Do you use self-deprecating humor in life? If so, do you know people who just don’t seem to get it?
I occasionally engage in self-deprecating humor with friends and family. Just to be clear, I’m definitely not one of those people who wallows in low self-esteem and puts themselves down constantly; I’m a confident person and my self-esteem levels are fine. But I do enjoy making an occasional joke at my own expense, particularly when I’ve had a mildly embarrassing experience or made some silly mistake.
However, I’ve noticed that self-deprecating humor doesn’t always go over well, particularly on social media like Facebook. People get that it’s supposed to be funny and respond appropriately for the most part, by clicking “like” or adding a “Ha ha, I do the same thing!” sort of comment. But I have a few friends who consistently respond with a sly (or even not-so-sly) insult. I’ve even resorted to deleting comments, or, in one case, moving a FB friend to my “restricted” list so that she wouldn’t see my posts and respond with her usual jabs.
So, why do people do this? Do they think people who poke fun at themselves enjoy being insulted, and they’re adding to the hilarity by piling on? Are they disgusted by something they consider a show of weakness? Or should I be wondering if these people have a problem with me personally?