Should I accept defeat? (daughter's school placement)long

[Hello_Again]

@Sue_Duhnym

BTW, it’s the perfect opportunity for the, “I love you, believe in you and support you, that’s why I went to bat for you. If you mess up this opportunity, the one YOU wanted, I will be mighty disappointed,” speech. Go gloat to her, you deserve it.

Please don’t do this. I attended a specialized school myself, and while it was an exhilarating experience, when you throw together the best of the best by competitive examination, what you get are a ton of very good, very competitive kids. She will be swimming with the big fish now, and some of those kids will run laps around her, guaranteed. It’s already a pressure cooker without mom informing you how disappointed she’ll be if (kid will hear WHEN) you fuck up.

[Shodan]

Congrats to you and your husband, Nzinga, for being good and involved parents. When your child knows you got her back, they will go far. And double congrats to your daughter, for getting into such a great school!

Now a nice hand-written note to everyone you dealt with. “Nobody could fix this until you - thank you so much!” and so on.

And again and again - congratulations to your daughter. She’s gonna rock that school.

Regards,
Shodan

[Nzinga_Seated]

You all are great. I feel like such a square for saying this, but I am really lucky to have a messageboard community like this one.

The best part of this whole experience has been the way my daughter is responding to it all. She has shown me such great character. I tried to do most of the fighting in secret (so as not to get her hopes up and down) but she has told me that she knew I wasn’t giving up.

I have appreciated the posts in this thread so much. I received a PM with someone going through their own school placement drama with their kid…I told her the same thing I will tell anyone in my position from now on…

Read this thread for all the good advice, and print Shodan’s post out and tape it to your fridge! It’s priceless!

[MsWhatsit]

@Nzinga_Seated

The best part of this whole experience has been the way my daughter is responding to it all. She has shown me such great character. I tried to do most of the fighting in secret (so as not to get her hopes up and down) but she has told me that she knew I wasn’t giving up.

Kids always know.

Man, I am just so thrilled for you. And her! I bet she has an amazing experience there.

[ZipperJJ]

Setting my clock for 4 years from now when your daughter emerges as a world-class violinist/poet.

The world is waiting

[ratatoskK]

YAY!!!

[Sue_Duhnym]

@Hello_Again

Please don’t do this. I attended a specialized school myself, and while it was an exhilarating experience, when you throw together the best of the best by competitive examination, what you get are a ton of very good, very competitive kids. She will be swimming with the big fish now, and some of those kids will run laps around her, guaranteed. It’s already a pressure cooker without mom informing you how disappointed she’ll be if (kid will hear WHEN) you fuck up.

Well to be fair, I did tell her, if she was feeling overwhelmed, that failing her religion class was OK by me and that I was fine with her dropping honors English if need be (she wants to be an engineer). Anyway, end of hijack. This is a feel-good thread and I don’t feel-good sullying it.