My husband of a few months (in his early 40’s) claims that scratching his balls gives him erections. This does not make sense to me and I am trying to understand. He gets mad at me for not giving him the benefit of the doubt, however, I cannot lie that I feel hurt, insecure and in competition with something that gives him erections. In the presence of our marriage therapist, he denied that he was masturbating or fantasizing about other women- that he simply scratches, it felt good and got an erection. I understand that NOT all erections are caused by sexual stumuli, however, this sounds illogical to me. Especially when he does it 3 to 4 times at night to early morning with an erection lasting as long as 20 minutes! I told him not to insult my intelligence and that I needed to understand the physiology and such as to how erections can occur and last as long as 20 minutes from ball scratching. I told him I loved him even if he was jacking off - but of course it hurts that he is spending more time getting off from his ball scratching than spending time with me. If he is indeed masturbating- then we could address that and move forward and work on strengthening our marriage. He says he is not aware or it was subconscious but I’ve caught him several times checking if I was asleep before he commenced. AND at night while he was scratching his “balls” for a long time, I was going to help scratch them for him but he block my hand and told me “Don’t! You know that I get easily aroused!” Seemed obvious he was trying to save face since he was already “hard” and no, it’s untrue that in the matter of seconds by touching his balls/penis he would get erect immediately. He doesn’t get erect that soon at all. Seems obvious he is vehemently denying he is jacking off. Plus his penis was so erect it was near his belly button and his hand was holding the base of his penis. Seems obvious that it points to masturbation, but he denies it.
I know everyone is different but I would like to know if this indeed occurs with most men- if scratching testicles can cause long lasting erections or any erections at all. Thank you.