The context of the thread is that someone is reporting sexism towards them that is causing them issues. And we have a poster saying “maybe, just maybe it’s you who is the problem.”
I cannot see how anyone can possibly interpret this in any other way, and I cannot see why that would not be seen as insulting. If someone brought up that they noticed black people being held at “an arm’s distance” because white people were afraid of racism, and someone replied “Maybe, and I’m just spitballing here, maybe they are avoiding you for a different reason,” that would clearly imply that they have a personal beef with them. It’s exactly the sort of thing people say in the Pit (albeit not usually in a bigotry-related context).
Sure, the poster in question has no past history. That’s a valid reason to just note “hey, this came off badly,” but I can’t see why it’s a reason to ignore the usual meaing.
I genuinely cannot see how this can be interpreted as some innocuous comment. And, yes, I did discuss this with a mod beforehand, which is why I am confused and disheartened.