Ladies: you go to a new guy’s place for the first time to have sex. Would it gross you out (or would you consider it a health risk) if he brought out a bottle of lube that had already been opened?
Guys: new bottle of lube for a new date?
(From a guy a long time out of the dating scene, and not a lube user)
eeewwww! Slightly worse than having a roll of butcher paper mounted over the bed like at the doctors office.
(Girl, never used lube in her life and isn’t even sure what it would be used for, aside from some back-door shenanigans.)
It would freak me out if he had lube period, because to me that implies anal sex. And, well, if it’s my first time with the guy, it’s a pretty safe bet that that won’t be happening.
Please tell me that’s not what you’re planning to do with said lubricant. On the first night.
(Girl, virgin.)
Um…if you really think you need it, is there a kind with a squeeze-the-bottle-and-some-dispenses, then I guess not. Also, if you don’t want her to feel special, use the opened lube. (It is always a girls fantasy to be the only one that you want to be with.)
Hay if it will be for first time then we have to make but if gives her enjoy not feeling her of facking flotter as we consider.
if you need lube…one of you isn’t doing something right.
:eek:
Do you often produce a bottle of lub when you bring a date home, 11811?
I’m a guy, but if I did that then I wouldn’t be suprised if she made an excuse and took a cab home.
So…a guy is supposed to buy all new supplies for every date? He can only use one condom out of the box (opened in front of his date apparently) and then has to chhuck the rest?
I will never understand heterosexuals if I live to be a thousand…
I’m beginning to think this may be a joke thread… at least I’m hoping it is. This line in particular sounds very strange:
“Guys: new bottle of lube for a new date?”
:dubious:
Honestly, would you want to know your partner had been sleeping with other people, Otto? I think I would cry.
Pretty much confirmed my suspicion. The lube is a new thing for me; previous girlfriend preferred it.
If I were casually dating someone I would expect that he’s sleeping with other people. If we were committed to each other and had made the decision to close the relationship then I would expect that he isn’t.
But then I’m a man-whore.
Oh, and
Vast numbers of women experience vaginal dryness at one time or another in their lives. It has nothing to do with anyone’s not “doing something right” and everything to do with such things as hormonal levels, stress, etc. Men attempting anal intercourse without lube are asking for trouble.
Just what to you expect to leak INTO a bottle of lube, anyway? Do you have ANY idea how much a thingy of lube costs?
Bob
I find it a whole lot more comfy if there is lube if there is a condom involved. If no condom – which would certainly not happen right away! – then no lube is fine. I can’t be the only one.
'Course, I supplied the lube myself (female), and there’s only been the one guy, so it’s pretty much a non-issue. I also supplied the condoms the first time 'round. Call me paranoid, but prepared! 
An ex of mine had a previously opened bottle of lube with him, along with condoms not in their original packaging!
My first thought was “Eeek! That’s for what, exactly?” but a pair of raised eyebrows was enough. He explained he preferred lube on the inside of the condom, but not the type most lubricated condoms use. Allergy or something or other.
Seemed reasonable to me, especially as it was brought along for him, not for me, eh? Didn’t weird me out in the slightest. He got bonus points for us not having to have the prophylactic arguement, too.
If she’s at your place, wait until the need arises, if it does. Then make a bit of a production out of rooting around the nightstand drawer looking for it, give her the impression it’s at least not been used recently.
Hey, I’ve just had a brainstorm! How about lube in small single-use packages. Ya know, like those packets of ketchup they have at McDonalds…
Nobody steal my idea. It’s probably worth a million bucks. 
Obviously you’ve never been in a gay bar. You can grab those by the handful from a bowl by the front door or on the bar in several places I’ve been.
I wouldn’t mind if the guy has a huge tub of Wet by his bed. You know, the kind with the pump.
Damn, there went my chance to strike it rich…
Exactly. I have always needed lube. It has nothing to do with my husband and what he’s doing “right”. It never has. I’m more thana little surprised that it seems most people consider lube to be icky. I thought it was absolutely mandatory.
As for using a used bottle–eh, I don’t think it would bother me.
I don’t think this a function of being hetero as much as it’s a function of whether one is the type of person who would consider having casual sex/one-night stands. Personally, I’d linke to think any guy I’d consider having sex with would think of me as someone with whom he would consider using up the entire box of condoms. (Not necessarily, ummm, in one shot, of course; I mean at some point in whatever our relationship turned out to be.)