Jeepers. I’m having trouble visualizing a teacher who would brush you off like that. Is she teaching an oversize class, or a combined 1st and 2nd grade class? 'Cause to my mind, that’s the only excuse.
Okay, tips from somebody with 3 kids, one of whom has always had problems “concentrating”.
Main point: you can’t teach a child to “concentrate”. You can’t teach a child to “focus”. It’s something that only comes with age and “seasoning”. What you CAN teach him is a brisk course in “cause and effect”. “If you don’t get your assignments done, this is what will happen.” Age 6 is plenty old enough to understand that.
Reward positive behavior–every week that he gets all his assignments done, he gets a treat, or a sticker, or a McDonald’s Happy Meal.
Punish (yes, I said punish, not ignore) negative behavior. If he doesn’t get all his assignments done, he loses a privilege.
Also, what kind of “assignments” are we talking about? Here in Illinois, first graders don’t usually have “homework” as such. Is this “seatwork” we’re talking about? He just sits there and fiddles with his pencil and doesn’t get the thing handed in? Then you and the teacher need to work together (even if she doesn’t want to :rolleyes: ) to find some kind of incentive program.
And golly moses, allow me to be the first to beg you NOT to run to medication for this. Jeepers. If I medicated my three every time they weren’t getting their work done, they’d all be hopeless druggies by now.
What worked for Bonzo, who is now 13, who also was just not getting the assignments done, and who we were seriously afraid was going to flunk out of 5th grade, and 6th grade, and 7th grade, was a color Game Boy. He retains custody of it only as long as his report cards have nothing lower than a C. If he brings home a bad report card, he loses the Game Boy for the whole next grading period, which is 9 weeks. This has provided the incentive for him to not flunk out of 8th grade.
But it took literally YEARS for us to figure this out. You wouldn’t believe the teacher conferences I’ve sat through, and all the things we tried, ever since third grade (his teacher once told me thoughtfully, “You know, Bonzo kind of–phases out, every so often”), to get this kid to “concentrate” and “focus”, and absolutely nothing worked, until now. I really think it may be like potty training–when they’re ready, they’re ready, and there’s not much you can do except stand by and cheer them on.
Almost forgot the most important thing: it’s possible he’s just “phasing out” because he’s simply bored. He may have a thoroughly lackluster teacher. Solution–go to school with him, sit unobtrusively in the back for the whole day, and observe. If you’re bored, than it’s a pretty good bet that so is he.
Also, he may just have a bad teacher. I know, so many times you hear parents blame the teacher when any sensible person would give little Johnny one look and know where the fault lies. But over the last, say 12 years, dealing with our local public school system, I have personally encountered two (2) extraordinarily BAD teachers. These were people who hated their jobs, hated teaching, and took it out on the kids. One of them was a Middle School teacher who resorted to sarcasm and humiliation; the other was a kindergarten teacher who (my god) was the ANGRIEST person I have ever met, and was constantly, continually FURIOUS with her class. She yelled at them for everything. She should NOT have been teaching. (She used to be the computer aide, got her master’s, and “moved up”, to the great detriment of about 8 years’ worth of 5-year-olds so far.)
Spend the day with your son’s teacher and see what she’s like.