I’m a bit upset right now at my bridesmaid. I only have two bridemaids, they are very different, and I told them they could choose their own dresses, but I get to veto if I don’t like it. Well, my best friend had a dress made. She showed me a pattern which I thought was cute, and she showed me the fabrics she chose, which included a sort of toile print in pink and green over a beige background for the skirt. I thought it would be ok since the top of the dress was to be pink.
Then we went shopping not too long ago and she kept saying her dress was beige. This started to really worry me because my wedding dress is champagne colored, it is not remotely white at all. She assured me that it would be fine, that once I saw it I would see that it was OK. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. I figured she would know what was appropriate and what wasn’t - after all she’s been a bride, too.
Well, last night she showed me the dress. It is made entirely out of the beige fabric. There is no pink fabric whatsoever. It does have the pink and green print but the overall impression is that it is beige! I am pretty upset. She had the dress specially made and is now upset with me because I don’t like it and she can tell I don’t like it.
Well, I’m the one who trusted her so I’m not totally innocent in this mess. But the dress looks quite different than the dress she originally intended and that I OK’d. I am really pissed off at her! She knows what my dress looks like! How could she possibly think it is appropriate to wear a beige dress? I am astonished that it seems to have not even crossed her mind. At this point it is basically too late for her to get another dress. I could make her get a new one, but it would put a serious rift between us and that’s the last thing I want because the wedding is in twelve days. I know I’m just going to have to grin and bear it, but I am aghast that it even had to come to this. Am I nuts? I have gotten to the point of planning where my brain is going in five directions at once, so I know I need to try and keep things in perspective. I am going to have my other bridesmaid stand between us, to separate us so we don’t blend together. I have 12 days to get over this. But I can’t believe she did it in the first place. What was she thinking???
Am I a bridezilla? Or is she being extremely insensitive?