Exchange matchmaker for HR and have the next level of 3 or 4 people very enthusiastic and diligent about meeting the candidate and you have more or less described the structure of dating in cultures of arranged marriage.
So if, today, you were to go on a first date, you would ask your potential partner if they were trans or not within the first minutes of the conversation? :dubious:
If you did that to me that would be a dealbreaker - if I’m looking for romance or even a friendly conversation, leading with an interrogation would show me you’re not the sort of interaction I’m looking for.
However I can see it coming up pretty soon after the ice has been reasonably broken, perhaps even before the first date is set up.
That’s a good question. Now I got some googling to do.
I would have asked that and expected an answer to the question (and a number of others) before even agreeing to meet with the person.
I think each penis should have its own independent account on the dating site, that is, if penises are indeed such an important and deciding factor in all of this.
By doing that you’re also going to be selecting for other people who think this is a reasonable sort of thing to do before agreeing to meet; because the others will get annoyed, or offended, or worried that you’ll turn out to be overcontrolling, or just decide they don’t want to bother with all that before meeting for coffee, and they’ll bow out.
That might quite possibly be a good idea for both of you; but I suspect it’s going to narrow your pool of potential dates pretty sharply. If having or not having the sort of personality which tries to check for all possible dealbreakers before meeting is itself one of your dealbreakers, it may be worth it. If that isn’t one of them, however, you’d be potentially missing out on meeting whoever you’re looking for.