and he’s out no more than the trivial (to him) amount he’s paid her that month.
As for the chasing – well, I don’t think we know how much chasing was involved. The OP doesn’t say. But I don’t see how she could have made the proposition without a little chasing. A random call girl wouldn’t have been able to talk about number theory.
What are the warning signs you see the chasing setting off? She’s been pretty blunt about her motives. If she were trying to scam him, she wouldn’t have fucked him once and then immediately suggested an arrangement guaranteed to limit the amount of money she’d get. She’d have seduced him.
Does Michelle know he’s had the “snip snip”? Still think arrangment is kosher, just curious.
Correct. Plenty of women do the same thing only they aren’t nearly as straightforward about and they usually try for marriage with the possible long-term goal of much more money. She seems like a short-term keeper to me.
Other people have alluded to it but this is an actual business model for at least one very legitimate website and there are takers on both sides. I say go for it if that is what you want.
I think it’s very emotionally risky for him, and he will probably end up getting hurt, but he should do it anyway, because the experience might help him get over his shyness around women.
Where do I sign?
Oh wait, I don’t have the billions of dollars etc. Damn.
Well, in Aloysius cas, take that offer like a shot.
No long term commitment, sex on tap, company when required that won’t have issues if you don’t feel like calling for a week. Perfect arrangement in the circumstances for all concerned.
Run it past a lawyer first, just to be safe and like others said maybe bring the terms back to 12 months at a time.
Well look who’s calling the OP the OP now! 
:dubious:
Naturally, the alternative isn’t as attractive.
Run it by the attorneys. Make sure that she had her own as well. While IINAL, I suspect that a specific agreement for sex would be seen as prostitution by the court and thus any contract couldn’t be enforced. It could help protect his money in case of a dispute.
Do I think that there is a chance he could become emotionally attached to her and get hurt? Sure. As well as the reverse. If he were my friend, I’d urge him to work on how to have successful relationships rather than do something like this, but you have to respect other people’s rights to their choices, if they are made freely and without coercion.
As for the prospect of this blowing up into a scandal, how would he (or she) feel about being openly public about the arrangement, right from the start?
In the hypothetical, is there any suggestion that they are going to keep this on the down-low? If they appear at functions in public (like those rich charity balls or banquets), will she be presented as his wife? (Or daughter? :eek:) Or will she be publicly known as his mistress?
Lots of posters above, including [del]OP[/del] Skald the Rhymer are questioning what emotional damage may result if, for example, she dumps him after a short while.
But for someone nerdy like that, he has to make his cost/benefit prediction analysis as best he can with the available data he has. If he turns this down, will be be even worse off for being alone, love-starved, and sex-starved for the rest of his life? How otherwise-hopeless is the guy?
He could well end up like that old guy that Loach knows!
ETA: Oh, BTW, as for this:
A certain commercial provider I did business with some years ago (who I wouldn’t at all describe as a “random call girl” however) was conversant with me about COBOL. Whoda thunk?