Yeah, whatever the hell. I just realised this has nothing to do with BDSM, but has to do with the work practises in F/m pro-dom, which, as has been said, have more to do with being a beautician etc than anything to do with alternate sexualities. It’s true.
Anybody, no matter their abilities to actually dominate (god forbid), should be able to stand up to the plate and hit a home run as a dominatrix. No skills required beyond being able to sign their name on a contract saying ‘do as I say or else you’re out on your ass’. I’m glad I have nothing to do with that mess, and that the world I’m in doesn’t bill by the hour and rely on complete subservience for any sort of structure.
I just went and read the column in question, and it says:
Where exactly are you all finding the words that make it clear that she was planning to introduce the dildo training at their next session and not in the next thirty seconds? Frankly, I could see equal support for either interpretation. Why are you all so sure?
I think the folks who don’t get it, with all due respect, are never going to get it.
What this guy was doing is a little like that joke about the guy who goes to see a very expensive prostitute: when she enters the room, only to find him masturbating, he says, “I’m not going to give you the easy one!!”
How the hell she gonna make him come if he pointedly undermines her ability to dominate him, which is ostensibly what turns him on?
Now, this is just my opinion here and I’ll try to restrain myself, but that kind of jerk
is just the sort of person who needs to be told to shut up, and then ****ed with the danged dildo anyway!