Sexual Orientation

In My Humble Opinion
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Here’s the problem I have though: do we really want to just keep slapping more and more labels on ourselves, putting our preferences or whatever into these narrow little boxes, and taking the meaning out of it all?

I’m all for diversity – I don’t think it’s a good idea for people to become clones of one another. And we all have our little quirks, and nuances, or whatever you call them. But more and more, I keep seeing people coming up with new terms to define themselves, and everyone seems to care more about how they’re different, and special, instead of realizing what they have in common with others, and nobody can relate to each other anymore.

I think that’s why I don’t like identity politics. People are starting to self-marginalize, and we’re getting into segregation again, only everyone’s doing it to themselves.

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Yeah, I’m not without a certain amount of discomfort about that myself, Guinastasia. For now it seems important, though.

I think there’s always a kind of tension between being part of a community (and embracing an identity-in-common) and pushing away from that in order to assert one’s own specific concerns (and explaining how one is unusual within the community).

I promise I’m not about blaming anyone and calling them culprits, in case that helps in any way.

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I don’t see how gender is relevant to approaching your own orientation if your orientation is asexual.