What a weird and dumb reason to pit me. If you pitted me over the supposed misogyny and racism and whatever other ism you want to throw at me, that would at least be understandable. But you’re putting me over some nonsensical gotcha that you’ve completely invented in your head. You’re pitting me over the fact that I asked a technical question about the board that brought attention to my posts in another thread, posts which I am fine with members of this board reading given that I posted them publicly on this message board.
You suggest that I have some terrible secret – that I want to make sure my posts in that thread get buried and no one ever sees them, which is the weirdest assumption given that you brought your hypothesis to that thread and I addressed them and kept addressing arguments against me in that thread. Clearly I am not trying to bury my participation in that thread or slink away or anything like that. I stand by what I said and I’m fine if people read it, otherwise I wouldn’t have posted it just yesterday on a public message board.
Both you and Miller are only engaging in ad hominem attacks rather than addressing my actual point. I’m saying something you’re uncomfortable with, and you’re dealing with that discomfort by throwing accusations of racism and misogyny at me. There are a lot of people that do that a lot and it’s not productive. You demand claims for citations to pretend like you’re upholding some high standard of debate, but you’re not asking for citations from anyone else, and I’m obviously giving my own interpretation of historical events and cultural values without claims that are obviously citable. This sort of debate takes place all the time on the board, and shouting “no citations (even though I too have no citations)! I win!” is a cop out.
I will post an analogy that I posted in that thread but that which people may not address because they’re not sure it runs afoul of moderator instructions or because people prefer to ignore arguments that show their position to be faulty.
I am an atheist. I would like to advance the cause of atheism. Having an openly atheist president would be a great sign of the social progress of this country. I am not putting the oppression of atheists on the same scale as that by sex or race, but if you do polls of what people are least willing to vote for in a president, atheist is one of the top ones. Cite. Now, I do think even though I am citing that source, it is imperfect, because people often answer polls in line with social expectation. They think they’re supposed to say they’d vote for a black person or a woman, so they say it, but in practice more people would hold those traits against them. There’s very little social pressure to be more tolerant of atheists, however, and so the percentage is likely more honest.
It’s obvious that running for president as an open atheist is a huge disadvantage with at least 40% of the voting population saying they wouldn’t vote for you. It would be suicide for an open atheist to run for president. If the democrats ran an open atheist against Trump in 2016, a Christian in 2020, and an atheist in 2024 and lost to Trump both times, I would not be saying “wouldn’t it be nice if we could get an atheist in the white house? Let’s try it again in 2028!”
I’d be acknowledging the threat that Trump represents. I’d be determined stop it. I would beg the democrats to stop trying to force atheist candidates. Because I’d know that electing Trump damages the cause of atheism and secularism and separation of church and state much more than the possibility of electing an open atheist, let alone other issues like governmental competence, global warming, democracy, and a thousand other issues Trump is an existential threat to.
Your logic says that I’m bigoted against atheism, even though that’s a core part of my identity and I wish we could have an openly atheist president. That doesn’t sound quite as bad as sexism and misogyny, so the severity of the insult doesn’t quite hit right, but it’s the same logic.
I am also a feminist and advocate for the advancement of people of color. Probably more than the vast majority of people on this board. The fact that you’re doubting that right now is your own mental weakness, your unwillingness to examine uncomfortable nuance. I’m willing to acknowledge an uncomfortable fact – that the American people are shitty and use shitty decision making criteria in their voting decisions – and that being outside the traditional power structure is a weakness of a candidate, an obstacle to be overcome, and generally fatally so.
Obama was such a political force that he made it work anyway, and I was happy he did. Kamala Harris is not such a political force – she got something like 1-2% in primaries in 2020 and no one seemed all that excited for her compared to Obama. I think it’s probably true – I have no citation, though maybe one might exist, just my own life experience – that it’s easier for a black man than any woman to be elected to office. I also think even though Obama faced an amazing amount of racism and xenophobia in 2008, it’s also possible that the current zeitgeist is actually worse in that regard. I was sure that the social progress we’ve made on inclusiveness and tolerance was one way and was only getting better, an unstoppable snowball, but it seems like there has been a significant backlash against it and a societal regression. Go open any youtube video and you’ll see all sorts of comments about “woke” and “DEI” – it’s all bullshit, it’s all evil, it’s the work of hateful and ignorant people and the propaganda and misinformation that drives them – but it’s real. It has to be accounted for when we decide the factors that go into the electability of a political candidate.
If, hypothetically, 99% of Americans weren’t willing to vote for a woman, it would be incredibly shitty of them. But you saying “but they shouldn’t feel that way, and a woman should be able to win, and we should keep running women and shaming them until it works!” would lead to victories by the opposition that would ultimately roll back the rights of women. And anyone acknowledge that would get shouted down as misogynist.
This is an uncomfortable fact. I get that. I don’t like being surrounded by these pieces of human garbage any more than you do. The difference is, you’re willing to try to force them to take their medicine in a way that’s going to invite more backlash. They shouldn’t think that way, they’re racist and they’re sexist and we’re going to make them do the right thing. You’re on the side of good and progress. It feels righteous. You’re morally right and you deserve to win. They deserve to be scorned and hated and shown how wrong they are. And you’re not wrong in your asssessment of them. But because of that, at least in part, we get Trump, twice. Is feeling righteous more of a guiding force than the actual real world impact your attitude brings? For people like you, generally so.
And Trump and the movement he rode and intensified has done far more damage to the progress of tolerance and inclusiveness than any benefit that would’ve come from the representation of having a woman of color as president. Even if you only look at the issue of human rights, and the lives of people of color and women and LGBTQ people, and ignore all the other massive issues that Trump is fucking up, a democratic president that actually wins does FAR more to advance the cause than the lower chance of electing a POC/woman/LGBTQ president.
You’re uncomfortable with this fact. You’re uncomfortable with all the people who are angry at the progress we’ve made and want to reverse it. Me too. And it feels good to be righteous and right and give the people that are wrong their medicine and win and force them to accept a better world. I get that too. And so when I come on here saying that you’re wrong, that your approach is wrong, that your approach is actually harming the cause of advancing the rights of disadvantaged people, it presents you with a difficult moral complexity that feels a lot worse than the righteous, simple view you had before. So you transfer that anger you have for them onto me. You accuse me of being sexist and racist and every other ist you can think of, just like them, because it allows you to dismiss me and ignore the uncomfortable truth that your approach may have backfired and actually harmed rather than helped your cause.