>Speaking as a single, straight landlord (and speaking only for myself) I am about as dangerous and creepy as a labrador puppy.
Gee, I had to re-read your name. I thought it was Spook.
I agree that creepier men are less likely to be married and also suspect that being married helps civilize men, but I would guess these are such variable things that they are of little value in deciding how much to trust one particular man.
Are you kidding me? I have tons of friends in relationships that are among the biggest pervs on the planet, “check out that chick’s tits”, “I’d like to take that bitch out back and fuck her in the ass”, these kinds of comments and then even worse. What about married men who cheat on their wives? How do you define creep, are guys who beat their wives/girlfriends creepy?
I don’t know about the creep part, but I find it hilarious that people think single guys are more likely to be perverts. Let’s see, married guys - have plenty more opportunity to get some from their wives, and singles guys just want to get some. Who’s the perv here? Both want to get some. :rolleyes:
And here I was wasting all that time poring through the DSM-IV, when the simple definition of “pervert” is any male who wants to have sex with a woman whom the woman herself does not want to have sex with.
If you’re ever around Spain remind me to take you out to lunch with my grandparents…
So, if George Clooney asks her out, your friend will say “no”, not on grounds of having a pet pig or some such, but on grounds of being single? She’s weird, your friend!
I would like to re-state what I said earlier. It’s not that I think that all single guys are creepy, or that there is a larger population of single creepy guys. I know just as many creepy married guys as single.
My thought process is that as a general rule, I would imagine that being creepy in the first place is what keeps some men single. The creepy married guys have either 1) found an equally creepy woman to marry, 2) hidden their creepiness until it was too late for the woman to back out easily, or 3) become creepy over the years after marriage.
I can’t agree with that idea. I’ve known a few too many creepy married guys. (One of the creepiest guys I’ve ever known was married to a woman I know very well indeed.) My theory is that a lot of creepy guys can still find women willing to marry them, whether it’s just that they are desperate, that they don’t see the creepiness, or whatever–there’s generally someone. And some men become creepy in later life.
I feel like I’m losing my mind reading this. Lets all use the word “creepy” a little bit more shall we? I have absolutely no idea what makes a person “creepy” anymore and why that would be a reason to not move into a building with this person as a landlord.
Who the fucks searches for an apartment or enters a lease with this much paranoia and suspicion of the landlord? I mean unless the man actually honked my boobs while showing me the apartment it would not even cross my mind to consider whether or not I was safe around him. He’s a landlord. He makes money from NOT honking my boobs so I assume he will exhibit some self control (i mean my boobs ARE pretty awesome)
Yes i mean safety is an issue when someone has keys to your apartment. I’m an unmarried young woman myself. But I just think that if this guy is some sort of pathological sex predator and thats why he is not married, then he probably would not be able to sustain a career as a landlord. He would have already been in trouble for it or there would be NO women in the building at all. But worrying about your safety with your own landlord is really not an issue of single or married but an issue of whether or not…he’s a criminal or fucking nuts. If he has any tenants at all I would rule this out.
Maybe the men arent creepy or pervy. Maybe women are fucking paranoid. These are the women who pepper spray the Krishnas. In San Francisco, if I find a decently priced apartment I like the landlord can be single, married, married to two women, married to another man and a goat at the same time, anything short of killing santa claus i think is fine.
In San Francisco, if you can find a decently priced apartment, you should just be ok with the Santa thing. I mean, it’s worth it, because those don’t come along every day.
I’ve been single all my life, and the only people who have a problem with that are married women.
When I meet a married couple, as I have recently at a wedding, the woman usually says something like " You’ve never been married? Why not? I just can’t
imagine that."
As soon as she is out of earshot, her husband says something like " You’ve never been married? Right on, dude. I wish I never got married."
I don’t mean to take the scorn out of your sarcasm, but I think you bring up a good point; creepiness is in the eye of the beholder and perversion is only strap-on deep.
The same guys who seem nice in one situation may seem pervy in another. Every single man in the world who is over sixteen and who has had sex with more than one person has been called creepy and he probably was at the time.
Calling someone creepy is like calling someone an asshole. The distinction is not with the married or unmarried individual, it is with the woman who perceives, accurately or not, the intentions of the man.