CanvasShoes, you are one of the last people that I would consider bigoted or close-minded. I don’t even think you are close-minded toward what some people describe as “the PC patrol.”
Not knowing about other people’s preferences is no great sin. And in this case the preference for the word Asian seems at this point to be largely a scholarly issue. I don’t think that the word Oriental is seen as a slur, but I do think that we are in the process of change and that possibly it will be seen as a slur at some point in the future.
The word exotic has connotations that I had not thought about before and I don’t know first hand how it is perceived by different groups. I do wonder if there is a corresponding word for Westerners in various Asian languages. There are times when I definitely wouldn’t mind being called exotic – especially when it is followed by the word beauty! At sixty, I will take what I can get.
But I am familiar with the movie stereotypes of Asians that have been mentioned – the demur woman and the evil man. There is another quite opposite stereotype that has shown up more in the past: the “exotic” evil female – often referred to as the “Dragon Lady” and the excited chattering hysterical male that is often a houseboy or a laundry attendant.
So I have mixed feelings about “exotic.”
What I don’t wish to do, as has been implied here by some of the other posters, is to control anyone’s language. We folks who are often described as “PC” are often misunderstood in that way. AFAIK, most of us have no desire for contol. We don’t feel smugly superior. The whole point in speaking up about word choice and the connotations of words is to persuade others to be sensitive to the feelings of others as everyone strives for some measure of equality – not *superiority.
At least that is the way that I feel and that I think many other “PCers” feel when they speak up. But I don’t speak for anyone but myself. I know that I am not, as the OP originally suggested, just “looking for something to bitch about.”
The words I like best are those that inspire, sooth, challenge, encourage, sustain, teach, nurture and create merriment.
Disclaimer: I have yet to determine who posts in my name and curses from time to time. :smack: