Hm. I suppose you have a point - a lot of it was in his tone of voice, which, of course, I can’t demonstrate here. It was a combination of bored & snide… After he made the comment, I asked, “So I’m guessing that you have no desire to do this, huh?”. He responded with a simple “Nope.” that ended the conversation. I forget whether we spoke at any length after that.
Mind you, this is the same man who accused me, months after we broke up, of infecting him with herpes ( A similar thread is currently up - I think it’s in IMHO). However, I didn’t & don’t have herpes. Hrm. Wonder who else he’d been sleeping with…
When I was working at a movie rental store, this older guy walked out the door and when I said have a nice day. he responded with “who the explitive deleted asked you!”
My girlfriend has half her hair her natural black, and the other half a nice bright color. I did her up orange for halloween, it was purple before that, probably blue again next time. We get a lot of tourists from asian countries here, mostly in the summertime. It’s a rare week in summer that she doesn’t have her head fondled and hair tugged on by a (usually female) asian tourist or two. She thinks it’s cute.
When I was working as a cashier, I was putting movies back on the bottom shelf of the rental kiosk when an old man walked by and said “good to see that some girls still know the proper place for a woman - on her knees.”
It took a minute to sink in that yes, he had actually said what I thought I’d heard.
When I was in highschool, my girlfriend’s mother didn’t want me to sit on the furniture because “it’s old, and not sturdy enough.” When I sat on the floor without complaint, she said that I wasn’t allowed to use a pillow or anything “because you’ll squash them all flat, and I’ll have to throw them away.” She wasn’t exactly a stranger, but I’d only met her a couple of times.
I was staying at a friend’s house in London and we decided to do grocery shopping. I had hurt my back and couldn’t carry the bags back to the house so we decided to take a taxi, even though it was just about ten blocks away. When we got to the house and I was paying the taxi driver, he told me: You could have walked here for free, you big girl! (I’m a large man, by the way).
I thought it was really funny and started laughing, but my friend (who is a girl) thought it was extremely rude.
Back in high school, while I was out jogging, I ran past a girl I’d seen in school. She was definitely in the “in” crowd- I definitely wasn’t. As I ran past she said, “You’ve got a great body- it’s too bad your face is so ugly.”
I didn’t know what to say, so I just kept running. It’s bugged me to this day.
When walking my rather prissy looking toy dog but cute to me (miniature pinscher), and I’m male, 20’s, asian, 5’6", 130pounds. I got 2 different people bark at me at 2 different occasions.
one time from a group of teens, where i demanded they apologize to me and my dog and that they go learn some manners, and to go f*ck themselves.
the other time by a drunk man with 2 ladies with him… to act all macho in front of his ladies he barked at me. This time i said: you like barking eh? I guess your mother was a dog and you’re the son-of-a-bitch? cuz people dont bark ugly fuckling.
man did this drunkard get pissed and he started barking louder. then i confronted this sorry ass and demanded an a apology where he finally obliged to cuz the ladies were getting scared of me and pissed of MinPin.
funny thing is my dog was even more pissed than me after these incidents and looks at teens with an edge to her. A pissed off dog that looks like a small Dobermann can scare many people, but not me, i love MinPins.
Sometimes it’s a liberating feeling to blowup on such rude pricks that have no ounce of etiquette or manners in them. Try it but remember that you can come up with the best comeback lines after the confrontation occurs.
the drunkard got an ear full cuz i had that son-of-a-bitch thing lined up from the hindsight comeback line from those teens.
Gravity, are you the one whose mom wrote a feminist book inspired when she overheard that crack? And gave the guy a righteous piece of her mind? I read that in the beginning of that book in the library once and it’s stayed with me ever since. You have one cool mom, tell her I said thanks for writing the book!
I broke away from a conference in Portland, Oregon and found a mixed gay/lesbian (and bi, I suppose, but not advertised as such) bar. I opened the door and a man looked at me, turned to his companion, and said, “Oh, it’s a big girl.” I turned around, walked out, and, despite later moving to Oregon, have never felt like patronizing a gay bar in Portland since.
I was at an audition in Bristol, chatting to some other auditionees. This geezer I was chatting to says he’s taking the train back to Oxford. I say “I’m taking that train too - perhaps I’ll see you on it.”
He replies: “No you won’t. I’ll make it my business to avoid you, you fucking prick.”
Oh, the things you’ll hear from people who don’t think you understand their language!
One of the more memorable occasions was a group of ten-year-olds on the train making various comments to each other about what a foreigner’s personal anatomy must look like. Young and dumb as they were, I wasn’t bothered that much. What surprised me more was that their parents were sitting right in front of them ignoring the whole thing. Aside from the rudeness, aren’t you folks the least bit embarrassed to have your kids talking like that in public?
A more direct instance was the realtor in suburban Tokyo who told me flat out he wasn’t going to show me any apartments because he didn’t want foreigners moving into the neighborhood, and then proceeded to tell my then-fiancee (Japanese) that she was obviously an ignorant rube just off the farm for (a) getting involved with a gaijin in the first place, and (b) thinking she could just waltz into a fine, upstanding neighborhood like this (his office was half a block from a brothel) with someone like me in tow and get an apartment.
In the US, very often when people would hear my name, they’d ask “you’re French?” After I replied in the affirmative, they’d then launch into a rambling string of obscenity-sprinkled insults despite having only just met me less than a minute earlier. This was fairly common even ten years ago, so when I see news stories now about “Freedom Fries” or read some of the things that get posted here, it really doesn’t surprise me that much.
That comes from the saying “big girls blouse” often used for guys who are thought somewhat soft or effeminate to a bit lazy - as in, you had bags but didn’t want to walk so you became a “big girls blouse” or a “big girl”… I agree, doesn’t make much sense even when you explain it.
I have been stopped by a concerned old man to tell me to lose weight or I’ll die… nice.
When in hospital (with a 25% of surviving) the woman who took my blood told me that her friends daughter had the same illness but died - went on to tell me how graphically… nice.
When I had surgery on my head and had to have my hair shaved, I got so many looks of and heard the phrase “Frankenstein” more than once … nice. (Admittedly I did have a scar from ear to ear and was completely bald but I thought, fuck that, why should I wear a wig - they’re hot and uncomfortable and … well why should I wear one!!!
My old boss called me in to discuss my weight and how worried he was about me - he made it sound like it was affecting my work in some way (which it wasn’t) - he then said I was the best worker there - I told him point blank that if he spoke to me again regarding this subject or any other personal issue that has NO affect on my job, I’d sue his ass and have his house from under him. Later, when I did lose the weight, he called my colleague (and best friend) in and said he was worried I was too thin - no way to win with this guy. She, of course, told me and I made it patently obvious that I knew he’d said it - he never said a word to me since and the sun, moon and stars shone out of my arse. He was a bully and I stood up to him - therefore earning his respect - I gag at the thought of it.
I was hit by an old lady with her umbrella because I didn’t help her across the road - she was about 50 and very fit and healthy looking - wtf???
There are some insane people out there for sure … dear god if I ever become like that, please, someone, shoot me !!!
I used to shop at a local convenience store just for the insults. The guy was known for his less than stellar attitude. One time, he said “Are you going to work dressed like that?”. Another time I was going to buy some beer, which I hardly ever do. The sign says “We ID under 35”. Hey, I’m under 35, so I have my ID out and ready. At the check out, he said “Oh, come on, do you really get carded that much anymore?”
I get commentary on my appearance rather often. It really bothers me when a guy checks me out and then says to his friend in a voice loud enough for me to hear, “Whoo boy, I’d like to tap that ass.” That is rude and it’s also embarassing.
Many years ago while riding in a crowded city bus I had to stand next to a woman who was seated in one of those single seats by the window. She was the most physically repulsive-looking woman I’d ever seen, but I didn’t even notice that until she muttered to me (loud enough only for me to hear) “Go back to China, bitch!” I was shocked and stared at her, and that’s when I noticed how ugly she was. I guess she must have suffered from very low self-esteem and could only make herself feel better by insulting others around her.
I didn’t want to waste my time and energy telling her it would be impossible for me to ‘go back’ to a place where I’ve never even been. Sure, my face has Asian features, but I was born right here in the good old U.S.A. in Texas, so I’m just as much as an American as that pathetic woman who insulted me.
and heard the phrase “Frankenstein” more than once … nice. (Admittedly I did have a scar from ear to ear and was completely bald but I thought, fuck that, why should I wear a wig - they’re hot and uncomfortable and … well why should I wear one!!!