…with a married man. He’s cheated on his wife before. Plus you’re broke. Would you do it? Why or why not?
Wouldn’t do it. Whether he was married or single doesn’t matter. I wouldn’t have sex for money.
$2,000 is not a lot of money…
but if you are not the one cheating… and you don’t have a problem with the issue of it being morally wrong…
Then sure… but I am a straight male… so if we could switch that around to a woman… then $2,000 is more than enough…
if not… then my price would go up a bit…
I need money… lol…
Not even if the money would go a long way? This isn’t a totally random question, by the way. An older, married man has been offering me money for sex lately. I keep telling him no, and he keeps upping the cash flow. Now his offer has reached 2k. I said no, but damn, I could really, really, REALLY use $2,000. He told me to let him know if I ever reconsider. Should I reconsider?
Advertisement posted by a university, seeking someone to participate in an experiment: $5000 To Mate With Ape. The applicant asks: “Can I pay in installments?”
MeanOldLady: I appologize for my joke. I hadn’t seen your second posting, describing your personal connection to the issue. Given that context, my joke was in poor taste.
As long as I’m not married and he doesn’t require me to have an erection, too, I might be open to at least considering it. My final answer would probably depend upon just how he looks, too. Sex with a man is hard enough to contemplate, but if he’s drooling and wrinkly, I imagine I’d have an even harder time.
No prob, BrotherCadfael. I thought it was funny. 
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Innnnnteresting thread. . .
Okaaaaaaaaaaaaay, two of my friends just told me I should have done it, and another said I should have asked for $3,000. What the heck? Am I the only one who has a moral tiff with this? If any of this helps, I’m a VERY poor 20 year old attending a really fecking expensive university in an obscenely expensive town. Ma sent me $300 a few months ago and I thought I was rich. $2,000 sounds damn tasty right about now. Aagghh, I’m frustrated!
hmmm… sounds like you need some sex…
hey wait a minute… there is someone willing to pay you for it…
and if it is morals you are worried about… He has cheated… he will cheat again… if not you then someone esle…
so why not cash in if that is your only dilemma?
Tough one. How old is he? Is he remotely attractive? Could you just lay there, or would you have to do oral and such?
I think that for me (assuming I were single, which I’m not), it would all come down to one question:
Would I do it with him for free?
If the answer were NO, for whatever reason (because he’s married, because he’s looking to satiate a pain fetish that involves cheese graters, because he’s got about as much sex appeal to me as a mackerel), then I wouldn’t do it for 2K, either.
Is that weird?
I guess my rationale is that if I could get SOME pleasure out of the whole thing besides the ability to pay off a credit card after the fact, then I’d do it, and the money would be gravy.
Otherwise, I’d feel like a prostitute, which is not my cup of tea.
Actually, not to throw a wet blanket on to this, but I keep thinking about the slippery slope that could end up comming out of this. He offers you 2k now. Then, in another month or two, when he knows you’re hard up, he offers you 2k, or maybe even 1.5k or whatever. I know, I know, it might never happen. But the moment you say ‘yes’ to this, he knows that he can throw money at you when he wants to cheat and have sex. You seem like you already have moral qualms about it, and I can’t help but think that this wouldn’t end up being a one-time offer, which, in my eyes, would make things even more difficult. Just my two cents, so to speak.
If he’s cheated before, you don’t know with whom he’s been. Take the proper precautions and protect yourself. You don’t want to get any diseases that could ruin your life. You probably know this; I’m not trying to insult your intelligence.
(Uhhhh. Next time I’ll hit ‘preview’ before I send. There was just one reply to the OP when I wrote mine above. Sorry.)
And now, a more serious response:
I don’t know. Since I’m a guy, I can’t really ‘be in your shoes’. But I guess if I were you, I’d first ask myself, is this something I’m going to feel really guilty about afterwards? If so, then maybe it’s not the best idea. The money might help to fix some financial pressures and concerns, but if your actions cause you to feel less than good about yourself or affect your self-esteem, then those are pretty important things and they end up being harder to repair than material possessions.
If you can get past the stumbling block of guilt and self-esteem issues (and only you can decide about that), they there are some more practical concerns to consider:
- can you make sure that he won’t be taking hidden photographs or video?
- how do you know that he won’t be telling others, mutual acquaintances, etc., that he has slept with you?
- how do you handle it if his wife finds out?
- what about STD’s? does he know he’ll have to use protection?
- what about specific sexual acts? can you stipulate only to certain things (i.e., he’s not allowed to require a blow job/anal sex/whatever)
- does he or will he ever be in a position to hold this over you? professionally or personally?
- Is this a one-time only thing? does he know that? will he accept that? can you handle it if he asks for a follow-up? (which he probably will, regardless of what he says beforehand)
- are you expected to be enthusiastic about it? (or pretend to be). Is that a problem?
- will he pay you ahead of time? in cash? and let you deposit it before anything happens? (so he won’t forcibly take the money back after you sleep with him).
- where is this going to happen?
- does he have any expectations about how/whether this might change your current relationship?
When you say he is cheating on his wife, do you mean he is allready cheating on his wife? I would imagine it is very unpleasant to be involved with the breakup of someone elses marrage. What is the risk that you might be labelled his misstress (or even a whore), and is the money worth the risk? Also $2000.00 may seem a lot now, but may seem a lot less once you are out of University and in a good job. It is deffinately your call, and realise it is easy for your friends to say do it because they are not in the situation.
Would you have sex with him if he wasn’t offering money?
Well…cash is cash right? IMO, it is actually very little different than, say, mowing his lawn for money. Except of course it is a great deal more money than you are likely to get for mowing the lawn. Then again, my opinions on sex are fairly…liberal.
Damn good question, MeanOldLady…not being in the situation myself, it is of course hard to speculate, but, if I were single, the married man had done this sort of thing in the past, like you’d said, and he was all right with providing and using protection, I’d at least consider it if I were pressed for cash. Whether or not I’d actually go ahead and do it (pun not intended), I’m really not sure. On the other hand, I certainly would be able to understand it if someone would go for it.
However, if you think that you’d never be able to forgive yourself, and everyday, after work, you’d have to think that that is what you owe all your success to, then don’t do it. Granted, I don’t know the particulars of the situation, but in my experience, tough times are better than having something you’ll regret for the rest of your life weigh on your conscience. If you feel you’d be okay with it, then that’s another story all together. Best of luck, either way.
Don’t forget the legal aspects. Having sex for money is against the law.
And, you are young. It might not seem like a big deal to you now but 20 years from now you might be in a position where you wouldn’t like it to be known that you had sex for money.