Some of us cannot view video at work, so I can only assume she has a camera-person walking backwards a few feet in front of her. Is this correct?
If so, doesn’t this kinda skew what reality is? Are passers-by more or less likely to make asses of themselves when they know they are being filmed? How many average jerks whooped it up for the camera? How many would-be mashers and miscreants saw the camera and thought it best to back away? How many are just idiots who are not burdened with self-awareness?
It’s a hidden camera in a backpack, I think.
The camera was hidden in a backpack of someone walking in front of her. No one should have known they were being filmed.
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Talking to someone is not asserting dominance. Shit, even if one of the guys just really wants to make sexy time and asks her if she’s interested that’s not asserting dominance. It’s unlikely to be successful, but it aint harassment.
She was exposed to some harassment - like the guy walking with her for several minutes. But she over stated her case trying to make a point and in my mind it backfired.
Where did she overstate her case? What did she do wrong? She was an actress hired to walk for 10 hours and be filmed.
Or a man! I bet none of them would have even wished him a nice day …
Here’s my question for the “they’re just paying a compliment!” people: How many random, male, unknown-to-you passersby (i.e. not a cashier) do you pay a compliment on their looks or wish a nice evening in a random day? I’m a tall, broad-shouldered male with a brisk walking pace, and my lifetime number is in the high teens, I’d bet. It just doesn’t happen with any regularity, and let’s not kid ourselves about what the intent of the compliment was. It’s like the Pulp Fiction line: “Would you give a man a foot massage?”
Now, any one individual comment or “good evening” might not have any ill intent, but the collective weight of these attempted interactions would wear on you, to the point where they’d just become noise amongst all the other more severe catcalls and stalking. So if you’re hanging your hat on that, congratulations, you’ve missed the point. There is still an insistence by these men that this woman be available for interaction with men, on their terms. So the only response is to ignore all of them, because you have no idea if this is the “nice” guy that turns out to be hyper-aggressive once he’s given the opening. Now imagine that a huge proportion of men you meet on the street are all trying with varying levels of aggressiveness to talk to you, demanding a piece of your time. And for the people wondering what the effect would be with an unattractive woman: you have missed the point spectacularly.
That’s a fair enough response to being interacted with by an unknown-to-you passerby.
True enough. Why do I owe a stranger anything? And as a large male, I have luxury of being able to ignore just about anyone I don’t know trying to interact with me and whom I don’t want to without being yelled at as “rude”.
I don’t typically compliment anyone unknown to me on their looks, but if I make eye contact with a passerby, male or female, I will typically nod and say “Morning!” or “Hey,” or some other brief set of syllables to acknowledge the humanity we share.
No, that’s untrue. A man who offers a verbal greeting and is ignored, and then ends the encounter, has not insisted on anything. Our general social contract permits a brief verbal greeting without the implication that any additional “interaction,” is needed.
Of course, the video also has examples of men who do precisely as you describe. I contest the inference that ALL of the encounters are like that, though.
Sure, she’s perfectly entitled to ignore them.
Yes, and in the video, several encounters were ignored without anyone yelling “Rude,” weren’t they?
I have a lot of thoughts about this but I don’t wish to feed the troll’s OP.
The OP is calling her rude for ignoring the catcallers.
The OP poisoned the well, yes. But surely the underlying issues can be discussed without needing to draw water from that well?
Well, of course I should have made explicitly clear that the OP’s take on the situation is nonsense. She is neither rude nor polite – she owes no one any interaction whatsoever. She’s just going about her business and isn’t being rude to ignore anyone she doesn’t know.
What I would hope is that someone start a fresh thread and this one be abandoned.
For years now I’ve always felt kind of bad for attractive women walking down the street, especially in summer. They get no peace whatsoever. I’m glad to see this video and the feature on the daily show bringing this to the forefront. It really does need to be corrected. Especially since I’ve NEVER heard of a guy hooking up with a woman from originally catcalling her in the street. In reality, guys do that mostly to impress other guys. They wanna show each other how much they like the ladies
Each individual is not harrassing her, yet she would feel harrassed.
It’s like a bunch of telemarketing calls all in a row, except in person.