I think 14 is old enough to make their own choices with clothing, in particular underwear. I’ve never considered thongs ‘sexy’ as they aren’t flattering (IMO). No one saw my underwear anyway until I was almost 20.
VPL is a big problem for me. I have a proportionately large, fat ass, and it’s near impossible to buy underwear that fits it without digging in (as I also have very small hips, and I can’t size up because then I have material bagging elsewhere and bunched up in my crotch).
As for why it’s a ‘big deal’ - it can look pretty awkward IMO, and when your ass is already something people notice and comment on, sometimes you don’t want to draw more attention to it.
Have you ever worn a thong? Because I have never worn one that slid around. Would probably have to buy one 2 sizes too big and then grab both ends and vigorously floss for this to happen. They do not move back and forth any more that regular panties, although it’s true for most they have more direct contact with your butthole (not the case for me however).
Thank you. I was good and read the whole thread before posting, but I’ve been bursting with the whole “WTF, would you tell your SON what sort of underwear is appropriate, let alone expect him to ask your permission to wear it?” and I can’t believe it took so long for someone to point that out.
Congratulations on reinforcing the idea that no girl ever makes any decision that isn’t fundamentally about boys. :rolleyes:
Oh, and thongs do not cause urinary tract infections, or yeast infections, or any sort of infections, provided that they are of a breathable material and fit correctly. Just like any other underwear. Working for a doctor does not make one a doctor, you can’t become one through osmosis.
Let? Ha. This reminds me a bit of a friend whose parents wouldn’t let her buy tampons. A question of comfort, totally personal and, yes, creepy.
I wore thongs throughout my teens. And 5-inch heels. And tons of shiny, short clothing that made me look like a prostitute. Meanwhile I was getting good grades and pretty virginal. I don’t even think guys crossed my mind when I dressed up – it was definitely for my girlfriends, and maybe partly a result of some lingering Barbie doll dress-up fantasies.
And Diana, it only occurred to me after a male poster mentioned boxers and another poster responded that it wasn’t quite the same thing. Granted, men aren’t really sporting thongs either, but we do tend to assume that male underwear is more utilitarian and female underwear is cute. Even when posters point out practical reasons for choosing their underwear.
Oh, awful. Have you read or seen Towelhead? The main character (whose parents really need to be taken out back and whipped with Dr. Spock’s book) gets her period and her father tells her that tampons are just for married ladies. At one point she acquires a tampon and flushes it down the toilet–when it backs up her father screams at her and locks her out of the house for doing it. She ends up wearing tampons but doing it totally secretly. It sounds so creepy.
it could be worse, she could be running around commando…I have had a few students with the low rise jeans showing several inches of ass crack.
and on that note I only got the slut vibe from one of them.
MY advice? Let the girl have her fancy underwear BUT warn her that, if you EVER see it above her jean waistline, it will disappear faster than a sneeze through a screen door.
Thats because girl underwear is inherently more sexy than guy underwear. But that applies to ALL girls underwear, except the inherently unsexy stuff, where pretty much all guy underwear is just inherentl unsexy.
Sigh. No, I don’t. You see, you notice VTL and assume that all the women sporting it are ALL the women wearing thongs. They’re not, and it’s silly to assume so. Do you presume that all women who don’t have VPL of any sort are going commando?
Wow. Who knew grown women could get so uptight about thongs? Let’s try not to break the rolleyes smiley…
And yes, people talk about teenage boys’ underwear *all * the time, and how they wear their pants, so let’s not pretend that the poor teenaged girls are so maligned.
But even when women are saying that their thongs are not about being sexy but about hiding VPL, people are still saying they’re sexy. And I’m sure a lot of people would classify most “normal looking” underwear that’s for women as sexier than boxers or briefs. And I can’t imagine any dopers getting upset about their sons wearing “sexy” underwear.
It’s because they are sexy. I think that all the people saying “oh, she wants a thong because it’s comfortable” are kidding themselves, even if thongs are indeed more comfortable. And sons typically don’t wear sexy underwear. Daughters are given lectures when they’re caught having sex, sons are given high fives. Yes, it’s sexist, but I didn’t see you in the dating threads mentioning that it’s sexist for guys to pay for dates, even in an environment where half the girls I’ve dated have more money than I do.
Well let me know when the next one of those threads is on, because I will be happy to agree that the expectation the man should pay for the date is sexist. I have ether treated or gone dutch on every date I’ve been on (until years into a relationship), and I went 50/50 on my engagement ring (he hasn’t chosen his ring yet, but we’ll share the cost of that too).
In what context though? In the context of “it’s inappropriate that young men are walking around with their pants around their thighs and five inches of boxers showing?” Are you really trying to equivocate between what is being intentionally shown by young guys adopting that particular fashion with the line of thought rolled out in this thread that thongs are inherently sexy, and inappropriately sexy for a 14 year old in and of themselves, even if no one sees them?
And you know this because you know this girl?
I hope you’re not dating girls. And really, are we going to the “you can’t complain about this sexism unless you’re on the front lines complaining about every single other sexism too” thing? Really?
Nope. I’m assuming it because of the girls I do know.
I’m only 20. I still refer to quite a few of the women I date as girls and quite a few of the women I date still refer to men as boys.
Absolutely not. I was implying that the idea of girls wearing sexy clothing where boys don’t is as indoctrinated into us as the idea of boys paying for dates. Fathers will never have to chastise their sons for dressing sexily because a.) Most boys won’t dress in scanty, sexually provocative clothing to begin with because b.) It’s expected that girls are the ones that fulfill that role.