Once again, Barry Louis Polisar* shows us the way
*If you haven’t heard of Barry, imagine Shel Silverstein and Tom Lehrer mixed together. Lehere is actually a big Polisar fan.
The question isn’t risky, but it is a two-edged sword.
My current best friend, ex-semi-gf has mixed kids. On the one hand, she is cool and the kids’ racial composition has exactly NO bearing on how we did/do get along.
OTOH, she has a stick up her ass about racial things. One day we were driving back from who knows where, and were listening to the radio news. Don’t know what came up, but then she got onto some rant about “Things are getting better??? Things are getting worse!!! Racism is increasing, blah, blah…” Don’t actually know what her point was, but, kept my trap shut and let it pass. Her kids seem to blend in well with all the mix of kids in the mixed schools, but, she seems to be just waiting to jump on some white person or the white race for some measure of unequal treatment. There doesn’t even have to be a white person involved if one of the kids gets into trouble at school, but I seem to get a lecture with the word ‘lily white’ liberally sprinkled throughout.
So, point being, to date another woman as defined in the OP, she’d have to be a bit more stable, or have an amazing rack.
I was tempted to ask about a white woman with an all black child, but i restrained myself.
Good god, no. My wife would kill me for dating anyone, let alone someone with a kid.
A lamb, perhaps, but no room here for goats.
I laughed
LOL…
But, “Star Trek” jokes aside, I’ve known a lot of people who are of mixed race. They do complain that sometimes it causes problems. For example, one girl I knew was very fair-skinned, and some racist black people assumed she was entirely white and treated her accordingly. I’ve also heard of people who have certain racial features but do not know their traditional culture (like person of Mexican descent who does not speak Spanish) and it causes societal friction between them and more recent immigrants.
I don’t think any of these are reasons to avoid raising a child.
:smack:
Your red flags are on-target, but not just because the men are black, but because you are dating women/girls who are choosing to be with abusers and having kids with emotionally-unavailable men.
Where I’m from, a white woman is ruined if she sleeps with black men. While whites here have black friends, we do not create mixed-race babies. My grandmother used to say “do you see cardinals and bluejays mating? Look at God’s design.”
While I accept and enjoy other cultures, I would never bring a child into a confusing situation, or marry a man with mixed-race children. Children need to feel solid and secure in their heritage in order to thrive – love can only go so far.
This.
I wouldn’t date a woman at all. I also wouldn’t date anyone that was raising children of any sort as I have no interest in parenting.
Is anyone going to mention our president or is that going to be left to me?
You sound a lot like my mom though, 13 years ago before she had her super awesome grandkid.
What do you mean by ‘ruined’, and where are you from? Do you agree with your grandmother’s sentiments, and do you actually believe that black people and white people are not of the same species?
1950?
What’s confusing about “one of my parents is black and one is white”? And are you also saying that you would never marry someone from another culture? My heritage (one country, one color, two cultures) is confusing for some strangers, but it’s never been confusing to me. I know what I am and I know what my parents are. And any stranger who’s confused by it is welcome to another cup of coffee 
Having been there done that once, I would never again “date” any woman with another man’s child.
If I were to date a woman, it would be for herself and not the child, but that’s not possible if they care an iota for their child.
Post #13, but it bears repeating, under the circumstances.
I swear something seriously whack about the 2013 newbies. First the glut of zombie threads, now casual racism.
Most families mix heritage and culture these days. I doubt many of them find it all that confusing.
Where the hell are you from? I’m glad I’m from someplace else.
Anyway . . . I don’t date. But if I did, I wouldn’t date women. I wouldn’t date the OP either. Nor would I date anyone who thinks white women who sleep with black men are “ruined.”
No. X-Videos.