Did you read my post? 
To the max?:dubious:
I love you Bro Namath.
It happens. I used to be really good friends with this guy I worked with. We were ok friends when we worked together, hanging out for lunch or drinks after work. But we became really good friends when I was laid off a few years ago. We are about the same age (mid to late 30s) and between his recent divorce and me hating my new job, we sort of regressed into a sort of 20 something dumbass mentality. Playing a lot of videogames, up late drinking and going to stripclubs and whatnot. Even after he got married, we were still very close as we could now double date with my girlfriend.
But, over the past 18 months or so, we’ve sort of drifted apart. A combination of him moving out of the city, the fact that our SOs don’t really have much in common, a desire on both our parts to scale back the partying, even a change in our job situations have altered the dynamic of the relationship. There is also the fact that he is a serial cheater with whatever woman he is with, including his current wife. Makes it awkward because we can’t really double date. And he has a bit of a tendency to “hold court” wherever we go, if you know what I mean. And we always go to the same freakin spots.
We’re still friends and hang out time to time, but now instead of being BFFs it’s more like a pool of us just sort of meet up randomly at our usual spots whenever.
Bottom line is we basically just sort of exhausted the relationship. Sort of like a game you really liked that you look back fondly on and might play from time to time, but you just don’t have that excitement anymore.
I will usually make two or three attempts at communication. If I don’t get a response, I drop the person, or assume they’ve dropped me. I’ve had a few internet/RL friends who seemed to be my friends when they needed emotional support (one’s mother was dying, for example). After the grief eased, they stopped communicating. I guess I was no longer needed.
StG
In your case it’s easy, you’ll just have to kill his father
I like reading msmith’s posts on women and dating and stuff - it’s a fascinating look into a completely different world. 
Update?
Also, I would like to say that inviting somebody to come hear your band play isn’t a token of friendship. My best friend had a gig in a club, and he called everybody that he knew in High School, 30 plus years earlier, whom he had never even seen in the ensuing period, to come see him play. Nuff said, methinks.
Best wishes,
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What was that word you used? … “pathetic”…
Yup, that’s it. Move on.