Self Proclaimed Jerks? Why?

In a recent thread of mine someone posting actually gave themselves the label of being a jerk and a jackass. Though they were being particularly lewd on several occasions, and I agreed with they’re assertions, I am still vexed on why someone would actually want to be a jerk…It seems uncommonly easy to think that would be just a huge copout for no knowing how to behave socially. Once learned and set into motion, Jerks can feed of their own indignations. But WTF! why?*

I know this topic has a psuedo-rheorical meaning, I just can’t believe sometimes the depth of my own naïveté. And I’m a teacher…Or maybe it’s not a lack of belief but more an astonishment to the true depth of human understanding.

I’ve wondered the same thing many times, but the form it takes most often seems to be women who proudly adopt the label of “bitch”. I see bumper stickers saying “Zero to bitch in 2 seconds,” “51% Angel, 49% Bitch” and the like. Is this something to be proud of? OK, you’re a bitch, I don’t want to have anything to do with you. It just reeks of “issues” and “baggage”. I imagine such bumper stickers on the back of Patty and Selma’s car in the Simpsons.

Some woman singer, a few years ago: “I’m a bitch…I do not feel ashamed…You know you wouldn’t want it any other way…This may mean you’ll have to be a stronger man”

No, this may mean I’ll have to dump you and find someone who isn’t bad crazy.

I would tend to think that it is just another way to get attention. It is also a way for someone to justify bad behavior…" I’m a JERK, I told you I was a jerk when you met me."…I don’t buy it, but I have seen this behavior in people, and they act proud, like this is a GOOD trait. Selfish people do this also, they blame others…" Well, so-and-so treated me like crap, so I am gonna treat everyone else like crap".
I feel sorry for them, the same way I feel sorry for other “attention whores”…but, I will not put up with this type of behavior. If I confront someone about the bully mentality, and all I get back is: “So, I’m an asshole, and I am ALWAYS RIGHT !”, I will walk away…I refuse to play their games.

I think we are sinking (sunk) to the lowest common denominator. It is cool or hip (or whatever the term is now) to be stupid or rude and society no longer demands that individuals take responsibility for their actions.

Just one Toads opinion.

I think it’s mostly a grab for attention. “See! See! I refuse to put in the slightest bit of effort into being a decent human being! I’m special!” It’s a hell of a lot easier to be a jerk than a decent human being, so why not lower everyone’s expectations for you right off the bat?

As far as the term BITCH goes:
Often the word bitch has been used to describe an opinionated woman, or one that is willing to stand up for herself. It has been mostly about a woman that didn’t conform to some of the past standards of the female as the comforter/conforming/sacrificing person that gives up a lot of her own opinions to make life easier for other (imagine the opposite of June Cleaver on the old show Leave it to Beaver).

Pretty much, the same attitudes/behavior that would get a man labeled as a sharp businessman or a sauvy dealer would get a woman labeled as a bitch.

So most self proclaimed bitches today are stating that they have valid opinions and ideas of their own, and that they aren’t afraid to use them.

Being an asshole is great. If everyone knows you’re an asshole, they will all treat you in a similar way. That way, there’s no guesswork. You know exactly what to expect from everyone. You’re never disappointed.

Holy Cow Hyperelastic way to misquote that song to prove a point.

the actual lyrics to “Bitch” by Meredith Brooks (excerpted):
I’m a little bit of everything
all rolled into one

I’m a bitch, I’m a lover,
I’m a child, I’m a mother,
I’m a sinner, I’m a saint,
I do not feel ashamed,

I’m your hell, I’m your dream,
I’m nothing in between,
You know you wouldn’t want it any other way

The lyrics are not proclaiming the virtues of bitchiness specifically, but the need to throw off labels.