So, I just moved in with a new roommate. She’s been living here a while, and her family actually owns the house - we’ve been good friends for a bit and since her old roommate moved out, I agreed to move in.
However, since I’ve moved in I’ve discovered that there are a few things that bug me, and she has proved pretty unwilling to change anything in the house. In particular, I am bothered by the bathroom, which has disgusting, smelly, peeling wallpaper dating from the 80’s shiny-flower era. I feel like this is pretty unsanitary and I want to either strip and paint it myself, or have the ‘landlord’ (her Dad) do it. Honestly, I would expect any landlord to address this.
She says it’s unnessecary, and doesn’t want to bother, even if I would do all the work involved. Also, she says I should have told her this before I moved in. I don’t get why a person would not want to fix something like this - it’s really gross! It also concerns me that it is setting precedent for not fixing other things in the future because it she can’t be bothered.
I’m already a little concerened about our roommate relationship, and I just moved in! I don’t want to ruin our friendship, or make living here uncomfortable, but at the same time I feel like as a paying tenant I have the right to complain about and ask for improvements to things I find objectionable.
So, what’s the deal - am I being a jerk? Is she? How do you go about living with someone who is both your landlord of sorts and your roommate?