Sexual Heali...YOW!

Okay. Something really, really odd happened to me this morning while having sex with my husband. Everything was going fine, feeling good… he was on top, when suddenly, it felt like he hit… something. A speed bump! I have no idea. It was not my uterus. It felt more like he entered at a bad angle of something, and hit the inner wall about two inches in a touch too roughly. Now, you know, this is something that can and does happen on occasion, a little, minor pain during sex is usually expected (I don’t mean sharp, shooting pains, I mean the minor bumps, shoves, chafing, or “oops slipped out and bumped into your thigh while pushing too hard” moments that you laugh off or just ignore and continue). Anyway, this bump felt like any other minor sexual accident I’ve had in my life, with my husband or with past boyfriends. But one thing made this one stand out.

I began to sob uncontrollably.

I mean, I could not help it. It was instant, just great, gulping sobs. Talk about a mood killer! My husband freaked out, thought he had hurt me terribly, apologised profusely, and, like me, was greatly confused. It took me several moments to calm down and be able to tell my husband that it didn’t hurt, I wasn’t in pain. He was still dubious. After I was able to get the tears and the gasping sobs under control, I just began to laugh. That wasn’t triggered, that was how I wanted to react from the beginning. I tried so hard to explain to my husband that he must have hit some kind of nerve. Poor guy. I know that must have spooked him a bit. It was all intensely bizarre.

Anyway, I’m otherwise healthy, just had my yearly checkup down there and there was nothing wrong, and of course, I checked myself to make sure, and nothing feels wrong, either. You know, no weird bumps. So I’m sure he just entered at a bad angle and hit the side wall. I’m in no physical pain at all, and even while I was crying, there was no pain. Emotional health is at an all time high - I’m not stressed out about anything right now, my family is healthy and happy, I’m not without anything, I’m not depressed right now (I am bi-polar, though, but I’ve been excellent for a while now), I’ve never felt “dirty” about sex or my body (I am a tiny bit uncomfortable with my body shape right now, but it’s not a huge deal and is being worked on). I don’t cry very often, but I don’t feel the need to, so it’s not being bottled up inside. I do cry on occasion, if the circumstance elicits such a reaction. Sex is not usually one of those circumstances. (And before anyone says it, no, it’s not because he’s just that bad of a lover! :smiley: )

What gets to me is how I lost complete control over everything. My face contorted into that awful sob-face, my mouth opened up and I just bawled, even making that bawling sound: “BWA WAHA HAAAAAAAAAAAH!” All I could do was cover my face with my hands. My whole body got into it, and shook with huge, sobbing spasms. I was crying as if the world was ending. Unbelievable.

Has anything really weird like this happened to anyone else during sex? Does anyone know the cause? This is the first time this has ever happened to me in my nine years of active sex life. What the hell happened??

Similar reactions have been reported by women who have had an ovary bumped during intercourse.

QtM, MD

Dang. You gotta have some serious pipe to be able to do that!

No you don’t. It’s easy to palpate the ovaries during a pelvic exam, just using one’s hands.

Gotcha.

Note to self: Never tell a medical related joke around a doctor.

Wow, I had no idea. I didn’t think it was too far in, but if, as you mention, one can hit them using their hands, that’s probably what happened. It did happen very fast.

What is it, exactly, that causes this reaction? A nerve of some sort? Or is it still all very enigmatic? I can see the unwillingness of many women to discuss this sort of thing… on the other hand, I can see why someone would tell this to their doctor, because it is so alarming to lose complete control of oneself. I mean, sure, throes of passion are one thing, but this was startling.

I keep thinking of Bree on Desperate Housewives when she blurted out at the dinner table that her husband Rex cries during intercourse. It wasn’t the first time I’d heard that - do men experience something similar? Or is that more of a psychological thing for them?

(Humblest apologies for any terminology I get incorrect, as I am regrettably ignorant in most proper scientific terms for many, many things. I come here to learn, and any corrections are welcome and appreciated).
Tuckerfan, if one good thing can come out of this situation, it’s your joke about the size of the pipe: that will certainly cheer Mr. Stasaeon up! However, I do worry about any new come-on lines this might evoke: “Hey, baby, do you want to cry tonight?”

This happened to me a few times before my partner and I figured out the best position. He, too, thought I was crying because of something emotional triggered during sex. Nice to know that it’s a physical reaction, and that other people have it too.

So any idea why it happens? Does squishing the ovary squirt out hormones and make you all PMS-ish for a while?

Why? No idea.

Is it not unrealistic that an ovary would be as sensitive to mild trauma as a testicle? The reaction you describe is not too unlike that to a very near miss experienced by those of us with externally-carried gonads.

I, for one, have never wanted to laugh as a result of impact to my testicles, even near miss impact. Folding in half and moaning in pain, yes. Crying, maybe in a moment when I am over the blinding pain, yes. Laughing, not so much.

Who laughed? :confused:

Every once in a while I burst out laughing right after an orgasm. My Guy is used to it by now, and laughs along with me. I have no idea why this happens, but I assume it’s some sort of release of tension.

Oh thank god! You mean I’m not a freak?? :smiley:
I have done this a few times. Laughed so hard I had tears in my eyes. No clue why, just happens.

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My neighbour’s girlfriend does this too.

(thin walls)

Oh, it’s normal?

Thank Og.

I must not have stated it as clearly as I wanted to, then. I didn’t laugh because my ovaries were hit. I laughed because I cried.

I cried because my ovaries were hit.

And so, laughing != having ovaries hit, nor is laughing != getting kicked in the balls.

Crying, yes!

My apologies for not making that clear.

To clarify further, Brainiac, if I read correctly, sounded as though I came across as having laughed because I was hit in the ovaries, which I did not. I cried. And cried. And cried…

Hey, this happened to me once, too! Thanks for enlightening me.