The spoiled child I dealt with was my best friend when I was a kid. She was the youngest of four children and was spoiled rotten. She never had to do chores. Her mother cleaned her room for her. I never seen that girl lift a finger.
I remember her biggest problem with being spoiled was her tendency to be a picky eater. She would say she didn’t like something. Then she would try it at my house and say she liked it and then insist her mother buy the same brand we had. I don’t care what it was. Spaghetti sauce, mac and cheese, cereal etc. I can hear it like it was yesterday her mother calling her for dinner.
Mom: “KAREN, TIME FOR DINNER”
Karen: “WHAT ARE WE HAVING?”
Mom: “PORK CHOPS”
Karen: “I DON’T LIKE PORK CHOPS”
Mom: “WE ARE HAVING MAC AND CHEESE TOO”
Karen: “THE KIND MRS. SOMEUSERNAME HAS?”
Mom: “YEAH”
Karen: “OKAY, I AM COMING”
Ever single day this happened. Sometimes it went like this.
Mom: “KAREN, TIME FOR DINNER”
Karen: “WHAT ARE WE HAVING?”
Mom: “PORK CHOPS”
Karen: “I DON’T LIKE PORK CHOPS”
Mom: “WE ARE HAVING MAC AND CHEESE TOO”
Karen: “THE KIND MRS. SOMEUSERNAME HAS?”
Mom: “YEAH”
Karen: “I AM NOT HUNGRY”
Mom: “KAREN”
Karen: “I AM NOOOOT COMING”
Then Karen’s mom would come out and walk over to where we were playing.
Mom: Karen, it is time for dinner
Karen: I don’t want that stuff
Mom: You said you liked Kraft Mac and Cheese
Karen: Not anymore
Mom: Then you can have cereal or something
Karen: I want chicken noodle soup
Mom: Okay come in when your ready
Every single day!
There were many times I just wished when her mom called her for dinner I would hear “Okay I’m coming”
I think children should do at least some chores. Even if it is only keeping their own room clean.
I had to do chores when I was a kid. Both of my parents worked full time so my brother and I traded dishes during the week and my mother did them on the weekends.
Every weekend we had a chore list to do. Mom would make a list for stuff for us to do and all chores had to be completed before going out to play. The longer we took to do the chores the less playtime we had. We swept, mopped, dusted, cleaned bathrooms, wiped counters etc. She always tried to make them even and fair. At one point she wrote the chore on small slips of paper and had us pick out the slips from a jar, so you did not know what chores you had until you pulled it out. I guess she was trying to make it more fun.
My kids had to do these same type of chores too. The only difference is that I split them up to cover a week so there was not 10 chores to do all on a Saturday. They had all week to get theirs done but come Saturday what ever was left had to be done before play.
By the time my kids turned teenagers they were basically self sufficient. They did all their own laundry. They both knew how to cook and clean. Now they were not making full course meals but they were not going to starve either and they have picked up more along the way. My daughter can make a full meal now with sides. In fact one of my favorites is breaded pork chops. My son is more of packaged dinner sort of cook, but never the less he can feed himself.
My son has left the nest and I am sure his room is a mess. No amount of teaching that boy how to do chores or asking to clean up after himself has every worked. He pays his buddies sister to clean his room for him.
Now my daughter is still at home. I don’t have to give her chores. She always keeps her room clean. If she sees the floor needs swept or the dishes need done she just does them on her own. I rarely have to ask her to pitching and help with cleaning.
Oh and neither of my kids can iron. They never had anything that needed to be ironed and I don’t own anything that needs to be ironed.