Sexual fantasies: what setups/situations/settings does your fancy stray to?

In My Humble Opinion
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(Inspired, obviously, by Bippy the Beardless’ poll.)

Okay, I just posted this to Bippy’s poll, and realized I should start my own poll rather than try to hijack his:
Maybe it’s a male/female dicotomy, but which tabs/slots of which assortment of genders end up in contact is really not at all the ‘crucial factor’ in my fantasies.

I’m much more interested in setups, and situations, and even settings.

Like someone above mentioned “captured by pirates” – a list of things like that was what I expected from the title. I’m curious how many have ever played with that idea, regardless of whether they saw themselves as male or female in it, or what exactly they were doing to whoever.
So, how about this: let’s start a numbered list of ‘possibly common’ sexual fantasies. When you reply, you can just list the fantasies that you yourself have had – and answer any subquestions if you want/dare, and then add some more possibilities to the list. Okay?
To get the ball rolling:

  1. Captured by pirates! [And, if so, were you playing a pirate or a captive in the fantasy?]

  2. Student getting ‘private tutoring’ from teacher. [Were you student or teacher?]

  3. Mate swapping

  4. Starring in a porn movie

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And bravely being the first guinea pig:

  1. Captured by pirates! [And, if so, were you playing a pirate or a captive in the fantasy?]

Yes. Captive
2) Student getting ‘private tutoring’ from teacher. [Were you student or teacher?]

Yes. Teacher
3) Mate swapping

No.

  1. Starring in a porn movie

Sort of. (Actually I’d managed to hire an astonishing set of real actors/actresses, and I was playing writer/director…)

New additions:

  1. ‘Gothic mansion’ type settings

  2. Boss/secretary discipline [Were you boss or secretary? And who was being discplined?]

  3. ‘Fan Fic’ type things: like, you as Superman, or Xena, or a Dragon rider

  4. Getting caught ‘passing’ as the other sex (not necessarily transexual/transvestite, maybe you’re trying to escape something by disguising yourself.)
    Next?

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I am attracted to social outcasts. I don’t know why, but I assume it is partially because I figure that the other person is going to be more introspective having been shunned from society. The daughter from the movie Carrie was a turn on for me.

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  1. Captured by pirates! [And, if so, were you playing a pirate or a captive in the fantasy?]

Yes, I’m a pirate.

  1. Student getting ‘private tutoring’ from teacher. [Were you student or teacher?]

Yes, I’m the student (but only once, and it was a sort of Van Halen “hot for teacher” type thing.)

  1. Mate swapping

no

  1. Starring in a porn movie
    no

  2. ‘Gothic mansion’ type settings

Yes

  1. Boss/secretary discipline [Were you boss or secretary? And who was being discplined?]

No

  1. ‘Fan Fic’ type things: like, you as Superman, or Xena, or a Dragon rider

No

  1. Getting caught ‘passing’ as the other sex (not necessarily transexual/transvestite, maybe you’re trying to escape something by disguising yourself.)

No, Although I have had one wierd-ass dream along this line.

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Gotta admit, none of those do much for me. But my usual fantasies (as a straight male) usually involve being the sex slave of a dominatrix, or just being totally taken advantage of by aggressive, kinky, and sexually dominant women. Sometimes it goes as far as being a tourist in the Red Light District in Amsterdam, losing my wallet, and being forced to work off my debt as the “slave” in sex shows with female domme performers, or being used as a “party favor” if my girlfriend/mistress has a bunch of equally-kinky female friends over. But despite all that, I’m not a doormat, and I have no interest in being abused or physically hurt in a sadomasochistic sense.

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If Johnny Dep could be the pirate…Penzance here I come!
not into the teacher/student thing.

Gothic mansion has possibilities–maybe a ghost or two?

Mate swapping-no, thanks.

Boss/underling–no, thanks.

Having to disguise meself–mebbe as a pirate? Ahoy–we’re onto somthing here.

Make the fantasy LOTR movie-ish and I’m there!

No one has mentioned nurse/pt or nurse/doc.

(as a nurse, believe me, this does nothing for me, but I believe it is a common one).

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FTR, I’m a straight, single female, 33 years old:

1) Captured by pirates! [And, if so, were you playing a pirate or a captive in the fantasy?]
Nope.

2) Student getting ‘private tutoring’ from teacher. [Were you student or teacher?]
Nope, but I think it’s just because I’ve never had a crush on a teacher. Though I have 4+years of grad school still to go, so you never know . . . :wink:

3) Mate swapping
N/A

4) Starring in a porn movie
Not starring in, but watching the filming of (similar to StarvingButStrong in that the participants are all attractive to me, but without necessarily being in charge). I have a serious voyeuristic streak that it appeals to.

5) ‘Gothic mansion’ type settings
Nope.

6) Boss/secretary discipline [Were you boss or secretary? And who was being discplined?]
No (though I loved Secretary). My only work-related fantasy has been the same for nearly 8 years: having sex in the workplace after hours. If there’s a co-worker I find attractive, doing it with him would be icing on the cake.

7) ‘Fan Fic’ type things: like, you as Superman, or Xena, or a Dragon rider
Nope.

8) Getting caught ‘passing’ as the other sex (not necessarily transexual/transvestite, maybe you’re trying to escape something by disguising yourself.)
No.

9) Being the sex slave of a dominatrix, or just being totally taken advantage of by aggressive, kinky, and sexually dominant men/women.
Yes; I often fantasize/am curious about D/s, both the dom and submissive roles.

10) Nurse/patient or nurse/doctor
Nope.

Something else I often fantasize about is surreptitiously turning my partner on in a public setting where we can’t really do anything about it. Like, being at a boring dinner party and I lean over and, quietly but thoroughly, describe the blowjob I wish I were giving him. I can’t resist handling a hard-on, so if my hand can be discreetly under the table (while his are on the table) that’s even better. Both of us have to keep a straight face, and neither of us is allowed to come in our pants, the excitement just has to eventually subside . . . until later. I don’t know what it is about that fantasy, but it’s definitely a biggie. :smiley:

While there may be some people who go for S&M who also happen to be doormats, my understanding is that the two aren’t related. :slight_smile: It’s not my cuppa, either, but I don’t think it’s fair to imply that people who are into it have little/no self esteem.

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Pirates? no
Teacher/Student? I am a teacher, so that sort of squicks me out.
Gothic Mansion? no
Nurse/etc? Stonebow’s mom is a nurse, so that squicks him out.
Porn movie? Kind of, but I’ll elaborate on that in a bit.
FanFic? No
Boss/Secretary? no.

I sound sort of boring, don’t I?

As for the porn fantasy, I’m a closet exhibitionist, so the idea of people watching my husband and me have sex is a big turn on for me.

My BIG recurring fantasy scenario is being my husband’s pet. Collar, leash, cuffed to the bed, spanked, pleasuring my husband, etc- Light BDSM stuff. I have an idea about why I enjoy this fantasy (and at least once a month it is a reality). I’ll admit I am a bit on the bossy side, and I also tend to end up volunteering to chair a committee or take care of an event whenever that sort of thing is needed. When I’ve been in charge of a few too many things, it’s time for pet to be submissive and ravished until I’m senseless. :: deep sigh :: Occasionally the fantasy part delves into some harsher BDSM, but we’ve never acted on that because frankly, I’m a cream puff that cries when I bump my knee.

True. I have a fairly healthy self-esteem, and I am definitely not a doormat (see the bossy part above). I do, though, enjoy a good spanking from my husband if the time and mood is right, though :smiley:

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I like Misnomer’s format, so I’m going to steal that. I’m a straight, married female, 28 years old:

  1. Captured by pirates! [And, if so, were you playing a pirate or a captive in the fantasy?]
    Yes - the captive.

  2. Student getting ‘private tutoring’ from teacher. [Were you student or teacher?]
    Yes - the student. I’ve played with both the “in-trouble so he has to punish me” and the “forbidden, secret affair” versions.

  3. Mate swapping
    No. A big turnoff actually.

  4. Starring in a porn movie
    No.

  5. ’Gothic mansion’ type settings
    Yes, but only in combo with some of the other common scenarios mentioned.

  6. Boss/secretary discipline [Were you boss or secretary? And who was being disciplined?]
    Sorta - the secretary. I was the one being dominated, but it wasn’t really about being “disciplined”.

7)** ‘Fan Fic’ type things: like, you as Superman, or Xena, or a Dragon rider**
Yes - especially Harry Potter and other fantasy novels.

  1. Getting caught ‘passing’ as the other sex (not necessarily transexual/transvestite, maybe you’re trying to escape something by disguising yourself.)
    No.

  2. Being the sex slave of a dominatrix, or just being totally taken advantage of by aggressive, kinky, and sexually dominant men/women.
    Yes - as I think it probably patently obvious from my other answers, I like to fantasize about being the submissive partner. Pain is a big no-no turnoff though.

  3. Nurse/patient or nurse/doctor
    No.

  4. Surreptitiously turning my partner on in a public setting where we can’t really do anything about it.
    Yes. The only one on this list that I’ve actually done in real life actually. :smiley:

  5. Being a "Pet"
    Surprisingly enough, no.

One I’m surprised I haven’t seen mentioned, at least not explicitly, is the traditional “rape” scenario. (It’s not a wish to actually be raped, it’s a domination thing.)

My favorite would be the whole “forbidden” thing. A student and a teacher, a patient and a doctor, a teenager and a much older man, even a young girl and a (completely non-existent in real life) step-brother, guardian, or other not-too-icky relative.

And lastly, the “forced to have sex by outside forces” - i.e., undercover cop forced to molest helpless captive in order to keep his cover, captured by aliens who want to see how humans mate, etc.

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Well, if that’s where your fancies stray too :D.

  1. Captured by pirates! [And, if so, were you playing a pirate or a captive in the fantasy?]
    Never thought about pirates per se (other than Johnny Depp) but catured by somebody, yup.

  2. Student getting ‘private tutoring’ from teacher. [Were you student or teacher?]
    Yes, student.

  3. Mate swapping
    Not swapping exactly…mutiple people perhaps.

  4. Starring in a porn movie
    Maybe put on display somewhere. But the idea of an actually record that could turn up anywhere bothers me.

  5. ‘Gothic mansion’ type settings
    Meh.

  6. Boss/secretary discipline [Were you boss or secretary? And who was being disciplined?]
    Well since Secretary is one of my favourite movies…

  7. ‘Fan Fic’ type things: like, you as Superman, or Xena, or a Dragon rider
    nope

  8. Getting caught ‘passing’ as the other sex (not necessarily transexual/transvestite, maybe you’re trying to escape something by disguising yourself.)
    No. Particularly as I’d make a funny looking man.

  9. Being the sex slave of a dominatrix, or just being totally taken advantage of by aggressive, kinky, and sexually dominant men/women.
    Absolutely.

  10. Nurse/patient or nurse/doctor
    Well, doctor/patient.

Very true.

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Oh Og yes. (I know there were others in the list, but now you know where my interests lie.)

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Oh, I realize that, and it was not my intent to imply otherwise. I just wanted to say that I’M not like that, but I fully understand that some BDSM practitioners are probably like that, and a good deal aren’t.

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probably my nastiest fantasy that i would never tell anyone in real life is to watch a female control (as in BD) her sister…

oh and gags–HUGE turn on

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  1. Captured by pirates! [And, if so, were you playing a pirate or a captive in the fantasy?]
    No.

  2. Student getting ‘private tutoring’ from teacher. [Were you student or teacher?]
    Yes. Student.

  3. Mate swapping
    Doubtful. In theory, it’s not a bad idea but in practice, I’d wind up hating it.

  4. Starring in a porn movie
    Nope. Way too shy.

  5. ’Gothic mansion’ type settings
    Doesn’t do anything for me by itself. It’s about the partner, not the setting.

  6. Boss/secretary discipline [Were you boss or secretary? And who was being disciplined?]
    Not really.

7)** ‘Fan Fic’ type things: like, you as Superman, or Xena, or a Dragon rider**
Nope. Roleplaying does nothing for me.

  1. Getting caught ‘passing’ as the other sex (not necessarily transexual/transvestite, maybe you’re trying to escape something by disguising yourself.)
    Not at all.

  2. Being the sex slave of a dominatrix, or just being totally taken advantage of by aggressive, kinky, and sexually dominant men/women.
    Maybe but probably not. Being physically dominated just pushes the wrong buttons in me.

  3. Nurse/patient or nurse/doctor
    Eh. Not really.

  4. Surreptitiously turning my partner on in a public setting where we can’t really do anything about it.
    Yes, yes, yes. Very much so.

  5. Being a "Pet"
    No. Never.

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I’m a 26-year-old bisexual female and my fantasies are rarely this simple, but some definitely appeal and have been part of my thoughts.

  1. Captured by pirates! [And, if so, were you playing a pirate or a captive in the fantasy?]
    I’ve it both ways, most often as the pirate.

  2. Student getting ‘private tutoring’ from teacher. [Were you student or teacher?]
    Always the teacher, which is amusing, as this is not a role I enjoy in real life.

  3. Mate swapping
    A few times, in the context of something I’m writing, but not a big turn-on for me.

  4. Starring in a porn movie
    Yes. But not nearly as often as directing one.

  5. ‘Gothic mansion’ type settings
    Nah, doesn’t do it for me.

  6. Boss/secretary discipline [Were you boss or secretary? And who was being disciplined?]
    Boss. (Anyone noticing a theme here?)

  7. ‘Fan Fic’ type things: like, you as Superman, or Xena, or a Dragon rider
    Yes, along fantasy-novel lines.

  8. Getting caught ‘passing’ as the other sex (not necessarily transexual/transvestite, maybe you’re trying to escape something by disguising yourself.)
    No.

  9. Being the sex slave of a dominatrix, or just being totally taken advantage of by aggressive, kinky, and sexually dominant men/women.
    No, but I am the one doing the dominating.

  10. Nurse/patient or nurse/doctor
    No.

  11. Surreptitiously turning my partner on in a public setting where we can’t really do anything about it.
    Yes, and have done this IRL too.

  12. Being a “Pet”
    No, not really.

The number one fantasy for me is having a group of men and women who do whatever I ask them to do, in whatever combinations. This may include me as well, but I’m often just looking on and directing the action.

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Hm, I dont fantasy situations per se…I fantasize about particular people.

I know I have a short list of men I wouldn’t throw out of bed for eating crackers, and a few I woul d probably supply the crackers :smiley:

Anybody else think Till Lindemann of Rammstein is worth a tumble?

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See “Location” above to get an idea of my utmost sexual fantasy…

(That’s Kidman and Watts.)

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I would NEVER reveal my fantasies on the Web. NEVER!

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Risha, iampunha, Aesiron, & Harimad-sol: Wow, I had no idea that “Surreptitiously turning my partner on in a public setting where we can’t really do anything about it” would be popular! It’s definitely the fantasy that recurs most often for me. In fact, I even fantasize about simply meeting someone I can share that fantasy with. {grin} I am very jealous of those of you who have been able to act it out IRL! :slight_smile: